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I'd like to know what you all think God think about rape. What does he think about the rapist? The person who has been raped? Is it possible to loose your virginity by rape in Gods eyes? If it is, is sex after rape considered adultery? I'm really confused about all this, and would like to know what you all think. I know that no-one can know for sure, only God can, but what do you all think?
God Bless
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Laura, First off welcome to the forum.

I will give you my opinion on your questions.

Rape is horrible and I'm sure God looks at it as such.

I think God would look at the rapist much as he would a murderer, a horrible offender and must look away. The rapist would have a chance to be saved however. That's why Jesus died on the cross for us.

I would have to know the nature and specific circumstances of the "rape" to form a correct opinion. If it was a brutal and completely unprovoked rape then I would think God would not look upon it as losing your virginity.

I don't think "Wedded" sex after rape would be considred adultry, how could it? Unless you are married to the rapist. Again there are not enough facts in your post to form a definite opinion.

Is there something in your life, a loved ones life, or a friends life that happened? If so can we help?

Anyhow, welcome to our excellent forum and I hope you enjoy your stay and membership with us!

God Bless!
 
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I was 'date raped' in that I had a drink someone else brought me which was drugged, and ha sex against my will because I was not in a state where I could know what my will was (it would have been no) on holiday in April last year (2001) and now wanna know how God views what happened, and how he views me, I'm not married, but am looking to the future and if I get married I dont want to be commiting adultery with my husband.
 
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The legal definition of rape is the carnel knowledge of a person with out that person s consent. Adultry is sex with another person other than your spouse after you are married. So God does not hold you responsible for what happened and yoou woould not be an adulteress if you got married. I pray that god will send you peace of mind after this. I don t know what the law is in Great Britan but in some cases here in NY the creep who did that to you could be charged with at least assult.
 
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GIL,
if you lost your virginity as a result of being raped and that is against your will and you do not consent, I don't think God will consider you commiting adultery when you married and have sexy with your husband, for that is your "REAL" husband. As for the rapist, he is the sinner.
However, both you and he can go to heaven, at one simple step. Accept Jesus as your lord and saviour. Jesus died on the cross to wash away ALL sins. ALL.
He will not hold you accountible for the rape, if you are innocent.
 
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I had a drink someone else brought me which was drugged, and ha sex against my will because I was not in a state where I could know what my will was
You were tricked and drugged and my opinion is I'm not sure whether God would consider you a virgin or not, because you did put yourself in a position to be drugged. Purely opinion, but regardless you can or have been forgiven because Jesus died for you. Again I can't say for sure how God views this.

Even though you accepted the drink, I think you are not responsible for this, there is no excuse for this to happen, and the rapist is STILL a rapist.


It's a shame that this tragedy is going on around the world, but I believe as a Christian it is important NOT to put yourself in a position for a tragedy like this to happen. As a Christian you must stay away from Bars, Parties where alcohol is prevelant, even friends who host small get togethers involving alcohol.

I believe Bars and parties featuring alcohol are worldly and of Satan, and as a Christian we must stay away.

I'm really sorry this happened to you and you will be in my prayers.

And I don't think you need to worry about adultry, These events would not be an issue as you are not married yet. So I wouldn't worry about adultry.

God Bless you Laura!
 
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I am so sorry this happened to you, and you need to realize that it wasn't your fault since you were drugged and give it to God. He'll forgive you! I believe that after rape, you are still a virgin if you were before. Forced sex is nothing at the same level of consented sex. You did not let this happen. The guy who drugged you is lost and sick, anyone who does this has to be. God still has wonderful plans for your life, and any Christian man you marry will not hold this against you! Anything inside of marriage is not adultry. Let it go, and stop blaming yourself. Take all the guilt and worry, and lay it down at the foot of the Cross. There is nothing better you can do!
 
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No, GIL,
You did not sin by being raped. I belive that the person who did this to you has a large payment to make. Have you reported this incident to the police? He should definintely be jailed.
In the mean time, thee is nothing you did wrong. God still loves you and always will. Any Christian husband worth his salt would be perfectly understanding about this, also.

God Bless you and be strong in the Lord. He will strengthen you.
 
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If it is, is sex after rape considered adultery?
As far as adultry is concerned:
You would not be committing adultry, you weren't even married to the rapist. Even if you willingly have sex (which it appears you didn't) before marriage (a sin), you are not bound to be with that person forever.
 
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I was 'date raped' in that I had a drink someone else brought me which was drugged, and ha sex against my will because I was not in a state where I could know what my will was (it would have been no) on holiday in April last year (2001) and now wanna know how God views what happened, and how he views me, I'm not married, but am looking to the future and if I get married I dont want to be commiting adultery with my husband.


G.I.L,

You asked how God views you. I can guarantee He loves you. God's love is not so shallow that it will stop because something awful happens. His love is stronger than any love we know. And He will never leave us or stop loving us.

What happened was NOT your fault. You didnt know the man was going to drug you.
I have to agree with what some have said. I believe you are still considered a virgin in God's eyes. And it would NOT be considered adultery when you get married.

You have absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of. I cannot stress this enough.

If you havent done so, you need to seek Christian counseling for the emotions and thoughts that are raging inside of you.

I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you it will be alright. But I cant. What I can do is pray for you, and I will everyday.

If you ever need to talk to someone please feel free to PM me, or email me.

(((((((G.I.L.)))))))
 
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Thanx everyone for the replies, I now have ansvers to what were unanswered questions that were causeing me to worry. Thanx also to anyone who said they'd pray for me...I know I need God's help to get through this. I havn't reported it to the police because I know that if I did and they found him he would be killed bu the guarda sivelle (i think thats how it's spelt) its a spanish police group that only opperates in some areas, one of which is where I got raped. If they don't like the crime, then it doesnt matter about a trial, they will beat the prisioner, in many cases to death. I know what he did to me was wrong, but I don't want to be the cause of death to another person. I'm getting counseling, but not christian, this is because I'm only 14 and I'm pretty sure that there would be a problem with me seeking christian counselin without my parents finding out (they dont know about the rape).
Anyway...Thanx all
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I think Judges 20 sums up God's view on rape pretty well. It is destestable to him and whoever does so will be punished.
As far as God's view on this with regards to you, only you and He know the circumstances so I can't speak on this.
However, I would seek consuling and friends. I would most definately tell your parents, they are still your protectors and would want to help. There may be consequences for you, but those are small when wieghed against holding this back from them and the long term scars that may result.
"Seek first his righteousness..."
 
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G.I.L,

I dont know what kind of relationship you and your parents have, but I would strongly urge you to tell them.

They could be two of the best friends you ever had.

I dont know your reasons for not telling them, but please dont let thoughts of fear hold you back. They are your parents and as such they love you. Please pray about this some more before you decide completely against telling them.

I know what he did to me was wrong, but I don't want to be the cause of death to another person.

Dear one, you wouldnt be the cause of his death. He would be.
He is the one who chose to violate you, to rape you. Therefore HE is the one who also chose to suffer the consequences of his crime. This is another area I would urge you to pray about, before deciding not to tell the authorities.

My prayers are with you.
 
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:( My heart goes out to you Laura...

I'm 14 as well, and I can only imagine how rough this has to be for you!

I'm 18 and I can't imagine!! You have the strength of an oak - don't lose touch with the Christians you know...you need Godly support now more than ever...and are your parents Christians? I totally agree that there is a support-system there like none other...

You are in all our prayers, please let us know how you're doing, how you're feeling, how your faith is growing - God bless you!!

Whitney
 
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Laura - I'm keeping you in my prayers.

I have a 13 year old son, and if something traumatic happened to him, I really hope that he would tell me. If your parents love you, I guarantee that as much as this news will pierce their hearts, they would want to know so that they can help you overcome the trauma of this event. They may ask you questions about where you were, with whom, etc., and they may or may not be happy with those answers. But their wish to help you will overcome everything else. And your burdened heart will become lighter by sharing this secret with them. You may even feel somewhat relieved.

You have a very loving spirit and it shows in your concern for the safety of the person that perpetuated this crime. However, your healing needs to be your first concern. You may be able to deal with this better in the long run if you deal with it now, rather than years from now. The fear, pain, frustration, and anger you may be feeling now, could present itself later in your life in ways that are not healthy and may not even understand that your actions/feelings are related to the pain of the rape. Rape can have lasting effects that can even affect the marriage you are concerned about. And someone mentioned pregnancy... Along with the fact, that if you have not thought it about it now, soon or later you may wonder if this person could do this same thing to someone else? These are all issues that your parents would really like to talk with you about, reassure you, and guide you as you go along. I know that these are heavy issues, and are very hard to think about, but I urge you to go to your parents, or your mom, and tell them that you have something important you want to discuss. Tell them you are scared, and fear their reaction, that you are afraid that you may cause them pain, but you need their love, their help, their support. What parent would not respond to that? Please tell them, Laura, and I will continue to pray for your guidance, your healing and your peace. ~kim
 
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I found this in my inbox today. God bless, and you are in my prayers.

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Let God Restore You After Rape
By: Whitney Hopler, Live It Channel editor

Few experiences so dramatically destroy your dignity and sense of trust
as rape does. Many of the rapes suffered by women and men alike are
committed not by strangers but by people they know - often, people they
never imagined would force sex on them. Still others are committed by
people the victims have never met. But no matter what the
circumstances, the pain is the same.

Here are some ways you can seek healing after being raped - or share
with someone you know to help her or him recover from the trauma of
rape:

* Don't blame yourself. No one deserves to be raped, and the
responsibility for the rape rests solely with the person who committed
it. Don't justify the rape or excuse it; acknowledge the wrong done to
you.

* Honestly express your thoughts and feelings about the rape to God.
Know that God cares deeply about your suffering and won't be offended by
any of the tough thoughts and feelings you're experiencing. Invite the
Holy Spirit to come dwell with you in the middle of your pain, and pray
for an awareness of the Spirit's presence with you.

* Remember that grief is a process, so allow yourself to take the time
you need to cry and vent anger in healthy ways (such as by breaking
dishes to release it).

* Ask God to give you a good support system of people to help you as
you recover. Accept help from caring friends and family members, and
consider joining a support group of others who have experienced rape.

* Realize the importance of forgiving the person who raped you. As
difficult as that might seem, it is possible if you rely on God's
strength. It's also crucial to work through the forgiveness process
because not doing so poisons your spirit and blocks your healing.

* Give God the broken pieces of your spirit and your life, and trust
Him to transform them into something new and better. Remember how much
He loves you and have confidence in His power to help you.

* Let God restore your dignity. Ask God to show you how He sees you so
you can see how valuable you are as a person. Read the Bible
frequently, praying for God to renew your mind with His truth.

* Pursue some new activities and make some future plans. Move on past
a feeling of victimization into the new, full life God wants you to
have, one day a time.


Adapted from Beauty Restored: Finding Life and Hope After Date Rape,
copyright 2001 by Me Ra Koh. Published by Regal Books, a division of
Gospel Light, Ventura, Ca., www.regalbooks.com, 1-800-4-GOSPEL.

Me Ra Koh, a date rape survivor, earned a master's degree in teaching
for the purpose of learning to speak to the brokenhearted. She travels
around the United States, teaching writing workshops and speaking to
people about date rape. She and her husband live in Washington State.
 
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