Am I wrong? A Dr. Laura type question...

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Okay, I'm going to give you guys the short version. I have recently been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. It won't kill me, but it can make my life difficult and I may have passed it to my kids. They are 4 and 5 and I won't know if they have it until after puberty. Anyway, I want to avoid steriods and cortisone shots for as long as humanly possible which I can do with vitamin suppliments and a vegetarian diet.

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I do all the cooking in the house. If 3 out of 4 people in this house have to be on vegetarian diets for health and potential health reasons, is it okay for me to stop cooking meat entirely, even though my husband LOVES it? Basically, he'd be able to eat it when he eats out, but never at home.
 

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I think that it would be ok. I think if he wants to eat meat at home he can buy and cook it, but that's up to him. I live with my mom and brother who both have an autoimune disorder called Celiac disease. They can't have a lot of common grains like wheat, rye, barley, adn oats. I don't have this, but I live on their diet most of the time. My mom buys me snack foods and things like that because their diet is really expensive, but other than that, I eat what they eat. Good luck!

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My husband feels strongly about meat. My thing is, I think he should feel strongly about my health. I am the one who does all of the cooking and I don't want to have to cook 2 meals so that he can have a steak. Plus, I really like meat and it will be hard for me to give it up, especially if I have to cook it and smell it. I don't care what he eats when he's with his friends or we are eating out. I'm not doing this for any kind of moral reason, so I'm not going to freak out about him chowing down on our furry friends.

The thing is, I don't know how to cook and I don't want to spend my life eating side dishes, which makes a vegetarian dinner difficult for me. Atleast until I get the hang of it. He hasn't really said much about it, but I don't want to put my foot down, so to speak, if I am totally wrong. What Rachewil15 says makes sense. Afterall, if Brian was an alcoholic, I would never drink around him or have it in the house. If I can't eat something that I love because it is making me sick, doesn't it seem like he shouldn't make me cook it??
 
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A coincidence. I recently went vegetarian, though not for health reasons. I'm the cook, but I've taken to preparing different meals for myself, than for my family. I'm not imposing my choice on them. I realise with you its not a choice, but it won't hurt you to cook meat for your husband, so why not? The choice is yours, of course.

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Not knowing your full situation and what kind of guy your husband is...its really hard to say....if it doesn't cause too much conflict and he's willing to make this one sacrifice for your health than I would say go for it. I've been a vegetarian for a long time now and it does get unpleasant cooking meat after a while. I'll still do it for friends now and then...but, believe me, they are well loved for me to be doing it...its an unpleasant task.
Would you be willing to compromise and cook some meals where meat can be added...such as stir fry? Or you can cook some dishes such as chili, spaghetti and lasagne, where the meat won't be missed or you could add veggie crumbles (fake hamburger...morningstar and boca make very good brands...my meat eating friends love the chili I make with this). Have a heart to heart with your dh and let him know how important this is to you and that your health depends on it...maybe with some reasonable compromises, something can be worked out.

PM me if you would like some recipes.

A good website: www.vegsource.com
 
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Like I said, I haven't really said much to him about it. I wanted to make sure I wasn't totally out to lunch here. Unfortunately, my illness makes it so I am so tired all the time it is a major chore for me to cook one meal, much less two. I just don't want to ask him to do something like this if I'm wrong for even asking. In the future, when I'm used to not eating it, I have no problem with making him a steak with whatever I cook for me, but I have to get used to this first. It is hard to become a vegetarian when you love meat and hate vegetables!!
 
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DuchessDinesOut said:
Okay, I'm going to give you guys the short version. I have recently been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. It won't kill me, but it can make my life difficult and I may have passed it to my kids. They are 4 and 5 and I won't know if they have it until after puberty. Anyway, I want to avoid steriods and cortisone shots for as long as humanly possible which I can do with vitamin suppliments and a vegetarian diet.

Here's the question:

I do all the cooking in the house. If 3 out of 4 people in this house have to be on vegetarian diets for health and potential health reasons, is it okay for me to stop cooking meat entirely, even though my husband LOVES it? Basically, he'd be able to eat it when he eats out, but never at home.
Well...that certainly is a problem. Id say that if your husband wants meat, then he cooks it.
 
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