How many past 50 have hope of finding love again?

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hmmm. . . .I don't think about "finding" love as much as "being" love to others. I trust God and His timing. I tried to do it on MY schedule and (of course) was badly hurt - so I'm learning to trust and listen to God.
In the meantime, my life is so full of love! Maybe not the "romantic" type I think you are referring to, but love nonetheless. Thru some various courses and events I discovered I have a spiritual passion for teens and volunteer as a mentor in various venues. YoungLife (younglife.org) has brought SOOOO much love into my life that there are days I can't believe how blessed I am!

My point is - focus on others instead of yourself. Instead of looking for love, be love.
1 John 4:8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
 
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elle_christian said:
I'm 53 and I have no hope of finding love again, for just as many reasons. Does anyone else feel this way? Does anyone care? If not, how do you get past caring?

I am not past 50 but getting there. However, I do know a few people who found love when they were 50 and older.
 
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There's probably more eligible people around than you think there is. It would be interesting to know the statisitics involved, of how many singles there are by age group, particularly in the older ages. I would guess that the percentages are much greater today than a generation ago.
 
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Sandy-Lou, Thank you for your reply. I agree with what you say. I'm just having a difficult time letting go of what "I" wanted for my life. My strongest desire is what God wants for my life, above all else; but i slip every now and then. After being married over half my life, it sure is difficult being responsible for 'everything' and on a fixed income -- it's even more difficult. And I want to be love -- i like the way you put that.
SandyLou said:
- focus on others instead of yourself. Instead of looking for love, be love.
1 John 4:8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
 
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elle_christian said:
I'm 53 and I have no hope of finding love again, for just as many reasons. Does anyone else feel this way? Does anyone care? If not, how do you get past caring?


STOP USING THE WORD FIFTY. iT IS SELF DESTRUCTIVE AND A PRODUCT OF THE WORLD'S PERCEPTIONS. lOVE , REST, AND PEACE ARE AROUND EVERY CORNER. sOME GUYS ARE ACTUALY WONDERING WHY THEY CAN'T FIND SOMEONE TO SAY hI TO ONCE IN A WHILE THAT HAVE PAID A FEW DUES.
 
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Don't give up, but don't dwell on it either. :thumbsup: Just Believe and Trust that God has someone for you and he's just not ready yet. :) You know these men, well some of them, they take a little longer than the others. Someday - soon - you will be very happy that the men haven't taken an interest yet (they aren't the right one). :prayer:



hockeysistah12 said:
I'm beginning to give up on finding that special someone--and I'm only 45--there is no men who will take an interest in me..
 
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STOP USING THE WORD FIFTY. iT IS SELF DESTRUCTIVE AND A PRODUCT OF THE WORLD'S PERCEPTIONS. lOVE , REST, AND PEACE ARE AROUND EVERY CORNER. sOME GUYS ARE ACTUALY WONDERING WHY THEY CAN'T FIND SOMEONE TO SAY hI TO ONCE IN A WHILE THAT HAVE PAID A FEW DUES.
Good advice, thank you.
 
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elle_christian said:
After being married over half my life, it sure is difficult being responsible for 'everything' and on a fixed income -- it's even more difficult. And I want to be love -- i like the way you put that.

:doh: tell me about it! :doh:
I know what that feels like!
My divorce was finalized 14 years ago. . . and often I feel I'm carrying the weight of the world and 1 paycheck away from homelessness. . . but in all that time I've learned those are the days when I've forgotten to give those burdens to God.
^_^ ^_^
 
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It's been 12 years now since my husband died of a heart attack. I don't think I will ever get used to having to learn to be an auto mechanic, a plumber, a carpenter, and most recently an electrician, (I spliced the electrical cord on my daughters damaged cell phone cord and it worked, yea!). These things I can sometimes do but, they frustrate me.

And yes, I want to strive to be love to others. I love my children, my grandchildren, my brothers and sisters in Christ, and those who don't know Him.:crossrc: However, at the same time out of His mercy and grace, I pray that God once again, in His time and way, might grant me the blessing of a wonderful husband to love.

I know God's grace is sufficient to do without that but, at the same time I continue to hope for what I can in no way see with my eyes. :)
 
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While I am not yet 50, my mom sure is past it. She is 78. She had one boyfriend from 1991 to 1996, but the Lord took him home. Now, she is dating his brother. So far they have been to Italy, Paris, London, and currently they are planning a trip to San Francisco.

I tease her because ever since mydivorce, mylovelife has been dismal. I ask her if I am going to have to wait 30 years before I get to have fun and be loved again. :D
 
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elle_christian said:
It would be interesting to know. Wonder where that kind of information is to be found. ;)

According to http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml

Percentage of population that is married: 59% (down from 62% in 1990, 72% in 1970)
Percentage of population that has never married: 24%
Percentage of population that is divorced: 10% (up from 8% in 1990, 6% in 1970)
Number of married couples (2000): 56,497,000
Number of unmarried couples living together: 5.5 million
Percentage of unmarried couples living together that are male-female unions: 89%

A few other statitistics it does not give, but you can guess at them. If my math is correct, if there are 56,497,000 couples, that involves 112,994,000 people. If that's 59% of the population, then it is assuming an adult population of about 192,000,000..the 2000 census of the US was 281.4 million. If 24% have never married of the adult population, that's about 46 million. Of the 46 million, that leaves about 35 million adults that are unmarried and are not living together.
 
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elle_christian said:
I'm 53 and I have no hope of finding love again, for just as many reasons. Does anyone else feel this way? Does anyone care? If not, how do you get past caring?

When you say "finding love", are you referring to finding someone for you to love, or finding someone to love you? I'm assuming both, since I can do either one quite easily, but not both together. If it were important to me to have a relationship, I would expand the circle of people I loved until it included someone who loved me. After all, there are societies where people don't even get to choose their own spouse, yet they love each other.
 
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I am 50 and have not found love PERIOD! One guy on a forum I am in stated if you are over 50 God wants you single-did not enjoy hearing it! It is just hard finding someone halfway attractive, good job, not abusive, no substance abuse (everything the last guy I dated was not). Some of us just don't have any luck! ps-STILL a virgin also!!:o
 
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I am a 66 year old widow. I am a Christian women and believe that there is a Christian man out there that is praying for God Almighty to send him a good, God fearing and Christian woman to love and be loved by, to trust and be trusted by, to honor and be honor by, and to support and be supported by. I am praying that same prayer. I am a good, sincere, honorable, trusting, caring, understanding, forgiving, devoted, dedicated, and respectful woman. I believe in due time that God will send that special man into my life and we will put God first in:preach::clap::) our lives and live out our lives loving each other and serving God.
 
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I am a 66 year old widow. I am a Christian women and believe that there is a Christian man out there that is praying for God Almighty to send him a good, God fearing and Christian woman to love and be loved by, to trust and be trusted by, to honor and be honor by, and to support and be supported by. I am praying that same prayer. I am a good, sincere, honorable, trusting, caring, understanding, forgiving, devoted, dedicated, and respectful woman. I believe in due time that God will send that special man into my life and we will put God first in:preach::clap::) our lives and live out our lives loving each other and serving God.

Praying for you :groupray: in fact our whole Angel team will be praying for you this night:groupray:
 
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I am 50 and have not found love PERIOD! One guy on a forum I am in stated if you are over 50 God wants you single-did not enjoy hearing it! It is just hard finding someone halfway attractive, good job, not abusive, no substance abuse (everything the last guy I dated was not). Some of us just don't have any luck! ps-STILL a virgin also!!:o
Im praying for you!! So are all the CF Angels!!:groupray:
 
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