Do you get tired of meeting people?

Stanfi

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Something I have been thinking about lately. Do you ever get tired of meeting people. Going throught the same spill of getting to know each other over and over. Asking him/her what they do, where the went to school, what they like to do for fun.. Answering them same questions about yourself. Do you ever feel like a broken record??? I know at times I do. Then sometimes you can't get track of what you have told someone about you and what you haven't.
 

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Yes,

I feel especially this way whenever I lose friends and then gain some new ones. In fact, I don't really want to make new friends because of the fact that the introduction part is so tiresome.

Sometimes, I wish I could just write some info up to assemble a profile card and hand it out instead.
 
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I know what you mean... but i've found ways around it becoming too boring.. You just gotta keep it interesting. If you're sick of asking the same questions, ask new ones... in fact, if you are a little weird/off the wall... that can tend to work out better.

I've applied this to my life, and have scored more dates in the last several months just because the others thought I was too interesting not to see again.

I'd just bust out with some random quirky story about me of when I was 9 and I had a porcelain ET doll that I made a little sign for it to hold that said "I'm Matt's Friend" and used to put it in my window before I left for school, so when I came home... my friend was waiting for me. (or some other inane story, that was interesting because it was different than normal convo)

Instead of asking about their families, or where they went to school... ask them if they have any fetishes that they obsess about...

I remember when I first met my current girlfriend.... we were just chit-chatting, and out of nowhere I just said "I like pudding" ... she laughed at the randomness of that comment, and it sparked several more hours of entertaining conversation.

So if you are sick of getting the same answers to the same questions, ask new ones. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting a different result.
 
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Yah, that's why I slowed down meeting so many guys. In college I would meet a new guy every weekend and start talking to him. It got confusing and really wasn't fair. So, I slowed it down so that I'm not getting to know three guys at a time lol. I think it's better to just get to know a lot of guys as friends and go to group activities and things like that. That way you don't end up asking those questions as much, you sort figure them out after hanging out with someone for awhile.
 
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Yes. Sometimes I feel like it would be easier if I had a pre-prepared resume with all that information listed on it. I don't think it stems from the sole fact of I'm tired of meeting new people, but moreso that I'm tired of dating and going through the same song like scratch CD.

This is one of the many reasons why I'm going on "hiatus" for now.
 
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I don't not enjoy meeting new people, but I do get tired of the same uninteresting questions that can be asked, especially from guys, like a list of favorites, for instance. I dunno why really...because I guess that's not really what I'm all about. Who really cares about what kinda music I'm into? It doesn't really make me the person I am. But I guess if it must be done it must be done. I do feel like a broken record sometimes, but yah...what I try to do now is just make my answers interesting enough to make up for the uninteresting questions.
 
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i get tired of meeting people sometimes too, which is evidenced by the fact that at the youth group i currently go to, I only made an effort to talk to the first 20 people I met. :) There are probably about 60 kids there total, but its too much to ask me to meet and talk to all of them.

I think us introverts can only take so much before our social engine gets a little tired.
 
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boilerblues said:
I enjoy meeting new people, but for a while I need to work on getting to know people on a deeper level. A lot of my relationships are becoming a mile wide and an inch deep, need to work on depth for a while.


I totally I agree with this! I love meeting new people, but feel and have felt, like most of my friendships are so surface level. I really don't know people that well. It takes so much time and work to really get to know someone. I am not super outgoing when it comes to getting to know people either, so sometimes it almost takes me a lot of energy, courage I guess you could say, to have an in-depth conversation. This is one thing i have been praying that God will help me work on because I really do desire to build stronger and deeper friendships, not just be surface-level with people. I have been struggling with it quite a bit this school year, especially when I see some of my friends just in passing or maybe one every other week.... ugh.
 
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I don't get 'tired' of meeting new people, I get tired of being 'met' with the intention of relationships. I think it gets boring and a bit much when you start seeing every meeting as a potential relationship. There are the people whom I'll meet and get along with great and will make plans to hang out and stuff, but there's also the other side of the spectrum that I just don't click with. With either situation, if I look at it with the intentions of strictly relationship-potential, I'll get bored and it'll become a drag if one doesn't work out after another.

~Katty
 
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You could try one method: treat everyone like you've known them for a thousand years. Get deep into conversation as steadily as possible. Pick a topic that you know will cause a person to forego the pleasentries and get right into the heart of action. Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn't. It's risky, but hey risk is part of the game.
 
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Yes, sometimes I lose track on what I've said and the questions that have been asked and answered. I guess it's a good idea to keep notes handy so don't you get mixed up. After a while, and if you are really interested in the person, you shouldn't need the notes!

As far as the repetitiveness, you just wonder how they do it on tv like on talk shows and game shows when interviewing a guest or contestant...they always ask the same questions. How do Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Phil, Alex Trebek, and Pat Sajak, do it? Whatever their secret is, they do seem to keep every program unique and the individual guests unique.
 
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