Singleness: Obstacle or Opourtunity Part 2

Someone soid to recently "there is a Christ shaped hole in each of us" . It is only Christ whom can fill this. And without Christ we try and fill with other tings and/or people. These might fill the hole temporarly they stil leave us unsatisfied. What im trying say is people fall and they open that whole that Christ can plug permantly. So yes i total agree with you mrstace

I found out that when I was desperate to be with someone and demanding of God to bring me someone, I was in emotional turmoil all the time and unable to get any real work done for the Lord and unable to enjoy real fellowship with the Lord or with other Christians. I felt like a failure because God wouldn't bring me "The One."

When I realized that God is sovereign, and that things happen in his timing, and that sometimes he needs people to remain single all their lives to be able to be more fully dedicated to his kingdom, the pain went away and I started enjoying life.

Don't be fooled by the world into thinking that God owes you a mate, or that you have to be with someone in order to be complete. You and God CAN be complete together, a really satisfying complete, more satisfying that looking toward another person to complete you.

Singleness is good, not bad, a blessing, not a curse.

mrstace said:

Unitl we experience God's love, and are happy and content as a single person, we will never be happy and content has a married person. I believe if you let God's love into your life, and find someone who has done the same. Then you will have a marriage relationship what will be blessed, and a great joy to your life, and not a burden.

The bottom line is that so many times we go out and try to find someone to show us how to love, and love us, and meet deep emotional needs. However no one person on earth can do that, only Jesus Christ can supply those needs in our lives.

I think I have covered the essentials. I hope and pray this might be a help to someone.

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I've gone through some nasty relationship issues as of late and now I'm starting to see the truth in this. I've given up any hope of a gf/wife. I'm just going to try to find my way with God again. It feels good. I'm actually getting better now that I let go of everything... including women.

This doesn't mean I will be single my whole life, but, I'm just going to get myself right with God before I can or will try to develop a relationship with anyone else.

my love life sucked but I've now come to see it as a blessing. I've learned so much. I learn the hard way but oh well.. it was worth it.

Where did you get that tape/book or what not? I should check it out.

See you around, Whitehorse.

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Haha! It's alive! When I first got here I saw your avatar and it made me laugh for other reasons than one would think. Ever since then I kept wondering why you got banned and if you would ever come back.

I'm glad you are here. That lamb makes my smile every time I see it. Why did you get banned anyways? (not that I'm surprised, the mod's here can be very very harsh).

Anyways... bye.

Opportunity.

pinPoint said:

Opportunity.

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Ditto.

I know that Dr. Stanley is recently divorced from his only wife, so it would be interesting to see what he has to say, having been married for all these years and then suddenly single. Perhaps this is why God has allowed this divorce to happen to him, that he might minister more effectively to singles.

Here is a link to an article I found telling about Dr. Stanley's divorce, which he announced to his congregation at First Baptist Church in Atlanta on May 21, 2000.

http://www.layman.org/layman/news/news-around-church/charles-stanley-wife-divorce.htm

According to the link, in 1995, Stanley had told his congregation that if his wife divorced him, he would resign as their pastor. But after the 2000 divorce, he is still their pastor, as the congregation has supported him.

It would be interesting to know what the timing of the tape was in relation to the divorce.

Being single is a gift from God, just like marriage is also a gift! I am single at the moment and therefore I have the freedom to travel whenever I want to, which I love doing. Also I am learning so much from God and I am being used a lot for His purposes. So at this time being single is a blessing. But I don't want to be single forever, I have a vision for a family life. But I know that now is not the time for that, God is however preparing me to be a good husband in the future.

Concerning the Jesus shaped hole theory, I tend to disagree slightly. Now Jesus is more than enough for each one of us and please do not misunderstand me for what I am about to say. And also I embrace the fact that some of us will be called to be single throughout our adult lives like Paul was in the Bible, but most of us will get married. But why?

Genesis 2:18
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

Now if God said that, I guess He knows. Each human being has an inner desire to be in an intimate sexual relation with someone else. This is why in Genesis it also says that "for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." (Gen 2:24).

Therefore I tend to disagree with the Jesus filled hole, I believe we do have one hole that only Jesus can fill, and another that a partner normally would fill, but God can fill that one also if your calling is to remain single.

I hope that is clear! This can be a very sensitive issue and I am still learning loads about it, these are just some things I am come to understand, but who can fully understand the amazing ways of God?

Yeh, I agree that we must be filled by Christ first and foremost, and we should find our acceptance in Him, but also I think there is a space reserved for that special someone too. Or God would have never said that "man needs a helper!"

focusing on God is the best thing u can do... in any situation. Im single right now... and sure i wanna get married...but God really doesnt have that for me right now. Be content where u r... I know easy to say...hard to do!

amen, do you know what, I find it amazing that teens got married at like 13 during the Bible times! God saw that at 13 one becomes a man or woman, how much as our culture changed, now you are a teen before adulthood! I don't think that God draws that line! Just a side point!

I think it can be both an obstacle and an opportunity at the same time. Confusing eh? It's an obstacle to where I would like to be at this point in my life and my dreams, but God can use it to be a fulfilling time. I'm not where I want to be but God can help me be content and joyful in the midst of it. He can help me to use my singleness for His good and to teach me things that will only bring me closer to Him and make me better prepaired for the future relationship I desire. I don't want to be single forever, but since God has me single right now He brings the opportunities for me to serve Him better. That probably sounds really confusing. LOL I'm confused myself.