A Question for the opposite sex

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mlbb_drummer said:
because we are thick and we don't understand girls and think they are just playing hard to get or somethin!


to girls... why is it that you always go out with ppl who treat you badly and ppl like me who treat you nice don't ever get a look in?
aww now i have to ask again

because we are thick and we don't understand girls and think they are just playing hard to get or somethin!


to girls... why is it that you always go out with ppl who treat you badly and ppl like me who treat you nice don't ever get a look in?
 
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mlbb_drummer said:
to girls... why is it that you always go out with ppl who treat you badly and ppl like me who treat you nice don't ever get a look in?
A woman will take a man with self esteem over a man who doesn't any day. Woman are attracted to strength of character, intelligence, kindness, honorablility and the same thing that you men are attracted to...we like men who make us feel good about ourselve. OTOH some woman don't have enough self esteem to get out of a bad relationship...because they somehow feel unworthy of a good one. (I am gratefully not that kind of woman...anymore)

For Men: Have you ever nodded your head and said "Okay" so that your wife, mother, or other female in your life would just stop talking?
 
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why is it that you always go out with ppl who treat you badly and ppl like me who treat you nice don't ever get a look in?
AMEN!!!
I would really like to know the answer to this one because i just had a run in with this issue.
 
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For Men: Have you ever nodded your head and said "Okay" so that your wife, mother, or other female in your life would just stop talking?
Nope, I like to hear about their problems... but that is probably the guy in me trying to solve problems. :D

Don't have a question for the girls so... next question please.
 
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Well, the whole nodding thing doesn't always work. Some girls keep on talking. Of course, some guys are the same way.

Without trying to get too overtly sexual, I would like to ask. Why is it, if girls are wearing some light jacket thing over a shirt, that they inevitably have to adjust thier jacket, pulling it further around themselves? Maybe I as a guy am wierd, but that always makes me so self conscious. It's like I was doing so good at not staring at a girl below the neck, keeping relatively good eye contact. Then in the middle of that, she'll adjust jacket, and I'll feel like some kinda goon for looking to see what she was doing in the first place.

Ack. Maybe a stupid question. Still, that's one of my pet peeves. Can I get an answer and keep this a "G" discussion? If not, I guess give me a hint. Thanks.
 
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Guy's can't watch TV and hold conversations well because our brains are wired differently. Women are better at multitasking, but men are more unifocused and better at split second decisions (in general).

The whole thing with guys ramming chests together. It's like a manly way to cheer about something. I mean think about it. Jumping up and down and screaming when your team wins is actually very girly.


Alot of guys are fact collectors, and alot of people I know collect facts about things they really like. I think most girls collect information about other friends of thiers, while guys are more sports oriented (or aggression oriented) so we need to collect information that ties into our aggressive side.
 
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great said:
Why do guys insist on being told exactly why I'm tired, sick, not having a good day, or whatever? And why can't they respect it when I say I don't want to talk about it?
Guys are problem solvers. They don't feel content knowing a problem unless they know a solution to it. That is why when you mention a problem like being sleepy, they want to know it was because you stayed up late or drank coffee too late in the day. Then they know the solution, whether or not they feel like mentioning it.

I also think that guys realize that girls have to communicate with other people to get past problems. Guys sometimes need that too. So, when you bottle up it means a couple of things for a guy. It means that you don't trust him to let him know what the problem is. I guess it isn't always that bad, but it can be.
 
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hotarugari said:
Alot of guys are fact collectors, and alot of people I know collect facts about things they really like. I think most girls collect information about other friends of thiers, while guys are more sports oriented (or aggression oriented) so we need to collect information that ties into our aggressive side.

Or Theatre!!
 
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hotarugari said:
Without trying to get too overtly sexual, I would like to ask. Why is it, if girls are wearing some light jacket thing over a shirt, that they inevitably have to adjust thier jacket, pulling it further around themselves? Maybe I as a guy am wierd, but that always makes me so self conscious. It's like I was doing so good at not staring at a girl below the neck, keeping relatively good eye contact. Then in the middle of that, she'll adjust jacket, and I'll feel like some kinda goon for looking to see what she was doing in the first place.

Ack. Maybe a stupid question. Still, that's one of my pet peeves. Can I get an answer and keep this a "G" discussion? If not, I guess give me a hint. Thanks.
I don't do it, at least not that I know of, unless maybe I'm uncomfortable, and just need something to fiddle with.
 
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mlbb_drummer said:
why do girls not give you good answers when you've plucked up the courage to talk to them and then they don't tlak much back, is that coz they don't like me?
Either that or you just caught them unprepared. It often take a lot for a girl to talk about anything important or serious until they really know that they are safe in doing so.

Guys: Why do you have to be told/asked to help out before you do? Why can't you just see the need and take the lead?
 
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mlbb_drummer said:
coz we are thick and we have no inishiative!

girls: why can't i think of a questioa to ask you?
Ironic that your answer to my question seems to answer your own. That is ingenious if you meant to do that. ^_^

Guys: Do you really think woman care about what kind of car you drive or what you do for a living?
 
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since you don't have a question JFreak, I'l ask one.

Do guys like girls that are capable of doing things themselves and are competitive, or do you like girls that are totally incompetent (or at least make it seem that way) and depend on you to show them things,
 
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DWJD said:
since you don't have a question JFreak, I'l ask one.

Do guys like girls that are capable of doing things themselves and are competitive, or do you like girls that are totally incompetent (or at least make it seem that way) and depend on you to show them things,
I think guys like girls that are completely competent to a point. I know me, myself I like a girl that is competent, but if she leaves me in the dust, then the simple question comes up in my mind "Why does she need/want me?".

However, it really depends on what a guy wants from a relationship. I want a competent woman who eventually would be happy with being a stay at home mother. Some guys want thier wife to be able to work all the time, or even to be the lead supporter in some cases. I want someone who can take care of the house and who can cook. All the other things would be nice, but again it's competence in an area.

Competence in an area doesn't mean incompetence in everything else per se. It means a preference for a certain type of individual.
 
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