I guess this is how conservative I am, but even when I go to places that serve alcohol, not bars mind you, since I don't go to them, but places like Red Lobster, Appleby's and so forth, I frown on people drinking "virgin" drinks. Particularly Christians drinking virgin drinks. Why? Because for the person you may know who enters the same restuarant and sees you drinking something that looks like an alcoholic drink has no idea that it isn't. It still appears to them you are drinking something alcoholic and alot of lost people in the world like to hold that against Christians who partake of any drink with alcohol in it. It could still be a stumbling block.
I have alot of friends who like to do the party scene, get drunk and all that, so drinking for me in any situation is out of the question. I can't be a stumbling block for them and I'm not going to give them the opportunity to say, "hey I thought you were a Christian, why you drinking?" That is used alot where I live.
As for the church it is in our bylaws that the pastor cannot partake of any wine as given in the qualifications of being an overseer in 1st Timothy 3:3. Also our church is full, praise God, of ex alcoholics and drug addicts, so it would be kind of stupid on our part to offer wine, albeit small, to probably a hundred people who struggled with it before.
As for dancing, it has never been brought up in our church as something we can or cannot do. It's just understood that no one comes to church and gets their freak on. We do interpretive movements which is a form of dance, but not really. But usually when someone mentions dancing the first vision to some is that of "bumping and grinding" which I think not only looks foolish, but can lead to other things as well. But on the other hand I truly believe we can dance for the Lord. We all know David did.
I suppose we just have to take into careful consideration of 1st Corinthians 10:31, "Therefore, whatever you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God."
BTW, there are alot of people I agreed with after reading the posts, GEL, and BT you are two of them and I can't remember the rest. I really support what you guys are saying, but BT, if you are going to be serious about drinking and partying, do it more than 3 times a week man! C'mon don't be weak!