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:confused: Question??

If a woman (or man, for that matter) is being abused by a spouse, is she justified in Torah to leave, or must she suffer through the marriage and pray for deliverance? I'm asking on behalf of a friend who came to me for answers, and I don't know them, so I told her I would ask.
 

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As far as I can say, she is justified, though I don't know about Bible verses. But, I will say that numerous people have said that preserving life is above following a commandment. Now, if you look at the statistics of people living in abusive relationships, she would be preserving her life and that of any children she has.
 
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Yes, I agree with all of you, but this poor lady is in a position where she is not willing to betray torah to be safe. She would rather stay in this marriage and she her reward in the kingdom than risk eternal life. I told her I would try to find some scripture to help her position, but I don't know where to turn.

Anyone have any information?
 
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If she believes and is fully convicted to stay, then she needs to be better equipped with the weapons of spiritual warfare. She may well be called for such a purpose. For she must witness to the power of the Word of the Lord, and witness to her hubby for e his salvation. She must be a strong arm of the Lord. This can only be done with God by her side. She must call upon the Lord to work through her. She must prayerfully work towards doing God's will, not wimp, but be of good courage to do what is right in the face of the abuser.

It will be like walking to the Red Sea without seeing the way of escape until you take the first step into the water by faith. The water will part. It will be like Peter asking if he too can walk on water. It takes that first step in faith, and to keep your eyes focused on Yeshua through the whole storm, because the waves will be huge and it is not easy to keep your eyes on Yeshua when all around you looks bad. This is not a task for the weak at heart.

If she wishes for someone to email who has been through the abusive world, and victorious in the Lord's name, she can have my email address, all you have to do is email me with it and I will become her prayer partner through this spiritual war that is about to embark upon.

If on the other hand, she is looking for justification for leaving,

Since we do not know if the husband is one of a faith, she may have the verse, of being unevenly yoked with an unbeliever.

2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

The hardness of the heart is a cause for divorce.

Matt 19:3-12 We have here some questions and answers in this text. Question: v 3 "Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?"

Matthew 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

My prayers go out to her and her storm in this life, it is not easy or fun, but full of worry and woe. I pray that she will be victorious in Yeshua through it all in what ever decision she makes. God bless her with a closer walk with Him through it all.

Visionary
 
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Thank you. This has been more helpful, I think, along with my own studies. Yes, she feels threatened, and yes, he's a "believer" using the word to beat her over the head and keep her there. He claims to have been saved more than ten years ago, but still, she comes over with bruises and soreness, and used to claim, of course, that it was household accidents.

He calls himself a prophet, though I've seen no evidence of such. She married him because he seemed to be a great man of the father, and she wanted to be a part of that. Now, she just wants out, but he keeps bringing up, again and again, these scriptures against divorce (I'm sure you all know them.)

My viewpoint is this: the marriage is a covenant, and this covenant was sworn under false pretenses. The promises he made (love, honor, provide for, and protect) have become null and void because, although she is honoring her end of the bargain (love, honor, obey) he is in clear violation of the covenant. He never intended, imho, to honor his end of the contract to begin with. I've spent a lot of time studying covenant in scripture, and this is where I'm at.

Of course, I also see that if one's life is in danger, one is justified in saving it. He nearly took her out with the door of their truck last week. Very ugly. I won't go into details, but it seems to me that self-defense is covered under the Torah.

If I'm wrong in any of this, somebody stop me, please. I would hate to lead this woman to sin, but I don't know where else to turn. I also was once in an abusive marriage, and I left for self-preservation, but that was when I was not in messiah, and I have received forgiveness for that sin. I trust and respect the opinions of you folks on this board, and any help and wisdom will be taken into consideration.

Blessings to you all in Yeshua Messiah of Nazereth.
 
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I will pray that he has an encounter with Yeshua, that no man in his condition would like to face. I will pray that he experiences a face to face with Yeshua as real as Rev 3:20. His kind, who claim to know and know not, who abuse the Word of God for their own designs, need to have their eyes opened, and their experience with Yeshua to be more direct. Just as Yeshua rebute the scribes and pharasees for their unrighteous "righteous attitudes, so also this man needs to get an ear full.

OOkay, enough said....as she gets down off her soap box....the Lord and I are going to have a long talk about this....As she squares off her shoulders, placing hands on hips, ready to do battle.
 
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