Recent content by tizherself

I am so glad that I looked for this forum. (I have a thread in the Marriage Ministry also) At first my spouse told me he didn't need NA, that although he has had the occassional struggle with the desire to use again, that he was not going to go down that road. He also was on an anti-depressant...

You know, I don't know why I didn't think of that. I guess it just confirms how little I know about all of this. Is Alanon just for people whose spouses are actively using - or is it for anyone with this kind of experience?

Just remember that you made your pledge of fidelity, not only to your wife - but to the Lord. And something you may get away with without her knowledge will be seen by Someone Else and you will have to stand before Him and answer when He asks "What did you do with the marriage I gave you?" BE...

I don't have any experience with substance abuse, but I am asking for the perspective of someone who has been under the bondage of drug use. I found out in a very short period of time (one night!) that my husband had been heavily using meth and been having an affair. He is now in recovery for...

Feelinghopeless - haven't seen a post from you in a while. How are things going? I don't remember if you said how far along you are. When are you due? Has your husband changed his behavior at all? Please let us know how you are - Continuing to keep you in my thoughts and my prayers..

I have to agree with other posts - you are still a married man. You have made a convenant with your wife and you have broken it. If she can forgive you for what you've done, then continue with your counseling - see what can be saved!! If that is just not possible, then you are not free to begin...

We can only hope the reason she hasn't logged on is because he has repented of his hard heartedness and they have gotten good counsel. I pray that it was God's will and their outcome that they are happy in their new home and renewed by the Spirit in love and respect for one another - if you're...

I still struggle with feelings for my spouse. ( I just decided to give up and get divorced) He did such a 180 after we married that I wondered if I ever really knew him at all - did the man I loved (and the friend I had for many years) ever really exist at all? I mean, it was unreal - separating...

I agree that it seems that some people believe that the only acceptable time a woman can leave an abusive, adulterous relationship is in an ambulance. I believe God gives all of His children the right and the common sense to protect themselves from physical abuse, humiliation and STD's. (It's...

I saw my husband tonight, and things went well for a while - 'til he made plans for us to get together with some of his friends who absolutely condoned what happened with us and thought I was a bad person for calling the police. We got in a heated argument, during which he both slapped me and...

So,Autumnleaf, are you saying that if I had gone out and had an affair, had slept with other men, then my husband would have the right to divorce me. However when my husband has an affair, lies, and sleeps around - then I do not have the same right to leave him?? (Not to mention take my chances...

I really do understand about the loneliness. In retrospect, I think the very idea of being alone again kept me from bailing on my marriage when everything first blew apart. (My posting is in this section too) I wish I could say I'm out of the muck, but that would be untrue. I really got myself...

I really do understand about the loneliness. In retrospect, I think the very idea of being alone again kept me from bailing on my marriage when everything first blew apart. (My posting is in this section too) I wish I could say I'm out of the muck, but that would be untrue. I really got myself...

Thank you for your input

H-m-m-m, divorcing a husband who has lied to her, beat her and committed adultery (under which divorce is scripturally allowed) and continues to try to find a loop hole to condone this behavior, and killing a baby..... nope, can't buy the comparison.