Recent content by MercyandFaith

Interesting. I had been using the word "victim" as a way of showing sympathy and support for my GF, but as you put it, it might actually be more harmful than beneficial.

No, as far as I know of, she hasn't told it to anyone but me.

My girlfriend (we're both 32, thinking seriously of marriage) is a victim of sexual abuse from a long time ago. There are many ramifications and effects that such a victim suffers, of course, but I don't want to turn this into a thread discussing 100 different issues all at once. I did want...

So I was hanging out with a Christian friend of mine today when she saw some sort of game exhibit featuring witches, things that looked occult-ish, etc. and wanted us to go in and participate. I said no, but she insisted and prodded, so, against my better judgment, I caved in and we went in and...

OK, but then the only logical reading of this is that, if someone does cut you off in traffic and flip you the bird, that yes, that was indeed God's planning and execution.

A topic that I've been thinking a lot of about lately: Most Christians, if you ask them if God is in control of everything, would say "yes" without hesitation. But lately I've been wondering just how much I should apply that to how I view the world. If for instance, if I am driving on the...

Romans 8:28 famously says, "All things work for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose." Problem is - I think we have all had times, maybe even years, in our lives, when we simply felt little or no love for God at all. Do things temporarily stop working for our...

There is such a thing as "spiritual vaccination." If someone's first encounter with Christianity is a bad one, they will be vaccinated against Christianity. From that point on, any subsequent attempt to evangelize them will cause them to dig up their bad memories of Christianity, and reject it.

A strange update on the situation: Her husband knows that she loves me, and has told her to talk to me so that I can talk her out of it. I've never heard of someone using this approach before. I also feel rather used by both of them - that her husband is using me to get his wife to return to him.

I've heard of this sort of ad hoc logic. It sounds strange. Then anyone you marry is God's intended spouse.

This is what I had considered. But the church has an urgent shortage of pianists and needs me playing.

Thanks. I guess I should just say no next time. It hurts, though - loving someone and then having to force out the lie, "No I don't like you," through gritted teeth.

This might be a circular answer but her attraction just feeds my.....affection for her. We had liked each other before she got married. But she was pressured by circumstances into marrying someone else, a man she didn't want to marry. And we've still not stopped liking each other. We both regret...

I tend to be the kind of person who blurts out an answer immediately on the spot without thinking about the consequences. But now in hindsight I wish I had said "I won't answer that" or "no."

Ok, thanks. So......what should I do now? It's already happened.