Recent content by MaraPetra

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    Wow! I am back!!

    I just came back after a three-year hiatus. A lot of the forums I remember as being insanely busy are now...Ummm...dead. The site appears to need either a revival, a savior, or just a plain old miracle of resurrection. Congrats on your marriage :)
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    Advise from the Wise

    *shrugs* I'm using accepted psychological methodology to analyze the situation and draw logical conclusions through critical thinking skills. If you don't understand it, that does not change the situation or the solidness of the advice offered by all on this thread.
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    Advise from the Wise

    Indeed, it has a plethora of hallmarks. But calling a man "abusive" when the accompanying emotional indicators show that the root cause is an unsuccessful meshing of two personalities with distinctly different agendas in prioritization, emotional immaturity and a lack of coping skills is, at...
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    Advise from the Wise

    When you live in an abusive situation for over a decade, and go through training for several years afterwards to help others in the same situation to cope and overcome the abuse, you tend to gain a knowledge of a differentiation between the two situations. I'd be the first person to call a man...
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    Advise from the Wise

    It IS a red flag, but not for what you are insinuating. Chronically abusive actions and kneejerk reactions to a situation due to an inability to cope with emotions are two entirely different things. You do a disservice to the OP and her husband when you try to tag the "abusive" moniker on...
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    Advise from the Wise

    I'm not very wise, but I'd like to give a few insights for you to consider. I'm not seeing controlling behavior at all. What I'm seeing is a very frustrated man who's watching his wife do for everyone else, while giving him the message that he is secondary to all these other things. I'm...
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    How should a husband and wife intereact.

    You have a beautiful soul :yum: My husband and I have been together for 12 years, and have been married for 11. We have been tested, over and over, regarding faith and responsibilities and even over kids. We've come close to separating several times, brought to that point by warring...
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    The Penguino Family - Lean on us when you're not strong, and we'll help you carry on

    I'm here. I got the news this morning, via the PM. I feel so sad right now. Not only have I lost my real Mom this year (Jan. 14), I lost Momma P, too. I'm kicking myself for not calling her last week...I would have been able to at least say good-bye. I worked with her for so long, and...
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    Adjesumpermarium, rest with God

    Mike: I'm so very, very sorry. This is Donna in Louisiana. Dede was extremely special to me. I spent a long time co-modding with her here on CF, and of course I blew up the phone bill occasionally by talking to her. She was more than a co-mod to me...She was a dear friend and kindred...
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    my mom has been given just a few weeks..

    I lost my Daddy to lung cancer on March 23, 2009. He survived only 1 month and two days between diagnosis and death. My mother is currently on dialysis, but her complications are such now that she will not survive long, either. I am the youngest of their six children. She is also in the...
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    CF grieves the loss of a family member

    I read this with great sadness and a touch of disbelief. I knew her as bellaandJPforever. :( (((((Katie & Steffi))))) I pray God gives you both comfort as you try to cope with this devastating loss. It takes a special kind of person, with a special kind of calling, to work with and love the...
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    The Penguino Family - Lean on us when you're not strong, and we'll help you carry on

    Dedeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!! Family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Please Welcome CF's New Owner (Qs and As added to post #2)

    Welcome, Pauler! You have quite the job on your hands. Nonetheless, CF is a joy for those who welcome a challenge, and who seek a way to serve the Lord in a way which is sure to cultivate patience, wisdom, and humility. :amen: The personalities within this site are diverse, joyful and (dare...
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    A poll for married men and women

    I prefer honesty. If the husband's piston isn't starting a fire in the compression chamber, then it doesn't matter if he's running in first gear or fifth, or if he's using Slick 50 or jet fuel. He's not going to be starting a fire anytime soon unless the spark plug's firing. I'm a big...
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    Question about a Christian Marriage

    Jesus would have recognized that she will only come to Him when she's ready. The choice isn't up to you, or your pastor, or any other being this side of the Fall. First, a Scripture, so that you'll know: I put that big piece up here to keep it in context; the apostle Paul is addressing...