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It comes down to this - and if anyone can give me scriptures and literal passages that help back it up, I'd like to know, does the husband literally have the "final decision making authority" in decisions that can't be agreed upon? And is his word the end all/be all and I must submit, no matter...

Summary Of Headship Passages: Lead selflessly and with love: Eph 5:25 Lead as you would want to be lead: Eph 5:33 Do not provoke to anger: Eph 6:4 Do not threaten: Eph 6:9 Lead lovingly, without bitterness: Col 3:19 Do not exasperate so that they lose heart: Col 3:20 Be just and fair to...

Wow, that's harsh...and escalated quickly. I'm not even close to that solution, as that is nowhere near where my head is at. I am dealing with a hot head, to be sure. He reacts before thinking and often says mean and nasty things, in the heat of the moment, when he feels hurt. It's...

That's the problem. There is no agreement. He made the decision, after telling me it's what he, as the leader and head of the home decided, he was going to do. Despite my feelings, despite my opinions, despite my counsel, despite my objections, which still continue to this day. He does what...

No, the trip is with two vehicles and 4 drivers, and we space out each way over 2 days. Yes it is a lot of driving and it will be shared by the all 4 adults going. Kids have games, video and each other to keep occupied. We've done this trip before, exactly the same way, in 2007, when I was...

That's the problem....even without finalizing our discussion and literally coming to an agreement or a solution, or even hearing my literal side or rebuttal to all of his demands and concerns, he's already set on "I'm not going" since he's told our two youngest, just today, that we aren't going...

What's the first miracle Jesus performed? The transformation of water into wine at the Marriage at Cana or Wedding at Cana is the first miracle attributed to Jesus in the Gospel of John. In the Gospel account, Jesus, his mother and his disciples are invited to a wedding, and when the wine runs...

Update: This past weekend I had it out with my husband...to a degree. I got him to tell me his concerns and reasons for why he didn't want us going. After writing them down and 5 pages later, he read what he wrote. (I have outlined them as follows): 1) Putting miles (2400 roundtrip) on my van...

I realize the question has ultimately been asked and answered, but the dynamic I find myself in, is how do I counter argue my husbands line of reasoning (or as I feel, lack of therein), that because it's me wanting to travel with our kids, to two states away, that is a big enough reason he has...

I just came across this, and I'm literally beside myself at how it accurately describes my spouse. How to Deal With Blamers

No, he's never laid hands on me. And it's been a good while since he's thrown anything or been physically intimidating. And to be honest, he hasn't yelled or raised his voice to me, for well over 6 months. It's his attitude and the way he talks to me, things he expects of me and his general...

So, let me ask this, to all those who agree I should just go, since my husband is currently in the mindset that he gets to decide if he's going to "let me" and the kids go, or not, and we have yet to discuss the pros and cons, etc to come to a final decision, how do I respectfully let him know...

I read back thru the other thread and while I do appreciate your advice, the problem I have is that I believe that my husband is emotionally (and somewhat mentally) unstable. Just the mere discussion of separation, and he flipped his lid. Yelling, stomping around, slamming things, calling me...

We did not end up going last year, because as it turned out my brother nad his family didn't go and I didn't want to take that long trip with just my parents, who ended up shortening the trip anyway. But it was the same stupid argument then too. Basically, his reasons have gone from financial...

Oh, I have challenged him and it ends up turning into more Bible thumping over my head because wives are supposed to be silent and don't forget the one about, it's better to crouch on the roof of a house, than have a quarreling wife.... I find it interesting how he pulls these tidbits out of...