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Recent content by lilygrace

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    Dealing with people's curiosity

    Amen to that. And yep good idea on the statistics and being informative in that way too. Demystifying will remove a whole lot of the perceived glamour. Glad you found it helpful Ding - all part of the "working things together for good" thing, which is fabulous to see. And WOOdy, good point...
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    Dealing with people's curiosity

    You've had some good advice here, hopefully I can add some more. Firstly, it's great that you can see there is a need to find a balance. It took me ages to work that out. Got burned a lot in the process. I used to think that a testimony meant "tell all the gory details" and had a few people...
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    i may as well get it over with

    Moriahlee I agree with Johnnz, I've done the time - delay communication thing just this last week or so and it's been incredibly beneficial. Have a look at my other thread if you like (ie the "normalising/healthy outlooks on sex" one.) I'd certainly recommend you pursue whatever support you feel...
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    Relearning/normalising healthy outlooks on sex etc

    Hi all, I know it's only been a week but an update is in order. I've had a great deal of food for thought from the posters here, and also in some PMs and email correspondence from boardies here. Amazing things have been happening. I have had a week off this last week and so basically I did a...
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    i got thru 1 yr anniv. of rape *T*

    Was praying for you and am glad to hear you got through. Thanks for sharing this Lilygrace
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    What makes you happy?

    Hanging out with Jesus and listening to one of my favourite sermons (I have a few on tape). Favourite music Being able to really relax at the end of a long day, when I come home and someone else has cooked and I can put my feet up and watch my favourite show on TV. Sitting at the beach...
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    Weird Name Co-Incidences...

    OK I have a couple, not all first hand: I have a friend whose sister is Nicola. Their father is Nick. Nicola also married a Nick. When I was going up my next door neighbours on each side both had two sons in the family; each named Andrew (eldest) and David (second). I also have a brother...
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    Relearning/normalising healthy outlooks on sex etc

    BelindaP, thanks for sharing that. I have some things that I cannot say too, so the idea of a code word is a great one. I'll definitely file that for future use - and use a variation of that principle in other situations where saying no (or other things) is hard, too. You are right about the...
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    Do things ever really "get better"?

    Aw Bethany I am sorry you are going through this. Healing is a very individual thing, and the pace of it, and order of it, will vary a great deal with each person. But absolutely, it gets better. I have found the key is to give myself the permission and head space, almost, to be where I am...
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    Relearning/normalising healthy outlooks on sex etc

    Amused, Thanks so much for your reply. (And yep I find it hard to type this stuff too). I appreciate your candour. Plus, what you have posted is exactly how I was hoping this thread would work; that we can talk about what normal is but without that being like an "ethics" discussion. Don't...
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    Leading people on

    Mac, I gotta say it - you rock the free world and I'm taking notes :)
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    Relearning/normalising healthy outlooks on sex etc

    Hi all, Not really too sure how to title this but I thought a thread for input and support on undoing abusive thought patterns and stuff would be a good plan. I'll structure it around me but I am hoping I'm not that unique and others will find it useful too. I am currently in the midst of...
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    February 12th

    Will be praying for both of you. Anniversaries are tough, and often folks don't know what to say or how to respond, I think. I try to remind myself that they do care, they just may not know how best to do it. It is isolating though to feel as though we are not understood. I am glad that those...
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    Prayer, support, advice welcome

    Hi folks Bit of an update for you all. As of tomorrow I will have met all but one of my major work deadlines for the year and am thrilled about that. The last month or so since I've come out of denial has been, well, horrendous and I am sure you know what I am talking about so nuff said...
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    The angel needs support *t*

    Shaz I lecture at a Uni and can answer this pretty well for you. Big hugs, by the way, and you aren't cluttering up the forum. I've been lurking long enough to know this lot love you, hun. Way it works at the South Aussie uni's (I've worked at all three) is that when you need compassionate...