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Love this. Thanks for your wisdom

dude what are you talking about? we have never had sex. it was only him and his girlfriend while he was dating her.

Thanks for your response. How would you define someone reacting with integrity? What would that look like? thanks

Oh yes. For sure. He thought he'd lose me if he told me. But that is no excuse to lie. He knew the truth would have to come out at some point because it was eating him alive and he knew it would hurt me to find out he lied. We had incredible trust between the two of us... it makes no sense why...

Awesome response. Love it. Thanks for your input! Yeah the biggest part for me is wondering if he lies frequently. It's nothing to do with the fact he had sex. It is about lying. How much more has he or will he lie to me? But yeah, you're right... we all have our sins. But because we are not...

Aww! Thank you for this very thoughtful response. You are spot on when you say that I am probably wondering if he lies about anything else (past/present/future). That is exactly what I'm thinking. I have been brutally honest with him and told him exactly how I'm feeling. I know I need to forgive...

Yes. I love what you said. I must be honest with him too. I have recently told him exactly how I'm feeling about this whole situation eventhough it is the brutal truth. Yikes

Thanks for your wisdom here. Yes I agree. I think that eventhough I forgive him, doesnt mean I am not hurting. And eventhough I forgive him, doesnt mean I should let my gaurd down. You are right though, true forgiveness totally forgets. I believe I will get to that place; however, it will take...

I disagree. One must tell the truth even it not so pleasant. The bible teaches us that. Ephesians 4:25, 2 Corinthians 8:21, Proverbs 10:9 are a few verses that touch on it.

He told me because he felt convicted. It was making him feel sick. Since we are dating for marriage, he should have told me that a long time ago. If he had told me a long time ago, I would have kept dating him, yes. I am now just questioning his integrity.

Yeah totally. Makes sense. Thank you for your response. His fear of rejection is no excuse for him not to tell me. We all have stuff. I have shared stuff with him that could make him run. I would be more understanding of him if he had told me within the first 3-4 months of dating. But yeah I...

Yeah I think it was his own pride that kept it from me, understandable, but still not acceptable. I feel pretty hurt. I mean I trusted this guy. I guess we will move forward and see if I detect any more lies.

I appreciate your response. I have caught him in two small lies beside this big lie. And I think sometimes he might fib but his fib is more a play on words or perhaps something he does by accident or is so small that it doesn't matter. But yes, he has been/is/will be faithful to me I know for...

Thank you for your helpful and wise response. I appreciate it! Yeah, he definitely is ashamed of his actions and that is probably the main reason he kept it from me. He also was scared of losing me, perhaps thinking that his past would be a dealbreaker. He said he felt overly convicted and...

Hello people. I need some Christian advice. My boyfriend of 1.5 years recently told me that he had sex with his previous girlfriend once while they were dating. He and I are saving sex for marriage and we have talked about virginity and how far we have been gone physically with our other...