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Here is what I have so far with what I'll be saying to her: "I just wanted to restate that when I said I want to wait for marriage on everything while dating, I do. However, my statement was incomplete, and it may have given you the image that I’m a virgin. At the moment, I wanted to let you...

Do you think I should say it as "I had a non-dating encounter?" I feel like it's difficult to convey what a non-dating encounter is without explaining I went to an escort and had sex.

Thank you so much for everything. God Bless you. In the meantime, how do I continue to see her and talk to her without continuously thinking about it? I'm deeply saddened I'm going to disappoint her. I have never been in a long term relationship, so I am also afraid the sexual guilts may remain...

Thanks, I can see myself revealing it like the way you stated. It's telling the truth. I am just scared that once I say it generalized, I'll still feel guilty since I didn't say the whole story, even if she doesn't ask about the details. I truly think this is me not getting over what I had done...

Yes, just under five months since first date. I mentioned one month because that was when we both decided to from dating to relationship. I will continue to talk to the Lord and pray that I bring it up at the right time and the right way.

Thank you very much for the insightful post. I really took all of your posts to heart, but I truly wanted to hear everyone's voices, especially because I am reluctant to tell her. I am praying to the Lord and deciding to tell her at the right time as need be. Today is not the right time, as...

I appreciate your straightforwardness, as it helps me in this tough personal situation. However, I'm confused about how you're saying I'm still a virgin. The aborted brothel incident still involved me having intercourse for a split second?

Thanks for your answer, Aussie Pete. It's definitely my conscience talking. When I answered her question 3 weeks ago, it didn't bother me, especially since I DO value no sex during dating, and I've followed that my whole life. But unfortunately, because of my story, I am not a virgin. How do I...

Joshua, I appreciate for your insightful response. I never thought about how I am focusing on me feeling better over my guilt, rather than her being transferred the burden of my past. However, at this point, I feel as if I lied to her with my initial response. I shouldn't correct it? Do you...

When you mention I should say under the vagueness of, "I have been into some crazy things," should I leave it at that for her interpretation until she asks a question about it or should I say it along the lines of "I have past sins that I want to bring up?" Why do you recommend I not mention...

Deep down, I feel terrible because I feel like she was alluding to whether or not I'm a virgin, even though her question only had the word "dating" in it. After my response, she stated, "I'm glad you value that." Any thoughts/advice?

You have a solid point. I repented and prayed about it this situation for past three days. We had been dating for five months, and when her question came up over the phone three weeks ago, I didn't think twice about my answer. But randomly, I thought of it again three days ago and it's basically...

I agree. As long as the costumes don't denounce Christianity or promote anti-Christian values.

Her exact question over the phone was, "What are your physical boundaries when it comes to dating?" I answered with, "I'm waiting on marriage for everything." Thinking back, I was answering to the "dating" question, which remains true; I have never had sexual intimacy with anyone I've ever...

But I did go to the brothel and had a sexual experience, including intercourse for less than a second. My subconscious did not let me continue, and I chose to not continue, got dressed, and left.