Recent content by Charleigh Noble

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    Trouble with Intimacy

    I'm sure that this is what we need. Getting him to go along with it is an entirely different matter though. Hopefully he will be open to it!
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    Trouble with Intimacy

    A year ago, I found out a lot of things about my husband that I never knew. It was heartbreaking and for a while i didn't think we would make it. During our first few years of marriage, my husband said some pretty hurtful (I'm guessing he didn't actually mean for them to be that way) comments...
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    Anniversary After Infidelity

    Our fifth anniversary is coming up this weekend and it's only been about four months since discovery day. Anyone who has experienced something similar have any advice?? It feels so wrong to be celebrating the day that centered around sacred vows that he broke. He is trying so hard and doing...
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    How to rebuild trust//

    We do periodically, but not consistently. I have had to be the spiritual leader for most of our marriage, but he has been making a huge effort lately to be vigilant in his relationship with God, which I know will in turn help our relationship as well. We are rebuilding a foundation that was weak...
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    How to rebuild trust//

    Thank you for this, genuinely. We do need community, it would help with more than just this area of our lives. I know time is the biggest thing that will help. I just hate the constant ache. One day at a time. Thank you for your encouragement.
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    How to rebuild trust//

    Thank you for this. I am daily trying to forgive and work through this. It is difficult for it to not be brought up every time conflict arises. I am praying for extra grace to be able to move forward rather than be stagnate.
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    How to rebuild trust//

    I guess that the emotional aspect of it is still what I'm dealing with. And the hurt from betrayal, obviously. But he is so convinced that he is totally changed that getting professional help now is probably not even on his radar. He guilted me a lot during that time, and I felt very much alone...
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    How to rebuild trust//

    I posted for the first time on this thread several months ago and now I need advice on something that builds off of my previous post. So I will quote my first post and then add my more recent experience. I would really love to get past this, so anyone who has dealt with something similar and...
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    How to rebuild trust//

    I posted for the first time on this thread several months ago and now I need advice on something that builds off of my previous post. So I will quote my first post and then add my more recent experience. I would really love to get past this, so anyone who has dealt with something similar and...
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    I don't know if he would be comfortable meeting with our pastor, but he has seemed open to getting pastoral counseling from somewhere else. I wish more than anything that we could have that opportunity, but we have two young kids and he works and is in school. But surely he can find some time...
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    Sorry, but ignoring it definitely will not help. We had a rough beginning, but I was totally unaware that there was anyone else. He pursued me relentlessly and falling in love with him was one of the best things that had ever happened to me. There was no one else in my mind and he led me to...
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    These are definitely questions I have asked him, and he has given me some information, but nothing that really helps... It hasn't made things worse because I definitely felt like I NEEDed to know. But, now I feel like we're at an impasse. The fact that he kept it from me for so long, especially...
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    Thank you for responding! I just realized I replied to the entire thread instead of to your post, my bad!
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    He has expressed remorse... but he also tried to belittle it at first, which does not line up with true remorse. He doesn't ask for forgiveness often, I've tried to explain the difference between "I'm sorry" and "will you forgive me" but I don't think he really gets it. He has asked after I told...
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    Forgiving my husband's past..

    We have been married for five years. He just recently came to me and told me that he cheated on me when we were dating. The person he cheated with is someone we have seen at multiple events and even gone to dinner with since being married. He would rake me over the coals if I even talked to...