Woman are chasing the top 10% of high value men.

[bèlla]

When I started watching instructional videos on youtube, I noticed the dates of the videos and the trend seemingly started all over the world at roughly the same time (2020).

That's when I noticed it. I started watching YouTube during the pandemic and stumbled on the videos. What I loved most was the package. 'Getting our life together' wasn't limited to food or fitness. They were tackling things we overlook like bad habits and making improvements too. One day I saw a 5am vlog and I was sold.

I don't see the fitness trend as a bad one.

Of all the trends that is going on, it is the most productive one both physically and spiritually. It's not easy no matter how it looks. The fact you'll have to set aside time for it in spite of a busy schedule. Then denying yourself from indulging on food.

It's a refreshing change and I'm enjoying it. We often make excuses and let ourselves off the hook and it's nice to see people promoting responsible behavior. That's the kind of content I love.

Sometimes denial is necessary. Sometimes discipline is a must. We can't set things aside because they're difficult or require effort. That's how character is formed. Following Christ is more than bible study and quoting scripture. How do we honor the Lord in our flesh? In our environment? In our free time? And so on.

Show don't tell is rarely discussed but it's a worthy approach and one I employ. If we spent more time demonstrating our beliefs within ourselves and our lives we'd have a greater impact on others.

~bella

 

[bèlla]

I’m starting to think a lot of weight gain is due to medication people are on.

Medication is part of the problem. We don't have a culture for natural alternatives. You have to explore them on your own. I treat everything naturally. I'll take Tylenol on occasion but that's all. The body can heal itself and diet is the primary way that occurs.

It can’t be food. A lot of people don’t even eat that much food, or they eat very healthy, but it still doesn't matter to their body. I know people starving themsevles, they still can't lose it.

The food is the problem and you wouldn't be aware unless you grew your own or got most of it from a farmer who didn't use modern practices. The soil is dead. They've depleted it through overuse. The food you're consuming doesn't contain the nutrients you assume. They're not admitting it. That's why people can't lose weight.

The other issue is sugar. As in white sugar. It's in most of the things you buy. If you've ever seen the studies with sugar and rats you'll remember what happened. They got addicted and gained weight. The alternatives are problematic too. The only one that's natural is stevia and honey.

The third problem is the wheat because it's modified. You're eating a strain they've tweaked for commercial reasons and consuming yeast which isn't normal. The natural alternative is sourdough or a wild yeast that's made by putting raisins in water.

That's where the gluten issues come from. We didn't have them before. The wheat is the culprit and will affect your metabolism.

You want ancient grains and cereals. Like einkorn, spelt, buckwheat, millet, amaranth, kamut and so on. Bob's Red Mill carries several but they're more expensive. You have to eliminate refined and processed foods as well. Which includes white sugar and its variations (brown sugar, powdered sugar, demerara and muscavado) and white rice as well. You want organic sugar in its place or raw honey, sucanat, stevia, maple or coconut sugar or date syrup. And rice is brown. The white stuff is bleached.

Pasta is usually made from semolina which comes from durum and it's good for you. But if the durum is sprayed or grown in soil that's depleted or derived from gmo seeds it's a wrap. Most of the food is grown from gmos in soil that's bad with chemical enhancements. No wonder we're sick.

I don't trust the labels. I get as much as I can directly from the farmer and make a lot things myself to avoid the additives. I make natural teas and medicines and use similar products in the home. We eat foods to boost our gut health and improve immunity. I make my own bone broth, sauerkraut, kimchi and kombucha.

That's why I'm healthy. You are what you eat. We learned that from schoolhouse rock and they were right.

~bella

 

[TheLastGeek]

That's my kind of woman. I avoid women into that boujee crap.

I had some guy give me fashion tips on how I should dress differently for every season.
I do dress nice when the occasion calls for it. (Slacks and collared shirt).

A woman that was asked by him was shocked because she thought he was gay.

Okay, you made me laugh with "boujee crap"

This is why it's so essential for people to be true to themselves. Why on earth would you want to be with someone who doesn't like you as you are, and vice versa? If you contort yourself and your habits just to gain the approval of someone you like, are you really being yourself around them? In my view, you are not. And the fake version of you can only last so long before it starts to crumble.

If someone is comfortable and happy and confident wearing jeans and a tshirt, that's wonderful. If another person is comfortable and happy and confident dressing to the nine's every time they leave the house, that's wonderful, too. So long as both people are doing what is genuine and authentic to who they are, and being comfortable in their own skin.

I am extremely casual in what I wear, because it makes me feel good, both inside and out. And when you feel good, people can tell, and find that attractive. I once dated a man who asked me if I would wear dresses and skirts and conventionally girly attire because that's what he liked. He framed it in a way that could've seemed complimentary at first glance, saying things like, "I think you'd look so beautiful in that". And I did try it, because I was young, in love, and wanted to make him happy. I even tried to convince myself that I really liked trying on those dresses and modeling them for him. I told myself it made me feel more feminine and pretty. I told myself I could change who I was into something I was not, and that I would be happy doing so. Long story short, I could not. And his interest in seeing me in a dress was not because he thought it would make ME happy, or make ME feel good; it was completely selfish. It was what HE wanted and liked. Over time, I discovered that he had some very twisted and misogynistic views on women in general, and when I was not a submissive, compliant, mealy-mouthed subordinate, he lost interest.

I've asked myself many, many times throughout my life, if I might like to add a few dresses to my wardrobe. The answer always ends up being "no". I WILL put on a dress if I absolutely have to, for something like a wedding, but those occasions are thankfully rare.

It's just not who I am, and that's a glorious thing.

 

[TheLastGeek]

A woman can still look pretty even with a little bit of fat. A bit of fat doesn't do the same for men. It makes a man look weak.

This is just another example of how opinions and points of view vary so widely from person to person. I actually prefer a man with a bit of fat on him, versus a slim man with 2% body fat and muscles that bulge through the skin. I've never been a fan of perfection. I like people who look "real" and ordinary.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Speaking of which...this is crazy, but I know a rather healthy athletic man that is an avid runner. Probably in his late 50s. One day, he had a major heart attack and had to get bypass surgery. I was rather shocked that even an athletic man can have heart disease. I did find out that he didn't eat entirely healthly, but he didn't look unhealthy by looking at him (Spartan look).

So it was mostly genetic.

Anyways, I'm into most body types on women, even the chunk women...so I'm not too picky when it comes to looks. They say women gain weight mostly in two ways, they have the apple shape (they gain weight in the belly, like a man) and the pear shape...the latter tends to be more preferrable.

Cholesterol is a very sneaky killer. People can look fit or thin externally, but have clogged arteries within. I definitely advise having regular check ups and labwork done as we age, no matter how great we look or feel.

 

[bèlla]

Tik-Tok pretty actually looks ugly to me. The make up styles for women makes them look angry all the time and then there's the full body plastic surgery.

I don't go on Tik-Tok but some of the reels show up on YouTube. It's probably the brows and the way they enhance them. They're too arched and intense.

But there are other looks as well that are sensible and minimal.

~bella

 

[timewerx]

I had some guy give me fashion tips on how I should dress differently for every season.
I do dress nice when the occasion calls for it. (Slacks and collared shirt).

A woman that was asked by him was shocked because she thought he was gay.

It's the "metrosexual" fashion for men I think. I could tell some women don't like it and prefer something "rugged".

Rugged has been around for the longest time. So a woman who prefers rugged is probably going to stick around much longer than someone chasing trends.

 

[timewerx]

I don't go on Tik-Tok but some of the reels show up on YouTube. It's probably the brows and the way they enhance them. They're too arched and intense.

I find it annoying. Even road vehicles today, car, SUV, and truck aesthetics are designed to look mean and angry.

But if it's trending, it must be what most people (analytics) find most attractive.

The angry, mean looks representing hatred and coldness. What the human society has become.

 

[TheLastGeek]

It's the "metrosexual" fashion for men I think. I could tell some women don't like it and prefer something "rugged".

Rugged has been around for the longest time. So a woman who prefers rugged is probably going to stick around much longer than someone chasing trends.

No offense meant to any "metro" guys on this forum, but that is definitely NOT attractive to me in any way!

Rugged, please. Rugged all the way. Dirty, hardworking hands and a big beard.

 

[bèlla]

It's the "metrosexual" fashion for men I think. I could tell some women don't like it and prefer something "rugged".

Men with fashion sense aren't necessarily metrosexual. Many prefer a polished look or are suit and tie types. I've never been into ruggedness or facial hair. I prefer someone who dresses well and complements my appearance. I love looking pretty and feminine. That means dresses and heels and skirts on occasion. I don't care for jeans or slacks. While I have my own look I consider my companion's preferences. As long as it isn't immodest we'll add pieces to my wardrobe. But we have similar tastes and that's a must.

I love a tailored look for a man the most. There's nothing like a garment that fits your silhouette and hits all the right spots. It elevates his appearance. I like cashmere too and men wear it well.

Rugged has been around for the longest time. So a woman who prefers rugged is probably going to stick around much longer than someone chasing trends.

That isn't true and there's lot of them in the manosphere. Women leave men from all backgrounds and money's the number one reason couples divorce. Given the proliferation of aspirational content she'll encounter something she wants to see, do or a place she wants to go continually. Contentment will be your primary issue unless she's immune and the majority aren't. They always want something.

I find it annoying. Even road vehicles today, car, SUV, and truck aesthetics are designed to look mean and angry.

There's some pretty ones on the road but they're costly.

~bella

 

[timewerx]

Women leave men from all backgrounds and money's the number one reason couples divorce. Given the proliferation of aspirational content she'll encounter something she wants to see, do or a place she wants to go continually. Contentment will be your primary issue unless she's immune and the majority aren't. They always want something.

I did some research into this some time ago while at first glance, the #1 cause of divorce isn't money, I think it was stress or poor communication or high expectations. Any of those can also be attributed to financial problems.

So it would seem statistics is trying to hide the fact money is the #1 cause of divorce.

And Apostle Paul would be right in these matters. That being single is better for these very reasons. It frees you from trying to live up to the expectations of another person, instead of serving the Lord.

Or at least we should very carefully choose someone to marry.

There's some pretty ones on the road but they're costly.

Porsche, Rolls Royce, and Bugatti comes to mind as the makes not yet sold into the hype of angry-looking designs.

You can still get older, cheap, used models. Not really into cars anymore but I still love to drive.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I find it annoying. Even road vehicles today, car, SUV, and truck aesthetics are designed to look mean and angry.

But if it's trending, it must be what most people (analytics) find most attractive.

The angry, mean looks representing hatred and coldness. What the human society has become.

Best known as "brooding". Men look more attractive when they "Brood"

 

[timewerx]

Best known as "brooding". Men look more attractive when they "Brood"

Women also look attractive when they brood without that silly overdone make up style.

 

[High Fidelity]

People find different things attractive.

I’m not sure why it’s considered metrosexual to be fashionably astute. Wearing a t-shirt and jeans sounds pretty boring to me. I’d still likely wear jeans, but with a nice shirt tucked in, nice belt and brogues. Minimal effort in the grand scheme of things, I just think it’s worth that effort.

I tend to wear different shirt colours and materials depending on the weather, too.

I’ve often gotten compliments on dressing and smelling nice. It’s not hard. Probably every day I’m told I smell nice and asked what I’m wearing.

 

[TheLastGeek]

People find different things attractive.

I’m not sure why it’s considered metrosexual to be fashionably astute. Wearing a t-shirt and jeans sounds pretty boring to me. I’d still likely wear jeans, but with a nice shirt tucked in, nice belt and brogues. Minimal effort in the grand scheme of things, I just think it’s worth that effort.

I tend to wear different shirt colours and materials depending on the weather, too.

I’ve often gotten compliments on dressing and smelling nice. It’s not hard. Probably every day I’m told I smell nice and asked what I’m wearing.

This goes right back to my comments about how everyone should do whatever is authentic and comfortable for themselves! What a boring world this would be if everyone looked and dressed and behaved exactly alike. I have no doubt you look and smell marvelous. And it's totally possible to appreciate and compliment someone's appearance without it involving sexual or romantic attraction. If I notice someone - male or female - with a shirt or piece of jewelry or hairstyle that catches my eye, I try to pay them a compliment (if it seems appropriate to do so). You get the bonus of making them smile and brightening their day.

 

[bèlla]

And Apostle Paul would be right in these matters. That being single is better for these very reasons. It frees you from trying to live up to the expectations of another person, instead of serving the Lord.

Or at least we should very carefully choose someone to marry.

That's not a flaw of the covenant but the result of poor choices. If you choose wrong you should expect hardships. If people would focus more on fit than emotions they wouldn't be in court.

My grandmother wasn't head over heels. She liked someone else but her sister persuaded her against him in deference to my grandfather. He was a close friend of the family (they grew up together) and they knew his character. She said he'd be a great provider and father and she was correct.

But most people rely on themselves or friends for input. That's why they err.

Porsche, Rolls Royce, and Bugatti comes to mind as the makes not yet sold into the hype of angry-looking designs.

You need a driver for a Rolls. It's a better experience in the back and that's what you're paying for. Bentley has a different feel and is more apropos if you want drive. Porsche is too small and Bugatti requires security. I wouldn't spend that much on a car (Bugatti) out of my pocket. That's better put towards art or real estate.

~bella

 

[exitstageright]

That's not a flaw of the covenant but the result of poor choices. If you choose wrong you should expect hardships. If people would focus more on fit than emotions they wouldn't be in court.

My grandmother wasn't head over heels. She liked someone else but her sister persuaded her against him in deference to my grandfather. He was a close friend of the family (they grew up together) and they knew his character. She said he'd be a great provider and father and she was correct.

But most people rely on themselves or friends for input. That's why they err.



You need a driver for a Rolls. It's a better experience in the back and that's what you're paying for. Bentley has a different feel and is more apropos if you want drive. Porsche is too small and Bugatti requires security. I wouldn't spend that much on a car (Bugatti) out of my pocket. That's better put towards art or real estate.

~bella

If I could afford a Bentley, I would not drive it. Because, if I could afford a Bentley, I could afford someone ( a chauffeur ) to drive it for me.

 

[High Fidelity]

If I could afford a Bentley, I would not drive it. Because, if I could afford a Bentley, I could afford someone ( a chauffeur ) to drive it for me.

I think you’re overestimating how much a Bentley costs lol

 

[exitstageright]

I think you’re overestimating how much a Bentley costs lol

A 2024 Bentley cost from $205,925 to $339,150,depending on the options that one wants on the car.

 

[bèlla]

A 2024 Bentley cost from $205,925 to $339,150,depending on the options that one wants on the car.

That isn't a lot of money. The price is prohibitive if you're dependent on a salary.

$340,000 is simply your product X a predetermined amount of sales.

Thus 1,000 sales x $350 (early adopters) = $350K

When you view money through hours you'll always come up short.

~bella