1.In regards to kolasis, nobody is saying it doesn’t mean punishment, only that its purpose is remedial and not retributive.
It is Judicial. It has nothing to do with God being a "mean, angry God" getting back at those who did not obey Him.
2.You keep saying ‘aionios’ always means eternal. You really need to stop saying that because it simply is not true. Marvin Vincent (who is NOT a universalist), author of the very respected, Vincent’s Word Studies in the New Testament, disagrees with you when he writes, “The adjective aionios in like manner [to aion] carries the idea of time. Neither the noun [aion] nor the adjective [aionios], in themselves, carry the sense of endless or everlasting…Aionios means enduring through or pertaining to a period of time. Both the noun and the adjective are applied to limited periods.” (Vincent, Marvin, Vincent’s Word Studies in the New Testament, Vol IV, p. 59)
The context defines the duration, and there are numerous contexts that make it clear the punishment is everlasting.
Eternal and everlasting are used interchangeably in translations based on, in my opinion, the quality of the translator. "Eternal" can be used when the context is eternal. In regards to ETernal Life," there is indeed an eternal context because the Life we receive is in fact Eternal because we receive the Life of God Himself—Who is Eternal.
Eternal Life is also everlasting life. The dead will live everlasting but they do not have Eternal Life because they are not in Christ.
Matthew 25:46
King James Version
46 And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
It is my opinion that this could read "eternal punishment" because Hell, the Lake of Fire—is outside of this universe, just as Heaven is. The "Eternal" refers to God's Realm and that which is part of a spiritual world we do not really understand at this time. This universe passes away and the Lake of Fire is still in existence. In Heaven? Not really possible since death (which is separation) will not exist in the Eternal State.
We also see an everlasting duration of Everlasting Punishment based on the wording of several passages teaching us about the fate of the lost:
Revelation 20:10
And the devil that deceived them was cast into the lake of fire and brimstone, where the beast and the false prophet are, and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
Day and night forever and ever" doesn't leave a lot of room for "an age" of puishment.
Jude
King James Version
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For there are certain men crept in unawares, who were before of old ordained to this condemnation, ungodly men, turning the grace of our God into lasciviousness, and denying the only Lord God, and our Lord Jesus Christ.
5 I will therefore put you in remembrance, though ye once knew this, how that the Lord, having saved the people out of the land of Egypt, afterward destroyed them that believed not.
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And the angels which kept not their first estate, but left their own habitation, he hath reserved in everlasting chains under darkness unto the judgment of the great day.
You teach that men that deny the only Lord God and Jesus Christ will simply get a spanking and then they will go into the Eternal State and be part of the One Fold.
7 Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
The imagery here is these people are an example of those who are suffering (not will suffer, not have suffered) the vengeance of eternal fire, meaning—the judgment of the Eternal God.
There is a reason why most translations have eternal.
12 These are spots in your feasts of charity, when they feast with you, feeding themselves without fear: clouds they are without water, carried about of winds; trees whose fruit withereth, without fruit, twice dead, plucked up by the roots;
You teach that the Lord was wrong when He said "Except a man be born again he cannot see the Kingdom of God.
They are "twice dead" because they are destined to suffer the Second Death, the second separation from God.
13 Raging waves of the sea, foaming out their own shame; wandering stars, to whom is reserved the blackness of darkness for ever.
You can't reasonably conclude, after reading all of the passages teaching about the destination of the Lost—that their reservation is just for an "age."
And when the scholars that have translated this verse as the blackness of darkness is reserved forever there seems to be a consensus as to the context and meaning.
And just as in every teaching concerning Eternal Punishment, thses are contrasted with those who will not go into Everlasting Punishment:
20 But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost,
21 Keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.
It matters whether people believe in Jesus Christ. It matters that people obey the Gospel.
In this life.
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