I hadn't heard it either. But this is what I found.
Black Pill or blackpilled is an expression, referring to the taking of the allegorical black pill; not as bright colored as the red and blue in the Matrix movies, but a lot more intense.
Taking the black pill basically refers to the realization to the ugly truth of life; the world is a hostile and unequal place, set in the favor of certain people with certain characteristics; be it sex, skin color, intelligence or looks, all people are born different with different potential.
This is another definition for dating purposes.
The Blackpill ideology claims that physical attractiveness is the primary determining factor in dating and relationship success. Unlike the Bluebill and Redpill ideologies, Blackpill maintains that the effects that physical appearance has on one’s performance and results in the dating world cannot be remedied by improving personality, clothing, hairstyle or hygiene.
Any non-physical characteristics, such as personality, will simply be shadowed by one’s physical appearance which include facial proportionality, height, body fat percentage and frame. The theory also holds that women generally want to ‘date up’ (hypergamy) and tend to look for men who are higher than them in status and attractiveness which leaves average men with even less options.
This reminds me of a program that used to come on television. She was a matchmaker for wealthy singles. Her clients ranged in looks and personalities as you'd expect. But she always had a few who believed their wealth would offset their deficiencies. Especially in appearance. They never got the girl and she'd have to have a heart to heart. Their desires were unrealistic. But they didn't want to hear it. They believed money was enough.
She told them something I never forgot. She said a 10 will never choose you because she's a 10. She can find someone in a similar range with means. She doesn't have to settle. Some of them listened but a few were upset.
While I hasten to say they're right. It's an interesting example of that perspective. Money didn't make the difference some assumed. They could get an attractive woman. But she wasn't a knockout. And that's the one they wanted. The majority desired to marry and settle down. The ones who listened made a good match and continued.
The black pill is a modern way of addressing privilege and its impact on relationships. I think there's some truth to what they've said. But I don't think its hopeless. All things are possible with God.