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a millennial neighbor living at home with mother has an abusive boyfriend
police have gone there many times, 2X in last mos alone

heard screaming this morn, so went out, walked by, & spoke to him; he said "mind my own business & go back to my house" & put garage door down
came home & heard screaming again

have seen him put his hands on her before
one time she was screaming "you made me bleed!" that time a neighbor called police/they took him away

should I have called police today?
I think so.
 
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Before you involve yourself make certain that you can defend yourself against the culprit. If he believes you can be another one of his victims, he won't hesitate to make you a participant. There are instances of the victim siding with the abuser against the person injecting themselves into the cycle.
 
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Before you involve yourself make certain that you can defend yourself against the culprit. If he believes you can be another one of his victims, he won't hesitate to make you a participant. There are instances of the victim siding with the abuser against the person injecting themselves into the cycle.
I think staying out of it and simply calling the police is the best bet.
 
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I would call the police and if nothing is done, which is often the case, I'd write times and dates in a notebook documenting the various incidences that you were witness to. perhaps with enough documentation, this abuser could face repercussions for his behavior.
 
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a millennial neighbor living at home with mother has an abusive boyfriend; police have arrived many times, 2X in last mos alone

heard screaming this morn, so I walked by, & spoke to him; he said "mind your own business & go back to your house" & put garage door down
came home & heard screaming again

have seen him put his hands on her
one time she was screaming "you made me bleed!" that time a neighbor called police/they took him away

should I have called police today?
Protect yourself first but then call the cops every time. Have the neighbors call the cops every time. When he finally kills her the prior abuse will be well documented. Or maybe you may just save her life.
 
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a millennial neighbor living at home with mother has an abusive boyfriend; police have arrived many times, 2X in last mos alone

heard screaming this morn, so I walked by, & spoke to him; he said "mind your own business & go back to your house" & put garage door down
came home & heard screaming again

have seen him put his hands on her
one time she was screaming "you made me bleed!" that time a neighbor called police/they took him away

should I have called police today?


Talk to the other neighbours and set up a watsap group so you can co ordenate responces and protect each other.
As already mentioned keep a diary of events and if worried always call the police and never leave your house to appear to interviene..

If you know any cops, ask them for advice, but basicly stay out of it and call the police/ambulance etc.
 
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a millennial neighbor living at home with mother has an abusive boyfriend; police have arrived many times, 2X in last mos alone

heard screaming this morn, so I walked by, & spoke to him; he said "mind your own business & go back to your house" & put garage door down
came home & heard screaming again

have seen him put his hands on her
one time she was screaming "you made me bleed!" that time a neighbor called police/they took him away

should I have called police today?

In future events, do call the police.You have a right to quiet. I was an apartment building manager for a few years. We were not trained in morality, spying, or police procedures. When the resident drug dealer kicked prostitutes out into the hall naked, I spoke to him about guests not being escorted in the halls was a safety issue. I gave him a warning about it happening again and disturbing the other residents. He was more careful from then on.
 
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a millennial neighbor living at home with mother has an abusive boyfriend; police have arrived many times, 2X in last mos alone

heard screaming this morn, so I walked by, & spoke to him; he said "mind your own business & go back to your house" & put garage door down
came home & heard screaming again

have seen him put his hands on her
one time she was screaming "you made me bleed!" that time a neighbor called police/they took him away

should I have called police today?
Take them both to small claims court and sue for the maximum damages. Last I checked it was $4,500 but it could vary by state or jurisdiction. You have a right to peace and quiet so that you can enjoy your property. It would be no different if they were playing loud music. Document when and how often the police have come out and this will be good evidence to support your suit. The police aren't dealing with the problem so you are resorting to the courts to seek redress. Whatever you do, do not get involved in a domestic dispute. That is what the police are for.
 
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