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Looks like I'll technically be "homeless" for a few weeks at the end of this month and first half of August, living in a hotel until I can find an apartment/townhome in the Springs. Kind of scary... Never been in this position before in my life. Please pray for my sons and me. Thanks.
 
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Thank you all. Looks like we made the difficult decision that my oldest son and his cat will move down to my mother's house in Louisiana for several months (probably leave in August or early September and hopefully return next May) in order for my youngest son and I to be able to get an apartment with just two cats. Hoping the income issue will be figured out, too, as it is also a key factor, considering whatever alimony and such I'm to get is again, up in the air, and a job in the Springs is highly likely, but since I'm in this income limbo presently, I have no income history to show. I was a SAHM for 22 years. Hoping this works because I've been in tears off and on all day over this dilemma, and now separating from my oldest son for several months for the first time. It'll be good for him, help him to mature, gain some work experience. However, it's also gutting me, and tearing me apart. But I'll hopefully get through that and move forward and will talk to him every day.
 
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So you are basically starting over, it sounds like. You haven’t had a job all these years to save up a retirement, so you’ll likely be working for a long time. You have a college degree, right, Dot?

Thank you all. Looks like we made the difficult decision that my oldest son and his cat will move down to my mother's house in Louisiana for several months (probably leave in August or early September and hopefully return next May) in order for my youngest son and I to be able to get an apartment with just two cats. Hoping the income issue will be figured out, too, as it is also a key factor, considering whatever alimony and such I'm to get is again, up in the air, and a job in the Springs is highly likely, but since I'm in this income limbo presently, I have no income history to show. I was a SAHM for 22 years. Hoping this works because I've been in tears off and on all day over this dilemma, and now separating from my oldest son for several months for the first time. It'll be good for him, help him to mature, gain some work experience. However, it's also gutting me, and tearing me apart. But I'll hopefully get through that and move forward and will talk to him every day.
 
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So you are basically starting over, it sounds like. You haven’t had a job all these years to save up a retirement, so you’ll likely be working for a long time. You have a college degree, right, Dot?
Yes, but it's in creative writing (and English regarding that). The problem is, I'm not a technical writer and don't have the qualifications for a professional editor. I have an old business degree from decades ago. The good thing about that is I've been typing and on computers since 1996. The bad thing is I've not gotten down Excel or some of Word's and Outlooks business-centered formulas or what have you. I learned on WordPerfect. lol In any case, the place I'm supposed to start volunteering toward the end of this month (a rescue mission campus for homeless people) has a real potential of turning into a job, thank God. So I have 40 hours of volunteering to do, which you can only volunteer once a week to start, so for me, about 4-5 weeks of volunteering. The good thing is the volunteer job they're putting me in is in the admin office (I got an admin. asst. degree at the business college in 1991) and it encompasses data entry and minutes, filing, etc. I also will be trained. This will get me back into what I learned years ago, and I'll have experience on my resume. So, I'm very thankful for this opportunity. Thankful for a friend at church who works there, as well as my financial advisor's connection to one of the supervisors there. Connections, especially these days, make the biggest difference. Now, if we can just get into an apartment, we'll be ok.

Still going through the divorce. Had to get a new lawyer because the previous one didn't advocate for me. She basically didn't want to work and just wanted everything over with. So anytime I asked questions about legal documents sent to us from his lawyer and questions on the mediation items, I was met with I'm dragging my feet and taking too long and not accepting whatever is put in front of me. It's been an agonizing past several months. But my new lawyer and her paralegal are stellar, thank God. I feel I have people representing me that actually care about me and my son and care that we don't end up in poverty that my husband has shown he doesn't care about.

Yes, it's starting all over again. A major transition in my life. I'm amazed I've done pretty well during all these life changes, since my anxiety's top trigger is situational change. Panic attacks come on, but I've dealt with them since I was 20, and I have some medication for both. But as my friends have said, and I've noticed, every day, every week, every month, I've grown stronger and my mind is clearer and sharper. Thank God. My main struggle now is convincing a landlord to accept me and my lack of income history because I was a SAHM for 22 years. I'm trying to contact directly these people to tell them I can pay the leasing term up front while transitioning and gaining income history. I'll be attempting this this morning with an agent of the property management group for one of the apartments I looked at yesterday. Please pray they are understanding of my circumstances and give me a chance.

Thank you.
 
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Well, Dot, I'm really sorry to hear every bit of this. Change creates huge anxiety for me as well. It's silly to say, but for years and years I've gotten super nervous about 2 weeks before school resumes second week of August. I've done the job for decades, but it's like stage fright for some actors that never leaves. I get worse and worse until my food just goes right through me and I can't sleep. Dumb! And my problems pale in comparison. So, I can only imagine with your life in unheavel like this, it has to be anxiety-creating. I still think you did the right thing and God has good things for you around the corner, just hard to see right now in the haze of all this chaos.

You're right about connections! And I think God uses them for our betterment sometimes.

I was laughing about Word Perfect because I remember the same exact experience! I learned to type in high school on typewriters and then they all of a sudden got us computers and they were like 386's LOL!!!!! Wow! Word Perfect! This is awesome! LOL!!!!!

Money is no longer an object with us at this stage in our lives, but I do still keep continuing with my Teachers Pay Teachers store. I just hit 100 items in my store actually. I'm now earning about $200 a month on there and almost hit $400 a couple times. It's really rolling. I was wondering if you ever considered designing stuff on there? You're an English major so I bet you could come up with some clever items!

Yes, but it's in creative writing (and English regarding that). The problem is, I'm not a technical writer and don't have the qualifications for a professional editor. I have an old business degree from decades ago. The good thing about that is I've been typing and on computers since 1996. The bad thing is I've not gotten down Excel or some of Word's and Outlooks business-centered formulas or what have you. I learned on WordPerfect. lol In any case, the place I'm supposed to start volunteering toward the end of this month (a rescue mission campus for homeless people) has a real potential of turning into a job, thank God. So I have 40 hours of volunteering to do, which you can only volunteer once a week to start, so for me, about 4-5 weeks of volunteering. The good thing is the volunteer job they're putting me in is in the admin office (I got an admin. asst. degree at the business college in 1991) and it encompasses data entry and minutes, filing, etc. I also will be trained. This will get me back into what I learned years ago, and I'll have experience on my resume. So, I'm very thankful for this opportunity. Thankful for a friend at church who works there, as well as my financial advisor's connection to one of the supervisors there. Connections, especially these days, make the biggest difference. Now, if we can just get into an apartment, we'll be ok.

Still going through the divorce. Had to get a new lawyer because the previous one didn't advocate for me. She basically didn't want to work and just wanted everything over with. So anytime I asked questions about legal documents sent to us from his lawyer and questions on the mediation items, I was met with I'm dragging my feet and taking too long and not accepting whatever is put in front of me. It's been an agonizing past several months. But my new lawyer and her paralegal are stellar, thank God. I feel I have people representing me that actually care about me and my son and care that we don't end up in poverty that my husband has shown he doesn't care about.

Yes, it's starting all over again. A major transition in my life. I'm amazed I've done pretty well during all these life changes, since my anxiety's top trigger is situational change. Panic attacks come on, but I've dealt with them since I was 20, and I have some medication for both. But as my friends have said, and I've noticed, every day, every week, every month, I've grown stronger and my mind is clearer and sharper. Thank God. My main struggle now is convincing a landlord to accept me and my lack of income history because I was a SAHM for 22 years. I'm trying to contact directly these people to tell them I can pay the leasing term up front while transitioning and gaining income history. I'll be attempting this this morning with an agent of the property management group for one of the apartments I looked at yesterday. Please pray they are understanding of my circumstances and give me a chance.

Thank you.
 
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Well, Dot, I'm really sorry to hear every bit of this. Change creates huge anxiety for me as well. It's silly to say, but for years and years I've gotten super nervous about 2 weeks before school resumes second week of August. I've done the job for decades, but it's like stage fright for some actors that never leaves. I get worse and worse until my food just goes right through me and I can't sleep. Dumb! And my problems pale in comparison. So, I can only imagine with your life in unheavel like this, it has to be anxiety-creating. I still think you did the right thing and God has good things for you around the corner, just hard to see right now in the haze of all this chaos.

You're right about connections! And I think God uses them for our betterment sometimes.

I was laughing about Word Perfect because I remember the same exact experience! I learned to type in high school on typewriters and then they all of a sudden got us computers and they were like 386's LOL!!!!! Wow! Word Perfect! This is awesome! LOL!!!!!

Money is no longer an object with us at this stage in our lives, but I do still keep continuing with my Teachers Pay Teachers store. I just hit 100 items in my store actually. I'm now earning about $200 a month on there and almost hit $400 a couple times. It's really rolling. I was wondering if you ever considered designing stuff on there? You're an English major so I bet you could come up with some clever items!
Wow. I never would have guessed you had anxiety before school starting each year. But I suppose that's not too unusual. I can understand it. :)

Thanks for your understanding of my circumstances. Yes, I do believe I did the right thing not only for me, but for my sons, for sure.

Actually, the first time I typed was on my dad's electric typewriter when I was twelve. I did the old index finger pecking then. lol Then, I moved onto my dad's Commodore 64. lol Remember those? Blue screens and all? Then, in business college, I worked on Wang computers and computers with WordPerfect. lol I took two years of typing in high school - 10th and 11th grade. I ended up going to business college because, although I loved working at the records and tapes store when I was 20, I realized I couldn't support myself on that salary. lol Figured, hey, I know how to type, so I went to business college. :D Last typing test I took last August was something like 113 wpm with no errors. Yeah. I've been a fast typer since I was in my 20s. It meant a lot back then. Now everyone types, so it's not so special, I guess. :) 386s. Nearly forgot about them. lol Yeah, I vaguely remember them!

I don't know what the Teachers pay Teachers program is. I've never heard of it, but it sounds like you are having fun with it. :)

Thanks for the support!
 
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Prayers for you, dear @Dorothea!

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I went through a divorce some years ago that dragged on for years and was a nightmare. In the end it was my attorney that did me a great disservice, so I’m glad you’ve gotten a better one.

I don’t have any great advice. But you have my prayers. God be with you and your sons.
 
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Prayers for you, dear @Dorothea!

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I went through a divorce some years ago that dragged on for years and was a nightmare. In the end it was my attorney that did me a great disservice, so I’m glad you’ve gotten a better one.

I don’t have any great advice. But you have my prayers. God be with you and your sons.
Thanks so much. And it's good to "see" you!
 
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