- May 22, 2021
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Hey all. Figured I'd post in here about a struggle I am facing.
At some point, I decided that I really wanted to improve my life. I became aware of the idea of proximity, or as Jim Rohn puts it: "You are the average of the people you spend the most time with." Well, I decided that I wanted to cut out all of my toxic relationships. But it turns out that pretty much all of my friendships were toxic and detrimental to my growth as a person.
So now I am in a position where I pretty much have no friends. I can't think of anyone I can go to or that I desire to spend time with, and this feeling is killing me.
As an introvert, I really am not interested in superficial/shallow friendships. I want something deep, meaningful, someone I can grow with, and therefore, I am not particularly interested in investing in friendships with non-Christians. But what I have found is that just about every Christian I meet is really extroverted, and so I feel drained when I am around them because there is endless small talk. If I have common interests that allow me to connect on a shallower level, I become more extroverted. But Christians I meet tend to not have the same interests as me (video games, anime, and other nerdy things).
I recognize that I have an easier time making friends when I am able to connect on a shallower level that is about common interests rather than common values. But not only are the people who like the same interests as me non-Christian, many of them actively HATE Christians because they have had bad experiences in the past.
I have tried to find young adult groups at churches near me, but because of my work schedule, I cannot attend any of them.
I don't know... I'm just in a spot where I am feeling overwhelmingly lonely, and unable to find anyone who I connect with in terms of both interests and values.
Any suggestions?
At some point, I decided that I really wanted to improve my life. I became aware of the idea of proximity, or as Jim Rohn puts it: "You are the average of the people you spend the most time with." Well, I decided that I wanted to cut out all of my toxic relationships. But it turns out that pretty much all of my friendships were toxic and detrimental to my growth as a person.
So now I am in a position where I pretty much have no friends. I can't think of anyone I can go to or that I desire to spend time with, and this feeling is killing me.
As an introvert, I really am not interested in superficial/shallow friendships. I want something deep, meaningful, someone I can grow with, and therefore, I am not particularly interested in investing in friendships with non-Christians. But what I have found is that just about every Christian I meet is really extroverted, and so I feel drained when I am around them because there is endless small talk. If I have common interests that allow me to connect on a shallower level, I become more extroverted. But Christians I meet tend to not have the same interests as me (video games, anime, and other nerdy things).
I recognize that I have an easier time making friends when I am able to connect on a shallower level that is about common interests rather than common values. But not only are the people who like the same interests as me non-Christian, many of them actively HATE Christians because they have had bad experiences in the past.
I have tried to find young adult groups at churches near me, but because of my work schedule, I cannot attend any of them.
I don't know... I'm just in a spot where I am feeling overwhelmingly lonely, and unable to find anyone who I connect with in terms of both interests and values.
Any suggestions?