My goodness, I had no idea mental illness was so prevalent in college. Watching the video you posted (and the second part) has been the highlight of my year (even longer most likely) and really helped bolster my faith too where I have struggled to believe
! It was very interesting and enlightening seeing the 10 commandments summarized in one-word key terms and linked to the 10 cognitive distortions.
I definitely agree with the preacher that emotional intelligence is very important for mental health. I've made a lot of progress with the symptoms of my mental illness by being able to manage, say, paranoia or frustration. Leading up to and especially during psychosis, I had very strong emotions that were controlling me and fueled the delusions (because the emotions seemed so real and true instead of just being information with the only truth of it being that they were trying to signal me something in regards to what I was thinking). It's a shame that grade school doesn't teach emotional intelligence, grade school is structured just to make factory/business worker drones and cares little about developing individuals, something I unconsciously internally fought fervently against and that I am/was diametrically opposed to in my quest for self-actualization.
I had problems with religious rebellion (like the prodigal son) and self absorption and still have problems with unforgiveness of being that way from trauma. I've always wanted to be a model person for God, but with all the bigger-than-I-can-handle trauma piled on top of me throughout the years, I instead resented God for allowing that to happen. Yes, I blame my selfishness both on trauma and social difficulties from high-functioning autism that naturally prevented me from connecting with others and thus being more self-absorbed, and from not being taught but instead hurt. If I didn't hurt and had a better understanding of the correct way to be, then I wouldn't have had pain of self driving for my attention.
Reflecting back, the only lesson childhood trauma has taught me is that if only I had allowed myself to be mean and tougher, then I could have done the standing up to / instant karma / revenge necessary to stop the abusive people in their tracks. I thought about the trauma like "water off a duck's back," stick and stones break no bones... I did my absolute best to forgive instantly and let people walk over me out of love and a desire to be good and Christlike, but that didn't make the bullies any nicer, and, unbeknownst to me until it happened, the cumulative trauma of my childhood likely germinated the seeds of the mental illness that cost me brain cells, what extra giftedness/intelligence I had, and moving forward in life and career. When that happened, I went from forgiveness to unforgiveness. I'm still confused with the best approach to affronts from others, but that hasn't been a problem since grade school. Is forgiveness and total pacifism the best and right way to approach enemies?
I've wrestled with the fact that life isn't fair, because I was blessed with less. If I was blessed with more and had the intelligence and good childhood I wanted, I would have enjoyed the unfairness of life but been a saint about it anyway, and back then it would be a slam-dunk that God could have had me, no bitterness or resentment toward Him for the hand of cards He dealt me.
However, removed from that bad bullying environment and active psychosis that eventually followed, I've had time to think more clearly and see things as making good out of my life and not necessarily focusing on making good from the trauma I hated. For a good while I have been becoming more informed, so I might as well work on being unselfish instead of still carrying unforgiveness for the injustices God allowed in my past. I think the lion share of selfishness I've been able to deal with and hence have few emotional and mental health difficulties, but still it shows with this new desire for possessions.
Interestingly, a recent psychosis itself provided a perspective, false and delusion-fueled but still a very good simulation, about having more. It must have been a strong delusion from God for my bitter rebellion against Him back then. I learned with great power came great responsibility, a burden I could not shoulder. I felt and feel much more comfortable and happy having an easy life with little responsibility and freedom to pursue the hobbies and activities I've desired.
Thanks again for the support and videos. I wish I could have connected this post to the videos more, but the videos really helped with my Christian faith and belief in the scriptures
! Seeing how there is so much (infinite) wisdom in the scriptures that only gets revealed more and more as time passes is really a beautiful aspect of the Word of God.
God Bless!