What do your children's spouses call you?

[PloverWing]

The oldest of my now-adult children is about to get married, and for the first time I'm facing the ancient and perplexing question: what should my children's spouses call me? (I had this same bafflement on the other end when I was a new daughter-in-law, years ago.) "Mom" isn't quite right, because I'm not their mother. My students call me Dr. [lastname], but that sounds too formal for a relative. There's my first name, I suppose. I'm not actually super fond of my first name , but it's what other adults call me. When there are grandchildren, I suppose "Grandma" is an option, but there are no grandchildren yet.

So I thought I'd ask CF: What do your children-in-law call you? How did you decide on a name/title/whatever that was satisfactory to you both?

Or, on the other side of it: How do you address your mother-in-law, and how did you decide on that name/title?

 

[Albion]

In my case, no decision was ever discussed. My first name is used routinely and I take it for granted. Anything else would probably sound affected now.

 

[splish- splash]

Depends on people and their cultural backgrounds.

 

[Occams Barber]

The oldest of my now-adult children is about to get married, and for the first time I'm facing the ancient and perplexing question: what should my children's spouses call me? (I had this same bafflement on the other end when I was a new daughter-in-law, years ago.) "Mom" isn't quite right, because I'm not their mother. My students call me Dr. [lastname], but that sounds too formal for a relative. There's my first name, I suppose. I'm not actually super fond of my first name , but it's what other adults call me. When there are grandchildren, I suppose "Grandma" is an option, but there are no grandchildren yet.

So I thought I'd ask CF: What do your children-in-law call you? How did you decide on a name/title/whatever that was satisfactory to you both?

Or, on the other side of it: How do you address your mother-in-law, and how did you decide on that name/title?

I called my mother-in-law and father-in-law by their first name.

My daughter-in-law calls both me and my ex by first name.

My grandkids call me Grandpa (First name)

I also called both my mother and father by their first name as did my sister and brother. My ex also called her parents by first name.

So... first names.


OB

 

[98cwitr]

"Honey"

Then my son started calling me "Honey"...had to fix that quick