- Dec 13, 2015
- 5,255
- 4,227
- 37
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Calvinist
- Marital Status
- Married
So I was listening to some sermons from a well known Pastor on Youtube named Jeff Durbin like I do on a regular basis. He's an elder of Apologia Studios in case nobody knows who he is. In one of his sermons he kind of upset me like Steven Lawson used to upset my wife in many of his sermons (Both Pastors tend to speak their minds on the truth and don't care about it hurting or offending people).
Anyway, in said sermon Durbin said that people have no right to carry the label Reformed or Calvinist unless they are in regular Church attendance with a good Reformed local church. It was almost like he was saying that such people aren't saved (Complete hogwash. We are saved by God given faith in the Gospel. Salvation is 100% a work of God, we are not saved by our attendance in Church) and he also said that people who do not attend Church regularly are outside the will of God.
Ok so it's probably true. God expects the members of his church to attend church. But, to say that you have no right to call yourself Reformed or a Calvinist if you don't attend a regular church is just ridiculous and upsets me greatly. Probably because it hits home and I haven't attended a Reformed Church since I was almost a baby. Calvinism is not a matter of Church attendance but its a matter of believing the things that Calvin talked about and wrote. It's a matter of going out in the community and talking about not only Calvinism but Christianity in itself. I bear the label Calvinist because I believe in, agree with, talk about daily and practice the Reformed faith.
But, at the same time I want to attend a church. My wife has been bugging me to attend a good Reformed Church for years, telling me about these Churches that are several hours away and are completely unrealistic to attend even once a week let alone a regular basis.
The thing is, every year I keep promising her that we will attend a church of some kind because it has to be within God's will. Especially when Pastors talk it up so much. But each and every year I ask my mother for a car loan and she doesn't provide I feel more and more like a liar and a horrible person. (She's lent my sister tens and tens of thousands of dollars in car loans and various different things that my sister and her husband hardly ever paid back. I've never been late on a loan or rent or anything from my mother in my darned life. She ALWAYS gets her money back.)
So I know what you're thinking why don't you just save up for a car yourself and buy one? Well, I'm on disability and get SSI and I'm not allowed more than $3,000 at a time and half the time I can't have more than $1,500 in the bank before they say I go over, its ridiculous. So anything more expensive than $3,000 I need my mother or a credit card for (My mother is the only financially supported member of my family. My sister has gone bankrupt so many times I cannot even count which you guessed it, my mother bailed her out of with no repayment back). If I charged a car or went with a car loan my parents would go through the roof, it's bad enough that they hate when I even have $300 in debt from giving money to Charity or when I have debt from my own personal usages. (Oh they know because Charities always send letters in the mail that they open sometimes asking for more money. And of course every time I charge, my mom's gotta know about it. She thinks my bills are ridiculous when really all I do is pay rent to her and charge probably $3-$500 a month on my card which ofc, I pay all the time and have NEVER been late on that wasn't the creditors fault)
I prayed to God the other day that I'm ready. I want to make my wife happy because she's been begging me for a Church for years. In fact, I've been waiting and waiting patiently for the next step of my life that God wants me to achieve and... nothing. It's the same things and the same works each and everyday. He's added some new people in my life to work on and to preach the gospel to and new Christians for encouragement but so far anything else or new? Nothing. I just have to be reminded each and everyday what a loser I am because I cannot provide the things that my wife wants and needs and seemingly what God wants from me especially something so simple as a Church. It's also really difficult to get a car pool to go to Church too when the closest church is at least 3 and a half hours away.
I know... these are all excuses but to me they're reasons. I'm just... really upset with myself right now. I don't know what I want, I don't want to feel better. I just want to go into a pit and stay there for the rest of eternity.
Anyway, in said sermon Durbin said that people have no right to carry the label Reformed or Calvinist unless they are in regular Church attendance with a good Reformed local church. It was almost like he was saying that such people aren't saved (Complete hogwash. We are saved by God given faith in the Gospel. Salvation is 100% a work of God, we are not saved by our attendance in Church) and he also said that people who do not attend Church regularly are outside the will of God.
Ok so it's probably true. God expects the members of his church to attend church. But, to say that you have no right to call yourself Reformed or a Calvinist if you don't attend a regular church is just ridiculous and upsets me greatly. Probably because it hits home and I haven't attended a Reformed Church since I was almost a baby. Calvinism is not a matter of Church attendance but its a matter of believing the things that Calvin talked about and wrote. It's a matter of going out in the community and talking about not only Calvinism but Christianity in itself. I bear the label Calvinist because I believe in, agree with, talk about daily and practice the Reformed faith.
But, at the same time I want to attend a church. My wife has been bugging me to attend a good Reformed Church for years, telling me about these Churches that are several hours away and are completely unrealistic to attend even once a week let alone a regular basis.
The thing is, every year I keep promising her that we will attend a church of some kind because it has to be within God's will. Especially when Pastors talk it up so much. But each and every year I ask my mother for a car loan and she doesn't provide I feel more and more like a liar and a horrible person. (She's lent my sister tens and tens of thousands of dollars in car loans and various different things that my sister and her husband hardly ever paid back. I've never been late on a loan or rent or anything from my mother in my darned life. She ALWAYS gets her money back.)
So I know what you're thinking why don't you just save up for a car yourself and buy one? Well, I'm on disability and get SSI and I'm not allowed more than $3,000 at a time and half the time I can't have more than $1,500 in the bank before they say I go over, its ridiculous. So anything more expensive than $3,000 I need my mother or a credit card for (My mother is the only financially supported member of my family. My sister has gone bankrupt so many times I cannot even count which you guessed it, my mother bailed her out of with no repayment back). If I charged a car or went with a car loan my parents would go through the roof, it's bad enough that they hate when I even have $300 in debt from giving money to Charity or when I have debt from my own personal usages. (Oh they know because Charities always send letters in the mail that they open sometimes asking for more money. And of course every time I charge, my mom's gotta know about it. She thinks my bills are ridiculous when really all I do is pay rent to her and charge probably $3-$500 a month on my card which ofc, I pay all the time and have NEVER been late on that wasn't the creditors fault)
I prayed to God the other day that I'm ready. I want to make my wife happy because she's been begging me for a Church for years. In fact, I've been waiting and waiting patiently for the next step of my life that God wants me to achieve and... nothing. It's the same things and the same works each and everyday. He's added some new people in my life to work on and to preach the gospel to and new Christians for encouragement but so far anything else or new? Nothing. I just have to be reminded each and everyday what a loser I am because I cannot provide the things that my wife wants and needs and seemingly what God wants from me especially something so simple as a Church. It's also really difficult to get a car pool to go to Church too when the closest church is at least 3 and a half hours away.
I know... these are all excuses but to me they're reasons. I'm just... really upset with myself right now. I don't know what I want, I don't want to feel better. I just want to go into a pit and stay there for the rest of eternity.