A little bit of back story, he went behind my back and told my ex that I asked if he had feelings for her the night before. I knew he did have feelings for her but he denied it. Which ultimately ended my ex and I's relationship. I told him I didn't hold a grudge against him and we remained friends. Then 4 months later he asked her out, told her that he loved her and wanted to start dating. We were still friends at this point, and my ex told me he asked her out 1 month after he did it when we reconnected.
I told him that I forgive him and still want to be friends but it's going to take a little while for me to trust him again. Then, we hung out a few times and he kept mentioning my ex in joking terms. "she's hot, like yo ex." I never told him this bothered me and I kept hanging out with him. Then one day, he wanted to hang out, I told him to morrow would be better. Tomorrow comes and he said he already made plans, I knew that it was with my ex because she came down to visit that day. At that point I stopped talking to him altogether. He only reached out to me once to see if I still play a card game but I didn't reply. I couldn't hang out with him knowing he's so close to my ex..
5 Months later he's probably telling everyone I'm a terrible person and cut him off. When nobody knows what really happened. I want to make peace with him but I don't know if I ever want to become close friends with him again.. I wanted to send him a text like this, "Hey just wanted to reach out and see how you're doing?"
Reason being, I freelance work where he works. I do have friends of friends that are his as well. I also feel like he's telling everyone I'm a bad person.. I'm not sure why, I just feel like he is slandering my name to everyone he can. The right thing to do would be to make peace with him but is this a good way to do that?
I told him that I forgive him and still want to be friends but it's going to take a little while for me to trust him again. Then, we hung out a few times and he kept mentioning my ex in joking terms. "she's hot, like yo ex." I never told him this bothered me and I kept hanging out with him. Then one day, he wanted to hang out, I told him to morrow would be better. Tomorrow comes and he said he already made plans, I knew that it was with my ex because she came down to visit that day. At that point I stopped talking to him altogether. He only reached out to me once to see if I still play a card game but I didn't reply. I couldn't hang out with him knowing he's so close to my ex..
5 Months later he's probably telling everyone I'm a terrible person and cut him off. When nobody knows what really happened. I want to make peace with him but I don't know if I ever want to become close friends with him again.. I wanted to send him a text like this, "Hey just wanted to reach out and see how you're doing?"
Reason being, I freelance work where he works. I do have friends of friends that are his as well. I also feel like he's telling everyone I'm a bad person.. I'm not sure why, I just feel like he is slandering my name to everyone he can. The right thing to do would be to make peace with him but is this a good way to do that?