Hello all, thank you for coming to help me... My husband and I got married 9 months ago and our sex life leaves me feeling completely undesirable and of no value... we both grew up non denominational Christians. I waited for him, he didn’t. Before we got married it was a struggle keeping him from taking my clothes off if we were ever alone. But the minute we got married, even on our honeymoon he seemed to lose complete interest in sex and has been a huge struggle for me. He’s given me MANY excuses, work makes me too tired, I struggle being reminded I messed up in the past(not by me at all!!), you don’t keep the house clean enough and that makes me biologically unattractived to having sex in fear you’d raise kid to be messy, to the most recent after I changed my cleaning ways- you don’t give me enough space to want to be with you. I feel constantly of no value, rejected... I worked on my body for a year starving and praying and working myself all for my husband to have the best version of me and it was all for nothing. I’m not wanting everyday ... although I could I just wanted ( as a brand new newly wed during honeymoon ) more than once everY week and half or so , and now we are close to once every month and it’s always me giving in and initiating.... I feel constant rejection. I hardly give him my physical contact anymore since the last excuse and he gives me more hugs and cuddles now but it’s been another 2 weeks and no change on the sexual horizon... I’m just constantly praying for his heart and our marriage and loving him
As I can but I desperately desire that one-ness with my husband. We are only in our early-mid 20’s I tried asking him why our sex life is the way it is but he only gets offended I’m asking and so we haven’t talked about it in 6 months... we used to talk about how wonderful that part of our life would be. I never imagined my husband on our honeymoon finding new games to download on his phone and gorging himself while I stood in front of him in lingerie without any interest or desire. I feel myself asking why I waited? Why am I not good enough to desire? What happened to the man who just couldn’t wait to have me?
As I can but I desperately desire that one-ness with my husband. We are only in our early-mid 20’s I tried asking him why our sex life is the way it is but he only gets offended I’m asking and so we haven’t talked about it in 6 months... we used to talk about how wonderful that part of our life would be. I never imagined my husband on our honeymoon finding new games to download on his phone and gorging himself while I stood in front of him in lingerie without any interest or desire. I feel myself asking why I waited? Why am I not good enough to desire? What happened to the man who just couldn’t wait to have me?