i was married in 1998 to my husband. I adored him and felt as though he was a true Gift from God. I had prayed for him for many years.
We had a few rocky starts as he was previously (before becoming saved) addicted to drugs. But God did an amazing work in his life. I felt as though God used me in his life to overcome all of these challenges.
He got into Prison Ministry work and I was also a part of this. It was wonderful.
However, we faced a lot of challenges and heartaches in our marriage. We struggled with infertility and lost our baby in miscarriage two years after trying. I was so heartbroken! I struggled with depression after this and the fertility drugs left me with a chronic illness.
We also lost my husband's brother in a balcony fall from our apartment that we had rented. And in 2011, my husband's father was in a nursing home fire where the nurse set fire to the home. He passed away from complications of smoke inhalation.
My mother was also very ill and I was one of her main carers so there was a lot of time spent helping her. My husband did help me which was a blessing.
In 2015, my husband's brothers went to prison at different times for very serious crimes. My husband felt as though God had abandoned him.
One brother(of my husband's) had came to live with us (on bail). He was with us for six months awaiting prison. He was very obsessed with Japan/anime/occult/demonic worship/Hitler/Marilyn Manson. He wore black the entire time he was here and spent a lot of time in his room.
We showed in Christ's love. (He had been baptised about 10years ago, giving his heart to the Lord) but now on drugs and into occult/demonic stuff. Very sad to see.
He went to jail for four months. I wonder if a door was open when he was in our home or he had influenced my husband.
In October 2015, my mother died. I was so heartbroken. But five months later, my husband abandoned me. He virtually walked out the door when I wasn't looking. I was traumatised. He was getting ready to go overseas to Japan to meet his girlfriend who he met online. I had no idea. So, when he was still married to me, he had put himself on a dating site looking for his dream girl. I always thought that was me, but, sadly not.
I didn't even know my husband loved Japan. It seemed to come out of no-where!
He never told me he had a girlfriend overseas. He left just before our 18th wedding anniversary and I discovered they had booked a motel on our wedding anniversary, so he celebrated it with her. I was crushed.
Our pastor was trying to talk to him and asked him if he had another woman overseas. He denied it.
The long story short, he turned into someone I didn't know. He was angry with me and blamed me for his unhappiness. He failed to see that I had been a loving, supportive wife through all of the tragedies in our life, his brother's death, his father's death and the other brothers who had gone to prison for serious crimes.
I thought we were best friends. Apparently, not. I am not sure who I was in the relationship?
We lost our home early 2018 and he had made previous threats to me to sell it. He even called the Police on me shortly after he abandoned me as I had sent too many text messages one day.
His behaviour became more bizarre. The r/ship with this Japanese woman didn't last. He continued to have numerous r/ships with other women, mainly in Japan while still married to me. He even paid for hostesses in Japan.
The last few years of my life have been a nightmare but I continue to follow God.
My husband sent me an email on our wedding anniversary 2018(it would have been 20 years). He said this was a significant day in our life.
The next day he sent another email telling me he had filed for divorce and I would get the paperwork in the mail that day. I was shocked!
I had prayed for many years for restoration and believed God wanted me to stand for our marriage. I didn't sign the divorce papers. I am Australian and we have to wait 12 months before filing.
He served me again and I didn't sign. But the divorce still went through.
He never felt any remorse or sorrow in these years. I told him it had hurt me that he was running around with women while still being legally married to me. He told me it was "none of my business". I reminded him that God hates adultery and divorce. He said he was willing to stand before God.
I was still grieving the death of my mum and now I had no husband. My church family were not that supportive and people blamed me.
I don't really have family around me so the past few years have been lonely. But I still love God and found my relationship with him has gotten closer.
My former husband will still contact me by email to ask how I am. He also tells me how he is. I found out he has remarried but he has never told me. If I was to ask him, he might deny it, or get angry with me and call the police.(he doesn't like me knowing about his business)
I still pray for him. I still love him. He was my best friend and a supportive husband. Sure, we had our issues and a lot of heartache through loss and tragedy.
He sent me an email a month ago asking how I was and he told me he had been sick with the flu. He went on to say he was going to Japan for a long holiday.
He finished the email by saying, "you are always in my prayers". He said that God had placed me on his heart.
Our cat died (sadly) the other day and I let him know. He said he was sad but was unable to help me bury him as he was too busy. He then said "don't send me too many emails about this as it stresses me".
He is now in Japan and very much into visiting shrines and possibly interested in Buddhism.
I am heartbroken. I saw God work amazingly in his life. He had an amazing testimony that God was able to use.
I just wonder. Is he truly saved? Is he a prodigal? He has no remorse or sorrow for committing adultery(ies) dumping me after my mother died and leaving me with a big mess, a mortgage, etc.
I still battle with chronic illness and a visual disability so I don't drive.
He doesn't care that I have often had to walk home in the dark and exposed to danger.I know God is taking care of me.
If he is truly born again, how is it that he is not repenting/responding to the convicton of the Holy Spirit?
WAs my whole marriage a lie?
I discover that this man, who worshipped God with me, prayed with me, is now obsessed with Japan, and everything Japanese..even now (possibly) Buddhism. He doesn't care about his mother or his siblings much now and even lost contact with old friends.
Some people say it's a mid-life crisis as his wife is so much younger then him(possibly young enough to be our own child)
God has me praying for him though. He is on my heart everyday.
I am getting on with my life, though.
I just feel as though my whole life with him must have been a lie and he must be a con-artist, a narcissist, sociopath?
I don't want to remarry and believe that my marriage was a Covenant marriage.
I have forgiven him and even his wife. It would be great to see them come to the Lord.
I also heard they are trying to have a baby. (That's been painful to hear) I don't want harm to come about them. They have a very happy life.
What could have happened to him? Mental illness? Sin of a prodigal or a man that was never truly saved? And he seems to be very happy and very successful...travel, good jobs, financial security.
Sorry this post is long and my thoughts a little all over the place.
We had a few rocky starts as he was previously (before becoming saved) addicted to drugs. But God did an amazing work in his life. I felt as though God used me in his life to overcome all of these challenges.
He got into Prison Ministry work and I was also a part of this. It was wonderful.
However, we faced a lot of challenges and heartaches in our marriage. We struggled with infertility and lost our baby in miscarriage two years after trying. I was so heartbroken! I struggled with depression after this and the fertility drugs left me with a chronic illness.
We also lost my husband's brother in a balcony fall from our apartment that we had rented. And in 2011, my husband's father was in a nursing home fire where the nurse set fire to the home. He passed away from complications of smoke inhalation.
My mother was also very ill and I was one of her main carers so there was a lot of time spent helping her. My husband did help me which was a blessing.
In 2015, my husband's brothers went to prison at different times for very serious crimes. My husband felt as though God had abandoned him.
One brother(of my husband's) had came to live with us (on bail). He was with us for six months awaiting prison. He was very obsessed with Japan/anime/occult/demonic worship/Hitler/Marilyn Manson. He wore black the entire time he was here and spent a lot of time in his room.
We showed in Christ's love. (He had been baptised about 10years ago, giving his heart to the Lord) but now on drugs and into occult/demonic stuff. Very sad to see.
He went to jail for four months. I wonder if a door was open when he was in our home or he had influenced my husband.
In October 2015, my mother died. I was so heartbroken. But five months later, my husband abandoned me. He virtually walked out the door when I wasn't looking. I was traumatised. He was getting ready to go overseas to Japan to meet his girlfriend who he met online. I had no idea. So, when he was still married to me, he had put himself on a dating site looking for his dream girl. I always thought that was me, but, sadly not.
I didn't even know my husband loved Japan. It seemed to come out of no-where!
He never told me he had a girlfriend overseas. He left just before our 18th wedding anniversary and I discovered they had booked a motel on our wedding anniversary, so he celebrated it with her. I was crushed.
Our pastor was trying to talk to him and asked him if he had another woman overseas. He denied it.
The long story short, he turned into someone I didn't know. He was angry with me and blamed me for his unhappiness. He failed to see that I had been a loving, supportive wife through all of the tragedies in our life, his brother's death, his father's death and the other brothers who had gone to prison for serious crimes.
I thought we were best friends. Apparently, not. I am not sure who I was in the relationship?
We lost our home early 2018 and he had made previous threats to me to sell it. He even called the Police on me shortly after he abandoned me as I had sent too many text messages one day.
His behaviour became more bizarre. The r/ship with this Japanese woman didn't last. He continued to have numerous r/ships with other women, mainly in Japan while still married to me. He even paid for hostesses in Japan.
The last few years of my life have been a nightmare but I continue to follow God.
My husband sent me an email on our wedding anniversary 2018(it would have been 20 years). He said this was a significant day in our life.
The next day he sent another email telling me he had filed for divorce and I would get the paperwork in the mail that day. I was shocked!
I had prayed for many years for restoration and believed God wanted me to stand for our marriage. I didn't sign the divorce papers. I am Australian and we have to wait 12 months before filing.
He served me again and I didn't sign. But the divorce still went through.
He never felt any remorse or sorrow in these years. I told him it had hurt me that he was running around with women while still being legally married to me. He told me it was "none of my business". I reminded him that God hates adultery and divorce. He said he was willing to stand before God.
I was still grieving the death of my mum and now I had no husband. My church family were not that supportive and people blamed me.
I don't really have family around me so the past few years have been lonely. But I still love God and found my relationship with him has gotten closer.
My former husband will still contact me by email to ask how I am. He also tells me how he is. I found out he has remarried but he has never told me. If I was to ask him, he might deny it, or get angry with me and call the police.(he doesn't like me knowing about his business)
I still pray for him. I still love him. He was my best friend and a supportive husband. Sure, we had our issues and a lot of heartache through loss and tragedy.
He sent me an email a month ago asking how I was and he told me he had been sick with the flu. He went on to say he was going to Japan for a long holiday.
He finished the email by saying, "you are always in my prayers". He said that God had placed me on his heart.
Our cat died (sadly) the other day and I let him know. He said he was sad but was unable to help me bury him as he was too busy. He then said "don't send me too many emails about this as it stresses me".
He is now in Japan and very much into visiting shrines and possibly interested in Buddhism.
I am heartbroken. I saw God work amazingly in his life. He had an amazing testimony that God was able to use.
I just wonder. Is he truly saved? Is he a prodigal? He has no remorse or sorrow for committing adultery(ies) dumping me after my mother died and leaving me with a big mess, a mortgage, etc.
I still battle with chronic illness and a visual disability so I don't drive.
He doesn't care that I have often had to walk home in the dark and exposed to danger.I know God is taking care of me.
If he is truly born again, how is it that he is not repenting/responding to the convicton of the Holy Spirit?
WAs my whole marriage a lie?
I discover that this man, who worshipped God with me, prayed with me, is now obsessed with Japan, and everything Japanese..even now (possibly) Buddhism. He doesn't care about his mother or his siblings much now and even lost contact with old friends.
Some people say it's a mid-life crisis as his wife is so much younger then him(possibly young enough to be our own child)
God has me praying for him though. He is on my heart everyday.
I am getting on with my life, though.
I just feel as though my whole life with him must have been a lie and he must be a con-artist, a narcissist, sociopath?
I don't want to remarry and believe that my marriage was a Covenant marriage.
I have forgiven him and even his wife. It would be great to see them come to the Lord.
I also heard they are trying to have a baby. (That's been painful to hear) I don't want harm to come about them. They have a very happy life.
What could have happened to him? Mental illness? Sin of a prodigal or a man that was never truly saved? And he seems to be very happy and very successful...travel, good jobs, financial security.
Sorry this post is long and my thoughts a little all over the place.
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