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"Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates." --Proverbs 31:30-31
Something I've heard a few times before, and now feel compelled to try: When there's something you really want, something complicated with a lot of different variations, write out a good list of what you're looking for, and writing it will send out some sort of ripples that will lead you to what you need.
I'm not sure about how exactly this would work, but it is a spiritual exercise of sorts, and I've heard people talk about how well this works (including a very Christian lady I respect a lot). A lot of cultures have had strong beliefs about the written word; the most famous word in magic, Abrakadabra, is Sanskrit for "Your words have power", and very little is written down in Old Norse, because of an ancient Scandanavian belief that writing something down directly affects reality, and battles were won or lost based on what outcome was written down (it's fair to point out that much of this was about psychology; believing you're going to fail has a strong effect, as any athlete can verify).
But whatever the mechanisms are at play, I wanted to try it out. Even if there is no reality-bending power, writing things out is a great way to organize your thoughts & rationalize weird situations.
Brief background: I just transferred colleges, where nobody knows me & I know nobody. I'm very passionate about my quest for a girlfriend/future wife, and I don't want to mess this up. I put this in the "Following Jesus" thread, because I feel that writing a list for something like this is something that Jesus would want us to do; writing a list, then looking it over, reveals a lot about how mature your relationship search really is.
So here's my list, written on the back of my "15 Promises of the Rosary" printout. Please feel free to critique this in a respectable manner, and please do try this at home, I feel that it's been a very good thing for me to do, especially before I meet most of the girls on campus.
-Catholic (very)
-Wants to & willing to work against human trafficking with me
-Air Force boot camp together
-Very patient & understanding
-Enjoys being with my friends & family
-Very supportive & encouraging; great peacemaker
-Independent
-God figure out the details, but we will enjoy living in the same area (in a city, but I don't know specifics; I really felt like I was home when I went to Chicago, though)
-Virtuous as can be
-Good listener
-Articulate
-Can have very fun & very serious conversations
-Deep discussions
-Minimal phone & TV
-Wants to have some kids biologically, but then keep adopting from foster care
-Similar interests
-Respects & helps with my emotional connections with girls in my past
-[And an important one I didn't originally add for some reason] Dresses modestly
I don't know if I'm done with this list yet, but I thought that was a pretty darn good start. Now to pray to be led by the Spirit to whoever has these qualities!
Thank you for all your prayers & input, and may the Spirit lead us all to write out what we think we want, and may He lead us all to the people that God wants us with!
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