I was wondering, I do come across a lot of dating prospects who follows this philosophy like its gospel (figuratively speaking).
Just recently I started talking to a woman that has been unattached for 3 years and is not of the romantic mindset and just seeks to spend time with a man to see if he's someone she'd want to be romantic with.
Apparently, there's an additional hurdle now, these days, if you want to date a woman. And for some women, it's the "friends first" approach.
Typically, this is a roadblock thrown up as a defensive stance to keep men at bay. To keep men from moving too fast as I hear tons of complaints from women that it seems every guy they meet....moves too quickly for her. And thus the "friends first" method of dating was born.
There seems to be a clash between those that try to move a relationship in a rushed fashion and thus the friends first stance.
I am sure you've heard the stories of that ONE couple that said "We were friends for 5 years!" That they some how knew each other for a long time before they got married, but typically that's not without having dating others within those 5 years as they weren't really a dating couple. It was one of those, 'You were there the whole time!!" moments.
You see on social media, on their wedding day, "I married my best friend!"
I'd like to be able to say that about my future spouse. "I married my best friend!"
I had one woman I met that said that being "friends first" is the way she is going due to having "been hurt" by previous men.
Of course, I won't just be friends with a woman I'm into though, that's just self-punishment when there are other prospects that are seeking what I am seeking. Plus I'm too old to be only friends with so many women.
Do you think "friends first" method to see where it goes is the way to go, and with people taking this method of dating seriously, do you think it's a logical idea? Or is this a wishy-washy way of going about and not considered proper dating or courtship? A half-measure method of dating?
Just recently I started talking to a woman that has been unattached for 3 years and is not of the romantic mindset and just seeks to spend time with a man to see if he's someone she'd want to be romantic with.
Apparently, there's an additional hurdle now, these days, if you want to date a woman. And for some women, it's the "friends first" approach.
Typically, this is a roadblock thrown up as a defensive stance to keep men at bay. To keep men from moving too fast as I hear tons of complaints from women that it seems every guy they meet....moves too quickly for her. And thus the "friends first" method of dating was born.
There seems to be a clash between those that try to move a relationship in a rushed fashion and thus the friends first stance.
I am sure you've heard the stories of that ONE couple that said "We were friends for 5 years!" That they some how knew each other for a long time before they got married, but typically that's not without having dating others within those 5 years as they weren't really a dating couple. It was one of those, 'You were there the whole time!!" moments.
You see on social media, on their wedding day, "I married my best friend!"
I'd like to be able to say that about my future spouse. "I married my best friend!"
I had one woman I met that said that being "friends first" is the way she is going due to having "been hurt" by previous men.
Of course, I won't just be friends with a woman I'm into though, that's just self-punishment when there are other prospects that are seeking what I am seeking. Plus I'm too old to be only friends with so many women.
Do you think "friends first" method to see where it goes is the way to go, and with people taking this method of dating seriously, do you think it's a logical idea? Or is this a wishy-washy way of going about and not considered proper dating or courtship? A half-measure method of dating?
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