God's love can keep me from giving into romantic feelings for someone who is not my husband.
My personal take >
God's love is not only a good feeling, but God's love gives us light and direction in how to love.
"And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment." (Philippians 1:9)
So, in God's love we have discernment so we do not get romantic for someone we do not belong with . . . I consider. And the light of love gives us direction and perspective even deeper than words. Light can show us more
But this means I need how God changes my character, so I am more with Him and able to submit to Him and see how His love has me seeing things. So, we are wise to seek our Heavenly Father for how He alone is able to truly correct us in our character and how we love > Hebrews 12:4-14. And do this for the rest of our lives. Adulterous feelings might be a more obvious problem, but becoming able to love like Jesus can have challenges always to keep discovering. We won't get bored, I offer
I have a lady friend. Yes, I can give in to feelings and thoughts and eyes for what different women look like and how they tone their voices, but I can tell this takes me away from how I can share in love with her plus love any and all people. I can tell I am being degraded, inside myself, as soon as I just start to eyeball or imagine with a woman.
And yes the feelings and attention grabbing can seem so convincing. But I can get homesick for how I know I can be in love. And Jesus has me loving and caring for the different women I see and know . . . not just using them for some sort of pleasure and fascination.
And as I refuse to give in to that stuff, I enjoy discovering how I can be loving in the same situations! So, this is not only about being mentally and emotionally faithful to a lady who loves me, but this is about becoming able to love and care for any and all people the way Jesus desires.
And my lady friend has turned out not to be a connection only or mainly for pleasure and romance, but a connection with people I can love and help. God blesses us for loving > His all loving
And we can talk about comparing.
I do compare my lady friend with other women, and I keep discovering how she seems more mature than a lot of women. She is gentle and tender and caring. When she has an issue with someone who might even be taking advantage of her, I hear how she always cares about the person, though she does talk about things she does not like that the person is doing. So, since I can first be against people who are a problem for me, and I can first be putting down the person, it is good to be with her as a correction for me to have compassion first for each and every person.
Now, for someone else, may be he or she might be comparing other things about the person's spouse. And what is being compared might be outward and toning of the voice. Ones in a church can make themselves sound a certain way which is taken to mean they are trustworthy and dignified and kind. They can seem more desirable than the one someone is married to. But whoever you have, a real example or a not exactly, this is the person you can learn how to love, with God, so you learn how to love any and all people.
Learning how to love is one of the most beneficial blessings, a very good education, and one of the most interesting challenges we can have. Because ones go elsewhere for entertainment, instead, they are never really satisfied and can wonder why they are bored and lonely, even with all the activities and people they have.