- Jun 9, 2019
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- Country
- United States
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- Protestant
- Marital Status
- Married
Hi I really need some help from fellow Christians, advice and scriptures that may support me in my battle against sin. First of all I want to ask for your's and God's forgiveness for this sin I'm about to explain which I need help with overcoming.
I am recently married and I love my husband very much, we've been together a long time before we got married and I know I want to spend my life with my husband. But I struggle with a deep-seeded sin of "wandering eyes" or romantic feelings for someone else to be more clear, for my future boss, who is a man of God that I met a couple years ago and now he's about to become my boss. I have tried applying to other jobs and looked into ways out but I didn't get hired and now I feel stuck in this company, and also I'm afraid if I leave the company now I'll lose out on my benefits and stocks and also I just started my 401k. But it seems inevitable I will be moving to this new location soon which technically I want because it's a good job and I have a friend who works there too. But I can't shake my romantic feelings and I feel so guilty because I don't want to be an adulteress. I want to obey God and remain faithful to my husband and I don't want to have feelings for someone else. And I know God wants us to stay faithful to our covenant of marriage and doesn't allow for divorce except for under extreme circumstances, and I don't want to get a divorce anyway but I bring it up because I respect how severely God thinks of the marriage covenant. I don't have lustful feelings but romantic feelings and romantic fantasies which I figure is also adulterous and very sinful as I should only be in love with my husband. I know the devil is whispering lies into my ears because he knows I am weak in this area and easily fall prey to it. I am praying for God to take this from me and help me be a good woman so I'm hoping because I couldn't get a different job that God will help me face my sin and overcome it. But in church today the pastor said to flee from lustful sin as it says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 and he said if you say that it's at your job then quit your job! I would imagine this would apply to me too as romantic thoughts for someone else other than your spouse are probably just as bad as lustful thoughts. I'm afraid if I quit my job I will be hurting us financially as I likely won't get hired elsewhere at the same rate I'm making now, I'll have to take a paycut and start all over with my benefits. My family would probably be mad at me too and my husband also wouldn't be happy and everyone would be confused, and how could I explain to them I am running from my adulterous feelings? They would be even more mad and probably quite shocked as I wouldn't blame them. But it seems more important to save my marriage over job security. I suppose I'll have to face my sin and overcome it and pray that God will help me get over it and I'll eventually stop having romantic thoughts and feelings about my future boss and start seeing him unattractively. But I'm afraid to even face this situation because I don't want to be tempted and end up hurting anyone especially my sweet husband who deserves better than this, or embarrassing myself. I even have bad dreams about being an adulteress that make me feel gross and dirty when I wake up and I know it's because of this deep-seeded sin in my heart. What would my fellow Christians and faith family advise for my situation and can you please lift me up in prayer because I don't want to be a sinful adulteress in my heart! I want to be good and Christlike and obey the Lord and to love only my husband romantically. Please forgive me for being a sinful, adulterous woman and please be kind in your responses as I am very sensitive and fear being digitally stoned for this, but I feel like God does want me to reach out to my faith family for help so I can overcome my sin and become a better Christian. Thank you and God bless!
I am recently married and I love my husband very much, we've been together a long time before we got married and I know I want to spend my life with my husband. But I struggle with a deep-seeded sin of "wandering eyes" or romantic feelings for someone else to be more clear, for my future boss, who is a man of God that I met a couple years ago and now he's about to become my boss. I have tried applying to other jobs and looked into ways out but I didn't get hired and now I feel stuck in this company, and also I'm afraid if I leave the company now I'll lose out on my benefits and stocks and also I just started my 401k. But it seems inevitable I will be moving to this new location soon which technically I want because it's a good job and I have a friend who works there too. But I can't shake my romantic feelings and I feel so guilty because I don't want to be an adulteress. I want to obey God and remain faithful to my husband and I don't want to have feelings for someone else. And I know God wants us to stay faithful to our covenant of marriage and doesn't allow for divorce except for under extreme circumstances, and I don't want to get a divorce anyway but I bring it up because I respect how severely God thinks of the marriage covenant. I don't have lustful feelings but romantic feelings and romantic fantasies which I figure is also adulterous and very sinful as I should only be in love with my husband. I know the devil is whispering lies into my ears because he knows I am weak in this area and easily fall prey to it. I am praying for God to take this from me and help me be a good woman so I'm hoping because I couldn't get a different job that God will help me face my sin and overcome it. But in church today the pastor said to flee from lustful sin as it says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 and he said if you say that it's at your job then quit your job! I would imagine this would apply to me too as romantic thoughts for someone else other than your spouse are probably just as bad as lustful thoughts. I'm afraid if I quit my job I will be hurting us financially as I likely won't get hired elsewhere at the same rate I'm making now, I'll have to take a paycut and start all over with my benefits. My family would probably be mad at me too and my husband also wouldn't be happy and everyone would be confused, and how could I explain to them I am running from my adulterous feelings? They would be even more mad and probably quite shocked as I wouldn't blame them. But it seems more important to save my marriage over job security. I suppose I'll have to face my sin and overcome it and pray that God will help me get over it and I'll eventually stop having romantic thoughts and feelings about my future boss and start seeing him unattractively. But I'm afraid to even face this situation because I don't want to be tempted and end up hurting anyone especially my sweet husband who deserves better than this, or embarrassing myself. I even have bad dreams about being an adulteress that make me feel gross and dirty when I wake up and I know it's because of this deep-seeded sin in my heart. What would my fellow Christians and faith family advise for my situation and can you please lift me up in prayer because I don't want to be a sinful adulteress in my heart! I want to be good and Christlike and obey the Lord and to love only my husband romantically. Please forgive me for being a sinful, adulterous woman and please be kind in your responses as I am very sensitive and fear being digitally stoned for this, but I feel like God does want me to reach out to my faith family for help so I can overcome my sin and become a better Christian. Thank you and God bless!