Maybe we are defining "ownership" differently, then.
If I were to say to him, "no way are you sleeping with anyone else, ever. You made a commitment to me and have to keep it" - that would be ownership. Especially if I followed it up by using a tracking device, going through his phone, or demanding to know where he was at all times.
Saying that I don't mind my husband sleeping with someone else - as long as he can deal with the consequences, is not ownership.
Possess is another word for own.
Commitment, based on love.
If he owned me he'd have a tight to tell me what to do/wear/eat/what friends to have etc; he doesn't have that right.
No, it's a legal document stating that you are married.
It doesn't mean that you cease to become a person and are owned by your spouse.
A person can forgive an adulterous spouse, but if the marriage contract has been broken, they are under no obligation to take that person back and live with them again.
All sins can be forgiven, but they still have consequences. I've read of victims of crime forgiving their attackers/burglars - but they're not saying "oh it's ok; I'll keep you out of jail and you can do it to me again." Forgiveness means that you won't hold it against them and will seek/pray for their well-being - even if that is in jail, or somewhere away from you.
Like I said, you can forgive her but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to live with her again, nor that you'll have the same relationship as you did before.
I've forgiven people in the past; it doesn't mean I'm now friends with them.
Your idea of forgiveness and Jesus truth about forgiveness is not the same.
If that person needs you back, then you take them back as Jesus said to, to reconcile with them.
Also, your forgiveness does no good if there is no action, it changed nothing, did nothing.
And also forced the other person to have a contempt heart to you for not opening your self to him.
If that person is abusive, sure, I understand.
But if that person is repented and just made a mistake and your not in harms way then there is no excuses to show love and compassion.
With that said.
You either follow Jesus or you dont.
Jesus said if you have anything against your brother, then go to him and offer a gift.
How more important is a spouse then a brother?
Also, what is your reward if you do not let them back into your life? nothing, you did what the rest of the world did, nothing.
Why do you boil every forgivness topic into a abusive one?
LEts say there is no abuse to it, lets just say he made a couple mistakes and he has a sexuall addiction and needs help and there is no one to leed him to help, it will conrtoll his lide, but you could help him, lead him into the right direction?
But becouse of your pretend forgivness with no action he is in worse repair.
We all need each other, and to pretend that you do not need to act out of being hurt, well, thats a excuses.
Im not just writting this to you, I hope all reads it, its not really just dirrected to you.
Forgiveness means to except that person back into your life unless they will harm you.
And even if, Jesus said to turn the other cheek and offer it to them. Because your the perfect example.
19 Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.
20 For I say unto you, That except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven.
21 Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment:
22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;
24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
25 Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
26 Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
33 Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths:
34 But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God's throne:
35 Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King.
36 Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black.
37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.
38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:
39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.
41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.
43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
