What I lack is prospects. Everyone I know is married or not a good match.What makes them not a good match?I doubt He is saying that. We talk every day and He knows my eyes are open, I'm looking, I'm confident, and I'm ready.
You can only talk to them once they've broken away from that crowd, assuming they do so before they get to their car. Plus, you can only stand around doing nothing for so long before you start looking like a weirdo. haha And I don't know how long you normally wait before you ask someone out, but I try to at least let them know I exist and give them an opportunity to interact with me a couple of times. I'm just not the type of guy who is going to walk up to group of people talking after church and ask a woman out who doesn't have any idea who I am. There was a woman at church I was somewhat interested in and it took a lonnng time before I had a chance to ask her out (and she immediately said yes). She's a very nice person, but we ended up not being a good match for a couple of reasons. And that's fine because that is exactly what dating is supposed to find out, whether two people are a good match. But look how long it took to find that out! Months!It's tough to mingle when you're alone and they aren't. haha Big churches can be amazingly impersonal places. The only way to meet people, really, is to join home Bible studies (I've been in two. Both are full of married people) or volunteer to help with something at church (I've done that...and met a bunch of men. haha). Still, I think volunteering is my best option for meeting people and I do intend to continue to do so.
It could be one of the things I mentioned in my opening post, or it might be something else. A person can be great as a person, but not a good match for someone.
You can only sit near them if they don't already have a crowd they sit with every week.
1. People online make snap judgments based on variables that don't carry as much weight if they were initially encountering a person face to face. For instance, if I meet a woman in person, she judges her level of interest based on whether she thinks I'm attractive, funny, intelligent, and whether we have chemistry. If a woman encounters me through my profile online, on the other hand, she focuses first on my age and she makes assumptions about me based on that age ("A 54-year-old is ___"); She scrutinizes my pictures (if they are just selfies, she might assume I have no friends. If they are pictures of me with a bunch of other people, she might assume I'm a party animal.
So, the "me" that women see in my dating profile is not me at all.
Haha! That's an odd question in this context. But the answer is that I lift weights.
Lots of places, both foreign and domestic.
No, and especially not to church. haha
When opportunities presented themselves, I'd smile and say things in passing to her when I'd see her in the hall or when I'd walk past her when she was seated and not talking to the people around her. This led to a sort of friendly familiarity. That led to us talking as we walked to our cars, which led to me asking her if she wanted to grab some coffee, which led to her saying yes.
Again, using the example of the woman I asked out, it's a group of people (all in their 60s except her) who are all seated together and talking to one another (and all are married except her). There was no opportunity to inject myself in a natural way.
And another example I can think of is a woman who always comes with another couple, usually late, and they sit in the middle (again, of a big church). Finding an opportunity to speak to her was tougher than finding an opportunity to speak to the previous woman. It eventually happened one morning when she was running late and we were both in the parking lot at the same time. I made small talk to her, but didn't find her friendly or personable at all and immediately lost all interest. One thing both women have in common, I discovered, is that they are both fairly recent widows. That may be why the second woman was unfriendly. I can only imagine the difficulties widowhood brings when it comes to being ready to date. The first lady managed to be very nice about it, while the second woman gave me a small case of frostbite. And, again, I am not criticizing her for it.
It is mostly couples and families sitting together at my church, too. And often when a woman is sitting alone and I start to wonder if she is single, I catch the glint off a wedding ring or her husband comes to join her later. This has happened over and over. Single women should have to wear headbands or clothes that are a certain color for easy identification.
I can't emphasize enough that I am not shy. If there is a woman I am attracted to and I have an opportunity to meet her in a non-weird way, I'll walk up and meet her. That is rarely the case in the context of my church's services. I've also tried home studies and virtually everyone is married. I also signed up for a couple of classes (Financial Peace and a Creation Science course) and everyone was married. So, I stand by what I said in my opening post.
I don't really do cardio anymore, since my heart rate gets high enough just by lifting weights. The closest I get to cardio is taking my dog for a walk.
I don't own a Hawaiian shirt. I really can't imagine me wearing one.
The places I'd like to visit that require a plane ride are mostly in Western Europe. Ireland, Scotland, England, etc. I'd also like to return to the Netherlands. I've been twice for work, but I'd like to visit with "Miss Right."As long as a person is doing something to keep active, that's what matters. Those habits will help with mobility in the decades to come.
