- Apr 15, 2019
- 20
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- 40
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Single
I have always had issues with people comparing me to others and telling me, "You are so quiet," "You don't talk", and so on and so on..Sometimes, this gets to me because I think people may think I am arrogant, and that is not the case because I have been told that I am a nice person. I value few friendships over cliques, and I don't see the problem with that. And most times, I just like to be alone to think and clear my mind. But, why is it that society place a higher regard on people who "talk more" or are extroverts? I would consider myself an introvert and am the type of person who understands that we all are individuals. I don't judge others based on their personalities, and for some reason I keep coming across people who expect me to be like them or be like someone else who is deemed as more "outgoing and talkative." People would think it would be rude for me to tell them, "You are very talkative," so why do people feel the need to tell me that I am quiet? I consider it just as rude because it fosters a self-fulfilling prophecy in a sense. I just get tired of people making me feel as though I am "different." (Also, I am in my early 30's but people always tell me that I look good and young for my age, so I don't know if my youthful appearance plays a role, if that is at all relevant!) It's like if you are "too nice," you do not get respect and if you are "too mean," no one will definitely respect you or want to be around you, so how can I win? I also started a new job and feel as though I get compared to a co-worker who is very talkative. She often interrupts others and intrudes on other conversations, and it is like I am deemed abnormal for thinking this is rude. I just do not get it. It is as if I cannot escape the comparison comments. Some days, I just wish I lived in a world where no one talked! What do you all think about this? I do not want to change to please people, I just want to be understood and be "free" and not feel as though when I meet people they will judge me negatively or not think I am intelligent.
Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Is there something wrong with me? Am I wrong for feeling this way?
