I feel like giving up...I wish for reconciliation with all those people from my past so much...I don't understand how anyone can look at the Bible and say it doesn't say to reconcile.
Fast forward to now an AG church....and for many years, this one seemed fine.
I've brought those two quotes of your together to encourage you that things may not be as bad as you envision. You've just acknowledged that for many years things have been going pretty good. You know the sad thing is there always can come a day when things fall a part and aren't perfect.
After several years, in what seemed completely out of the blue, the pastor's daughters avoided me, and his son approached me and said I was "barely tolerable." This insult spurred mental health problems, ruminating, overthinking, delusions, hallucinations, and depression for several months.
You don't have to share this of course but you haven't shared why his son said this to you. What possibly could make him feel this way about you?
They got a completely one-sided story from the pastor, and even without my side told him I didn't do anything wrong; and when I told them my side, one deacon even said he was in the wrong, while the others took the approach they need time to heal...but wasn't I the one who was insulted here?
And the insult was the pastors son said, "You're barely tolerable"?? But why even though he was wrong did he make such a charge, that is from his perspective?
Christians have been the most hateful and most painful people I've ever had to deal with, even more than my family; and the last story has had the most devastating effect on my faith and well-being, more so than anything in my life.
Christians are people basically like everybody else. We're called to put off the old man and put on the new man or to walk in God's nature of love within. Unfortunately we're not always faithful or quick to do this as an every day practice. We're supposed to we need to but sometimes we don't. That causes God's heart to feel grieved and makes him want to weep as well.....but he loves his children and is always seeking and wanting them to get back on track, and furthermore to long for his children to get along.
I think many times the way God looks at things is many times he's looking for people who won't get too caught up in how they were genuinely treated wrongly but is looking for ones who'll choose to rise above it because of more important considerations.
That the one doing the wrong will lovingly be brought into a position of being strengthened away from them walking in the flesh. In other words babies throw up and do messy things but much praise of God might go to the one who says, "OK I love you I forgive you and will keep on loving you until you've risen above your carnality. LOVE casts out fear....I'd suggest when we're established in the fact that God loves us it doesn't matter what others will do...our self esteem in found in God.
We should always remember too the saints of old went through the same type things. Paul the Apostle himself I believe at times was shunned by the Jerusalem church. I'm sure that made him sad and was tempted to be hurt. He rose above it though by making a decision he was going to LOVE them whether he felt like it or not.....because he like God embraced higher things to be considered. The goal to see the body of Christ love one another.
We read he blessed them and when Jerusalem was under famine and the people there had no money to buy food he raised funds to be a blessing to that region. So he returned good towards those to whom were not always good to him. Imagine the LOVE that flowed from both sides when he did that. Establishing love in the saints takes work.
It does take patience. And it requires yes even US and ALL OF US who might be hurt the odd time to step back and look at the bigger picture. When we do the fascinating thing is it actually takes the hurt away, simply because we don't care about it.....we care about them and the goal of what we want to see the body of Christ become.
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