So a little background information.Me and my mom have gone to my current church for about 9 years.I had been in clubs every now and then,but I was usually pulled out of them.Currently,me and my mother go to service Sunday morning and Sunday night.We have service every Tuesday night,Saturday night,and Sunday morning and Sunday night.I get coming to church,but I feel weird having almost been at the church for close to a decade and not really knowing anyone.We have homecoming,which is where we sit and eat with other members after church in October,and we did that maybe once,and we have never done it again.We also have many events and ministries in my church,but the church is far,so I cannot join any since I cannot drive yet.Is it weird that we do not really fellowship with anyone?I want to change and get to know people my age in my church,because I just think its weird to go to church, but we do not join in on any activities at all.
Fellowship is important. However, deep fellowship is always going to trump shallow fellowship. That is, having lunch with another believer is going to be more beneficial than shaking hands with strangers in the foyer. Having a small prayer group that meets once a month is going to be more uplifting then attending a once a year party and making small talk, etc. Furthermore, fellowship does *not* necessarily have to be at a Sunday local church event - it's just fellowship with believers anywhere, any place!
I've been in a similar situation - disconnected from most of the church, unable to serve or attend groups because I couldn't drive. I still cannot drive due to disability, and so while I am more connected now than I used to be it's still very hard to fellowship with others in a larger, distant church.
Here are some potential solutions:
#1 Host your own small group that meets weekly or monthly. You can ask around for interest and even find someone else to teach if you want. If you have a mix of fellowship (such as snacks or dinner,) study, and prayer, then you will be forming deeper God-centered relationships over time.
#2 Find a closer church, preferably one you can walk or bus to. This helps immensely in terms of service, being able to attend events, and getting involved.
#3 Reach out to anyone in a Sunday school class you attend, or to whoever is in charge of the area of the church you are classified in (e.g. women's ministries, young adult ministries, etc.) or even the church information booth to see about finding someone who lives near you who is willing to carpool.
#4 Find or form a local group of believers who do a service project together, such as Dress a Girl around the world or a group ministering to the homeless. This is a great way to have fellowship with believers who share other common interests as well - plus people in the group might be willing to carpool!