I met a 22 year old guy off of Reddit on an MBTI personality forum and we private messaged each other for a bit. He is a Christian and seemed nice and I figured what the heck, right? Being the friendly person I try to be, I messaged him thinking he'd get bored soon enough and stop talking to me. He didn't. He messaged me every night during his work shifts and I found we had a lot in common. He shared with me stories about his life and his issues, and I did the same briefly (I don't share a lot though). He shared a lot of problems with me and I found he has a lot of self-esteem issues and so I tried to minister to him by telling him God loves him that he needs to love himself over and over again but he always has excuses for why he doesn't feel it. I find myself getting annoyed because I can't stand people who don't want to help themselves but leech onto others for affirmation (even though I have done that myself but still). I can't fix this guy, and I told him that. I also let him know I just want to be friends. But after messaging for almost 3 weeks straight I think feelings have developed.
He's nice and never asked me for pictures of myself or asked my any vulgar questions...but I'm still playing it safe.
From my side, I was really excited to get so much attention from a guy and be messaged everyday (that never happened to me before) but I realize now the reality that I have created in allowing myself to do so. I am afraid I have led this guy on. I mean, I kinda like him too--but he is WAY too self-pitiful for me to consider him as a partner. I think he has some form of autism by the way he writes, and maybe that is why he is obsessed with me because I give him so much positive attention. He has told me I've helped him a lot in not feeling so lonely. Both of us have struggles relating to people and we shared a lot about that with each other. He's trying to go to church more and make friends there, but he says he doesn't feel connected to any of the people there and it's hard.
I don't know what to do. I don't want crap in my life. I can't and don't want to make this guy my project because he isn't my responsibility--but if we can just be friends I'd love that. But as much as we have shared...feelings would develop.
He's nice and never asked me for pictures of myself or asked my any vulgar questions...but I'm still playing it safe.
From my side, I was really excited to get so much attention from a guy and be messaged everyday (that never happened to me before) but I realize now the reality that I have created in allowing myself to do so. I am afraid I have led this guy on. I mean, I kinda like him too--but he is WAY too self-pitiful for me to consider him as a partner. I think he has some form of autism by the way he writes, and maybe that is why he is obsessed with me because I give him so much positive attention. He has told me I've helped him a lot in not feeling so lonely. Both of us have struggles relating to people and we shared a lot about that with each other. He's trying to go to church more and make friends there, but he says he doesn't feel connected to any of the people there and it's hard.
I don't know what to do. I don't want crap in my life. I can't and don't want to make this guy my project because he isn't my responsibility--but if we can just be friends I'd love that. But as much as we have shared...feelings would develop.