I'm new to this board. I'm a 57 year old woman who has been married to the same man for almost 38 years. We have three grown children. Our last child moved out 5 years ago so we're not new to an empty nest. We were married at 19 (me) and 24 years of age. The early years of the marriage were fine but like most young folks, we had work to do to have a strong marriage. He blames me for not being attentive to him during the years when the kids were young. He turned away from me, became a Born Again Christian, and we've had problems ever since. He says I'm not a Christian if I'm not Born Again. He's very inattentive to me, dismisses me, tells me if I would only be "Born Again" that I wouldn't believe how nice my life with him would be...he'd take me on vacations and things would be so different. I am a Christian. He calls my denomination (Methodist) a cult. He demeans me and make me feel so low. I make far less money than he does and he points that out to me as well. Talks about my "little job" I have. I work as a secretary in education so don't make as much as I likely could elsewhere but I enjoy the work and find it fulfilling. Anyone else out there have the same situation as me? I hate to call it abuse but I've looked at some videos online and they describe my life to a T.