I can never get a Win in life and I am tired of praying and asking God

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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????
 

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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????

I am pulling for you to find the right position. Have you ever considered the possibility that the other candidates for the jobs you have been applying for also have prayed to God to get that job? What is God to do in a situation like that? I would advise you to not ask for particular things and pray that God shows you where He wants you to be. Perhaps if you let him decide what is right He will be less likely to ignore your request?
 
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some degrees are useless without experience say you have a psychology degree and want jobs not in the psychology field your degree is not worth much. Some degrees require a little experience to get a job and many young people will intern that is work for little or free for a while in their field to get some experience. Seek a job coach and perhaps you are coming off the wrong way in interviews. There is a strategy for success.

God is more concerned about your character than your career success. That 1st that says seek ye 1st the kingdom of God and its righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you... find it meditate on it and get priorities in that order and perhaps God will add you the job or change your direction altogether.
 
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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????

What do you define as a "win in life"?

What do you think that God defines as a "win in life"?
 
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I am pulling for you to find the right position. Have you ever considered the possibility that the other candidates for the jobs you have been applying for also have prayed to God to get that job? What is God to do in a situation like that? I would advise you to not ask for particular things and pray that God shows you where He wants you to be. Perhaps if you let him decide what is right He will be less likely to ignore your request?

While true at some point it has to be MY time right? It seems that has never been the case and probably won't ever be the case. I have lost more in life than I have won. People that don't believe or care about God have gotten the jobs I prayed and dreamed about. That just doesn't make sense to me.

Looking back at some of your posts, see that you want to work in television. You have some experience with a Christian Network? Have you considered answering on their call line when people contact it for prayer? Being then a volunteer at the station would be a blessing, plus you might get noticed more.

I do want to work in media (and have volunteered), but also have years of experience in marketing and this recent job was in marketing/ customer service that was right now my alley. Also would have assisted with tuition for grad school. But unfortunately, I got the short end of the stick for the 800th time.
 
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While true at someone it has to be MY time right? It seems that has never been the case and probably won't ever be the case. I have lost more in life than I have won. People that don't believe or care about God have gotten the jobs I prayed and dreamed about. That just doesn't make sense to me.

Have you read much of Ecclesiastes? I recommend it. I deals with this sort of thing. It is not a problem unique to yourself.
 
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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????

...Hi Gaurdian87. Well, brother, I hate to say this, but a lot of us don't have our dream job. I've prayed a lot about it too, but the reality is that where I live (which I don't disclose) is a bit 'down' on the totem-pole for opportunities to do what I'd like to do. I don't think that prayer is insignificant, myself. But, I do tend to think that the kinds of things that Jesus told His disciples to pray about are the basic things we should be praying about. "Success" isn't usually one of those, at least not in the way that the world defines it.

However, even in saying that, there is always the possibility that at some point God may open a door for you to step up to something closer to what you want to do. You might also consider checking with a recruiter and even relocating to another city or state where the work you'd like to do may actually exist and be available. Just a thought. But, keep praying about it. In the meantime, I'll just keeping doing rentals in the travel industry. :argh:

Peace,
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Do you expect your faithfulness in God to "payoff" in some material blessing that he bestows? Like a job, wife, career, money, etc?

If you were faithful to God your whole life and he never gave you these things, would he still be good and worthy of your devotion?
 
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some degrees are useless without experience say you have a psychology degree and want jobs not in the psychology field your degree is not worth much. Some degrees require a little experience to get a job and many young people will intern that is work for little or free for a while in their field to get some experience. Seek a job coach and perhaps you are coming off the wrong way in interviews. There is a strategy for success.

God is more concerned about your character than your career success. That 1st that says seek ye 1st the kingdom of God and its righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you... find it meditate on it and get priorities in that order and perhaps God will add you the job or change your direction altogether.

I know we are to have a good character, and I never been someone that mistreats people and I genuinely have been doing my best to follow Christ. However, it's disheartening to have your prayers unanswered over and over again when you try your hardest to achieve something.
 
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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????
I like Paul's advice: "Pray constantly." 1 Thess 5:17. The Lord doesn't jump when we snap our fingers, but he always comes through for us.
 
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I think a "win" is by being diligent in faithful and that faith paying off.

Eternal life is not enough of a payoff?

It is more than enough, but that is at an unknown time. It could be next week when I pass away or next year, or 20 years. I do love God and Jesus and I can never show enough gratitude for what he has done. But it's just hard to keep praying, holding on to faith when your best is never good enough and your prayers are ignored, while other people are moving forward.

Do you expect your faithfulness in God to "payoff" in some material blessing that he bestows? Like a job, wife, career, money, etc?

If you were faithful to God your whole life and he never gave you these things, would he still be good and worthy of your devotion?

He is worthy, but it would be disheartening that none of your hopes or dreams come to pass right?

It is five years from now.....your dream job would be....?

Pretty much the same thing it is now. But hopefully something would have changed.
 
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I like Paul's advice: "Pray constantly." 1 Thess 5:17. The Lord doesn't jump when we snap our fingers, but he always comes through for us.

I understand that God doesn't work on our time and he does love us. But somethings when we have hopes and desires and it's nearly in grasp it can be devastating. Say you were hungry and haven't eaten in months and there is a burger right in arms length and someone keeps taking in a way every time you get close. That's how I feel now.
 
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I understand that God doesn't work on our time and he does love us. But somethings when we have hopes and desires and it's nearly in grasp it can be devastating. Say you were hungry and haven't eaten in months and there is a burger right in arms length and someone keeps taking in a way every time you get close. That's how I feel now.
Hang in there.
 
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He is worthy, but it would be disheartening that none of your hopes or dreams come to pass right?

That would depend on what you hope in and what you dream of. God delights to wean us off of our dependance on this world and cause us to hope in him and dream of his kingdom and glory.

If his righteousness and kingdom are your greatest hope and dream, then it won't matter so much whether or not he blesses you with a fun job. Perhaps he is seeking to do a work in your heart right now to purify your devotion to him.
 
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I been looking for a full time job for over seven years now. While I am employed working two part time jobs, both are dead end and neither pay enough for me to live on my own ( I am 30 with a bachelors degree and working on a masters degree). Every time I get interviewed for a DREAM job I pray and ask God to open doors. EVERY TIME I end up disappointed because I never get them. I am just tired of asking and praying for a WIN in life and at this point, I think I am just going to stop. I am no longer going to ask God for anything for myself anymore because it just ends up being ignored anyway. I will just pray for others as it seems God actually answers prayers for others, just not me.

I don't know if God is punishing me for some sins in my life or what, but this is just very frustrating is causing me to lose faith. What should I do??????

One amazing prayer is the one Christ Himself gave us in Matthew chapter 6! We can have the belief-it-will-be-given He says to us to have when we pray, because the words are from Him! I find that when I pray this, bad situations suddenly get changed, I'm delivered, I'm helped, relationships are improved! (heh, I just used 3 exclamation marks in a row! But it's the Truth! and remember that sometimes the aid is not what we think, but something profoundly better in the long run)
 
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