So my question is should I try to find my soulmate or just wait for it to come. I am 27 Have been useing online dating sites for many years,but never choose any girl because i just never seen that which i would feel was for me. Then i started at one point feel very addictive almost like slave and felt God telling me with this strong feeling to stop looking,because i used to spend almost all day in online dating sites,but because of fear of staying alone and one christian woman that could see future for me told me if i wont look then i find when i will be older if I wont give up looking then i found earlier. Especially that fears comes when i see many christians wait and they get married very late usually. Then again i asked God should i look or not i opened about a book where someone said if you only dream and dont take action nothing will happen and will reading this i felt joy and happy i understand it was a sign to look,but then again when i start looking i feel such feeling similar to lust.
There is no soul mate. You want to seek a wife. That's a good thing. Go find yourself a wife.
So the answer to your question of "should I go looking" or "should I wait for it"....
In the Bible, there is a concept we call the divine co-operative.
The divine co-operative means that it's not all you, and it's not all G-d. It's You and G-d.
There are hundreds of examples.
Take the widow and the pots of oil. She comes to the prophet and asks for help. He says go get empty jars, and bring them to your house, and then start filling them with oil. And the miracle is that the oil kept coming until every single jar was filled.
Why didn't G-d simply make jars of oil at her house? Could he? Yes. But he didn't. She had to do her part and get all the jars, and then G-d did his part and fill them with oil.
Jesus and wine. Could Jesus have simply made every single jar filled with wine instantly? Yes. But instead they had to fill all the jars with water, and then he turned it into wine.
Abraham wanted a wife for Issac. He wanted G-d to provide one. Could G-d have simply magically sent a woman to Abraham for Issac to marry? Yes, he could have. But instead Abraham had to send his servant hundreds of miles away, to go looking for a wife, and then while he was looking, G-d brought a woman to the servant.
All of this to you is, it's not all you. This isn't 100% on you to find someone. But.... you have to do your part. You have to be looking. You have to be out where you can find someone.
Then you leave the rest to G-d to let your search be successful. So you don't jump on the first woman that is interested, because it's all you and you have to make it happen or it wont.
But you also don't sit at home, watching tv, waiting for someone to mis-dial your phone number, or knock on your door, with a big booming voice in the sky saying "you shalt marry her".
It's not all him.
It's you and him. You need to search AND wait on him to make your search successful.
You have to do the part that is yours, and leave the rest to G-d.