I saw my pastor in the bathroom with a disable girl. They weren't going anything bad but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl. What should I do? It look like the pastor didn't see anything wrong with it or anything.
I saw my pastor in the bathroom with a disable girl. They weren't going anything bad but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl. What should I do? It look like the pastor didn't see anything wrong with it or anything.
The problem here is your mind. What you should do is as the Lord to teach you not to blame anyone with out proof. Did you speak to the pastor about YOUR concerns?I saw my pastor in the bathroom with a disable girl. They weren't going anything bad but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl. What should I do? It look like the pastor didn't see anything wrong with it or anything.
Why does everyone jump to the conclusion that this was somehow evil? You yourself said "They weren't going anything bad." But you go on to say: "but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl." Unless you know something bad happened, or you can cite chapter and verse (without taking it out of context) why is this an issue?I saw my pastor in the bathroom with a disable girl. They weren't going anything bad but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl. What should I do? It look like the pastor didn't see anything wrong with it or anything.
I saw my pastor in the bathroom with a disable girl. They weren't going anything bad but still the pastor should not be alone in the bathroom with this girl. What should I do? It look like the pastor didn't see anything wrong with it or anything.
I know that if I came across this same situation in a Catholic Church that I should report it. I am not a mandatory reporter anymore, but I was when helping out with the parish school. Even though not a mandatory reporter, I would do it. Maybe it's all innocent. Maybe. Or rotten to the core. We like to presume innocence and abusive people can use that to get away with horrible things. And it gets swept under the rug. You should have someone you can report it to, someone the pastor has to answer to. If not, if the pastor answers to nobody at all, that's a crazy bad situation. It's not just Catholic priests that can do this stuff. Insurance data shows that Protestants have just as big a problem or bigger, but it seldom makes the news. It's everybody's problem.In my experience, church members do need to be told - over and over - "Report. If in doubt, report. If you think there might be a problem, report." Having a designated person to report to helps that, because people feel they know where to go.
Mathinspiratiaons Above I think the poster makes some excellent points but one thing kind of blows me away about this string. I don't remember anyone on this string, except me, who seems to realize that really this kind of issue is a Church matter secondarily.I know that if I came across this same situation in a Catholic Church that I should report it. I am not a mandatory reporter anymore, but I was when helping out with the parish school. Even though not a mandatory reporter, I would do it. Maybe it's all innocent. Maybe. Or rotten to the core. We like to presume innocence and abusive people can use that to get away with horrible things. And it gets swept under the rug. You should have someone you can report it to, someone the pastor has to answer to. If not, if the pastor answers to nobody at all, that's a crazy bad situation. It's not just Catholic priests that can do this stuff. Insurance data shows that Protestants have just as big a problem or bigger, but it seldom makes the news. It's everybody's problem.
You are right about the parents needing to be informed. Informed first. But I don't think I could just be content to inform the parents and then drop it. We all have a tendency to minimize this stuff, and that is how the perps know they can get away with it. We all say that 'maybe it's nothing'. We don't want our beloved pastor to think poorly of us. Better that the pastor knows that people are watching and that he needs to be clean or be found out.Mathinspiratiaons Above I think the poster makes some excellent points but one thing kind of blows me away about this string. I don't remember anyone on this string, except me, who seems to realize that really this kind of issue is a Church matter secondarily.
People say "Talk to the Pastor...go through channels....don't gossip...." Okay the Pastor should be talked to for sure. But why is not one person saying "Make real sure someone has talked to the parents, and if they don't do thhat real fast, you do it!! Alert them. Make sure this gets investigated." I may be reading things totally wrong but it's like people seem to feel that if someone is in your Church, in particular what might be a child, that a potential wrong act is subject to scrutiny and evaluation by Church officials, not by...the...parents. The parents.
Maybe I am wrong but I get the feeling that people may feel protective toward the Church and the Pastor more than to any potential (and I do say potential) victim. I think such an attitude can contribute to people getting away with harming vulnerable people.
Good for you that you are concerned about that girl. If you have spoken up to officials at the Church (and you are not obligated to speak to them first), and the parents haven't heard about this issue very quickly, they need to be informed. By you. It's not "gossip", it's making sure that things are run as they should be in a Church, and that no one is at risk of abuse.
Amen.You are right about the parents needing to be informed. Informed first. But I don't think I could just be content to inform the parents and then drop it. We all have a tendency to minimize this stuff, and that is how the perps know they can get away with it. We all say that 'maybe it's nothing'. We don't want our beloved pastor to think poorly of us. Better that the pastor knows that people are watching and that he needs to be clean or be found out.