How can I get this woman out of my life and get over the past?

[XD005]

Hello everyone. First let me say, I am terrible sorry if this is in the wrong section.
I browsed the forum for a good 25 minutes trying to figure out where.

Anyway, I met this woman close to 2 years ago. I learned quickly then that she wasn't wife material. I should have stopped talking to her then but I was lonely at the time so I kept seeing her. She's even told me then that she was just "being a harlot" and she had no intentions of a second date with me. This woman smokes weed, drinks, the whole shebang. We have vastly diffierent views on sex, sin, and homosexuality, and all the controversial stuff. But it happened anyway. Some sexual things went down on the first date and normally I wouldn't be into that sort of thing but I was going through a rough patch in my faith.

I was completely pure when I had first met her. I've fallen quite a ways since then. I've been getting more and more "like your average person" and its honestly scarring me. It's like she has some sort of aura to her and I dunno. I am convinced it might be some sort of spirit or something. Anyway, We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life. Anyway, needless to say, I am no longer pure and its debateable if I'm even a virgin anymore, leading more towards no. I won't get into detail about that since its beside my point.
But I had told her from day one that I was trying to remain pure until marriage and she would continually press and press and make me cave in more and more.

I'm trying to keep this short. I'm not going to blame her that I lost my purity because ultimately it was my decision to stay with her after the first couple of dates. But I've changed so much since I first met her. And I'm just so ashamed of all the things I've allowed myself to do. But, she does have some good qualities but the bad qualities are very, big ones. She keeps telling me that she believes God wants me and her to be together. I honestly don't know. I couldn't see how because not many good things have come from her. Any advice anyone? Is it me or am I right to want her out of my life?

 

[Sketcher]

We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life.

How does this happen, and how can you prevent this from happening again?

 

[XD005]

How does this happen, and how can you prevent this from happening again?

Literally, I tell her we can't be together and she dosen't take no for an answer.
And one way or another we just end up talking again. So thats whats going on.
But the main thing is just not caving and sticking to my guns and just focus on my relationship with Christ.

 

[Sketcher]

Literally, I tell her we can't be together and she dosen't take no for an answer.
And one way or another we just end up talking again. So thats whats going on.
But the main thing is just not caving and sticking to my guns and just focus on my relationship with Christ.

How did you start talking again? Why did you agree to start talking again, each of those four times?

 

[XD005]

How did you start talking again? Why did you agree to start talking again, each of those four times?

I was lonely. I don't have any friends right now.
It's always been her that has came back to me via a text message or phone call
and next thing you know we're talking again or one time she left a belonging in my car.
I started back talking once myself.

 

[Bro. Daniel]

Hello everyone. First let me say, I am terrible sorry if this is in the wrong section.
I browsed the forum for a good 25 minutes trying to figure out where.

Anyway, I met this woman close to 2 years ago. I learned quickly then that she wasn't wife material. I should have stopped talking to her then but I was lonely at the time so I kept seeing her. She's even told me then that she was just "being a harlot" and she had no intentions of a second date with me. This woman smokes weed, drinks, the whole shebang. We have vastly diffierent views on sex, sin, and homosexuality, and all the controversial stuff. But it happened anyway. Some sexual things went down on the first date and normally I wouldn't be into that sort of thing but I was going through a rough patch in my faith.

I was completely pure when I had first met her. I've fallen quite a ways since then. I've been getting more and more "like your average person" and its honestly scarring me. It's like she has some sort of aura to her and I dunno. I am convinced it might be some sort of spirit or something. Anyway, We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life. Anyway, needless to say, I am no longer pure and its debateable if I'm even a virgin anymore, leading more towards no. I won't get into detail about that since its beside my point.
But I had told her from day one that I was trying to remain pure until marriage and she would continually press and press and make me cave in more and more.

I'm trying to keep this short. I'm not going to blame her that I lost my purity because ultimately it was my decision to stay with her after the first couple of dates. But I've changed so much since I first met her. And I'm just so ashamed of all the things I've allowed myself to do. But, she does have some good qualities but the bad qualities are very, big ones. She keeps telling me that she believes God wants me and her to be together. I honestly don't know. I couldn't see how because not many good things have come from her. Any advice anyone? Is it me or am I right to want her out of my life?

Blessings,

Well... sometimes our flesh gets the best of us and the devil sets us up with the wrong people, but there's a way out through repentance fasting and prayer.

When you pray, stand in the gap and intercede for her of doing the same sins, and ask God to separate you two and He'll do it but pray for her salvation and the support needed for her as well but it doesn't just stop there.

You have to repent for marrying the wrong woman spiritually as sex creates a marital covenant between both partners. (Genesis 2:24, 1 Corinthians 6:15-16)

Unholy unification brings demons into the mix like incubus demons, succubus demons, Nephilim, Elouid and Rephaim spirits, snake spirits, demonic spirit children and whatever Satan wants to send you because we give him a legal right to attack us through sin. They also create demonic altars on your behalf in the spirit realm that have to be destroyed and your soul fragments have to be returned to you or destroyed and marry you to other demons in the spirit realm and you continuously commit spiritual fornication and adultery against God until full repentance, remission and deliverance is done.

Just ask God to forgive you for marrying the wrong woman spiritually, premarital sex, everything you guys did sexually that was unholy, (you and the Lord can go through the details, french kissing, or whatever body parts were used) being in agreement with the enemy, worshiping false gods or goddesses, (dagon, leviathan and queen of the coast) sinning against Him, the Holy Spirit and Yahushua (Jesus), the Holy Angels, yourselves, and others, creating soul ties, covenants, agreements, dowries, sex with demons, demonic marriages, being unequally yoked, abomination desolations of pollution and filth with the enemy, their seeds, and secretions, allowing the enemy into your spirit realm (demons), and ask to put all known and unknown sins and yourselves under the Blood of Yahushua and to wash and cleanse you both in Yahushua's name.

Then ask God to cut soul ties between you, and ask God to cleanse both of you from head to toe of all exchanged fluids and seeds from the soles of your feet to the top of your head in Yahushua's name.

Ask God to destroy the evil ground the enemy stands on and remove their effects and manifestations of it with the Blood of Yahushua in Yahushua's name.

Ask God to give her a divorce decree in the spirit realm and then there's going to be a bunch of other spiritual warfare you'll have to go through.

You will have to ask God to repair both of your spiritual foundation (if she's Christian), if she's not, bring her to Christ as everyone deserves a chance.

Both of you will need deliverance from whatever marine demons you picked up from the relationship.

I heard the words 'cursed' on her behalf so Satan sent her to you and set you up.

I wish I was kidding but not many know this information or they refuse to believe it because they really don't know how God operates nor His spiritual laws. It's a ministry of justice and government and operates as such.

It's why divorce rate is so high amongst Christians and have relationship problems due to past sexual sins or that of their ancestors. Most of them wind up in Sheol because of dowries, covenants, spiritual altars, demonic spirit spouses and demonic spirit children (aka monitoring spirits), etc. because these sins are left unrepentant and think they can move on to the next person only to have it start all over again destroying their next relationship or eventually death.

Google spirit husbands and spirit wives and you'll see more information.

If you're still dealing with anything else, ask God to reveal it to you in your sleep so you can ask Him how to remove it from your life.

Blessings and shalom,

 

[Antig]

Thats an interesting reply Bro Dan

 

[dysert]

It seems clear to me that you are obsessed and infatuated with this woman. You *know* she's no good for you, yet because of your loneliness you take her because she's easy. You have to man-up and take control of your life.

You're going to be lonely for a while, but you have to learn to live with it until you find the right woman for you. (Or develop some meaningful friendships.) Tell her that you really need to break it off with her, and then follow through. Don't take her calls. Don't respond to her texts. Don't contact her. After a few weeks of this she should get the idea that you mean business and start leaving you alone.

There are worse things than being lonely. For example getting an STD or getting her pregnant. These are *real* possibilities given the track you're on now. Cut the cord.

 

[Sketcher]

I was lonely. I don't have any friends right now.
It's always been her that has came back to me via a text message or phone call
and next thing you know we're talking again or one time she left a belonging in my car.
I started back talking once myself.

OK. I think you need to make some friends. A core group of Christian men that you can hang out with and share things with. This will take time to cultivate, especially with the sharing. But you absolutely need it.

 

[Kit Sigmon]

Hello everyone. First let me say, I am terrible sorry if this is in the wrong section.
I browsed the forum for a good 25 minutes trying to figure out where.

Anyway, I met this woman close to 2 years ago. I learned quickly then that she wasn't wife material. I should have stopped talking to her then but I was lonely at the time so I kept seeing her. She's even told me then that she was just "being a harlot" and she had no intentions of a second date with me. This woman smokes weed, drinks, the whole shebang. We have vastly diffierent views on sex, sin, and homosexuality, and all the controversial stuff. But it happened anyway. Some sexual things went down on the first date and normally I wouldn't be into that sort of thing but I was going through a rough patch in my faith.

I was completely pure when I had first met her.

Sorry but you weren't completely pure. You in spiritual rebellion...'cause if you be following Jesus, you wouldn't pursued her and kept at it for as long as you
have done. You were in drift mode when you met up.
You made the choice to "flirt" with ungodliness and continued doing that.
Claiming loneliness is an excuse for doing what you be knowing ain't
right/ and or godly...I know because I've been there /done that myself and
repented of it.
I'm being straight up honest here.
There plenty other things one can do when they be lonely...such as connecting with other believers, helping out at a shelter or soup kitchen, being a Big Brother/Big Sister, visiting shut ins, helping the disabled, learn to be a mentor/
advisor and or christian life coach--help others, etc.
The same effort one puts forth to pursue ungodly things, that same effort can
be put forth to pursue godly things.


I've fallen quite a ways since then. I've been getting more and more "like your average person" and its honestly scarring me. It's like she has some sort of aura to her and I dunno. I am convinced it might be some sort of spirit or something. Anyway, We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life. Anyway, needless to say, I am no longer pure and its debateable if I'm even a virgin anymore, leading more towards no. I won't get into detail about that since its beside my point.
But I had told her from day one that I was trying to remain pure until marriage and she would continually press and press and make me cave in more and more.

When you pursue ungodliness, all you doing is sowing to your flesh, and from the flesh you reap more of the same...it's what the Bible says will happen when a believer do that...read: Galatians 6:7-8, Romans 6:1, Job 4:8...
Please, REPENT of that asap if you haven't done that yet.

I'm trying to keep this short. I'm not going to blame her that I lost my purity because ultimately it was my decision to stay with her after the first couple of dates. But I've changed so much since I first met her. And I'm just so ashamed of all the things I've allowed myself to do. But, she does have some good qualities but the bad qualities are very, big ones. She keeps telling me that she believes God wants me and her to be together. I honestly don't know. I couldn't see how because not many good things have come from her. Any advice anyone? Is it me or am I right to want her out of my life?

The woman told you about herself early on... which all be code for: she's at rock bottom and clinging to the man who allowed himself to be lured away by lust/ his flesh....and she keeps bombarding you with her crafty words and ways so to break
you down and you give in and marry up with her.

Don't allow this woman to further entangle you in her messy web...she got her own messes to be repented of/worked out way before she should even be pursuing a marital relationship... and you also have your own hot mess to be worked out/ and fully repented of before you pursue a marital relationship.
2 Corinthians 6:14
2 Peter 3:9.

 

[XD005]

I beg to differ. Obviously, I mean sexually pure. Nobody is perfect.
But regardless, what has happened is already in the past.
Initially, I was saving myself for marriage. Literally, every I knew was against my decision
and had told me that nobody does that anymore, etc, etc. I had difficulties in the past dealing with
a partner that had a sexual past. And I think if anything, I had given up. Sometimes you just need someone to be in your corner and keep you on track. I didn't have that. And I've been struggling with loneliness for close to 10 years. It was a moment of weakness. I was reminded why I decided to wait in the 1st place.
Honestly, I think where I messed up ultimately was prolonging the relationship even after all the other stuff had happened when I knew deep in my heart that it wasn't right. Honestly, I'm convinced this girl has a Jezebel spirit. Because even after telling her that I don't like the sexual deviant I've become today and that I want to be more like how I was in the past, she rationalizes my behavior and dosen't admit any faults on her part. I get it, at the end of the day, I am responsible for myself. But if she was truly a godly woman, she would not have allowed things to go as far as they have.

I don't know. I just feel so horrible now because I've lost the thing I held so dear to myself for so many years. I intended to marry and share my virginity with my future wife but now thats all out the window. Worse of all its my fault because I gave up on my beliefs and didn't believe that God would ever send me the wife I desired. I don't know what God has in store for me but this is something I'm going to have to live with now and it could have been avoided. I'm not going to blame this on my lack of support or encouragement but it is what it is. I just hope that whoever my wife ends up being, she dosen't have the same problems I had in the past in dealing with a lack of virginity.

Thanks for all the answers though, everyone.

 

[JoeyChris]

Ok. I went through exactly what you did with my ex. Difference is that I was extremely sexually active.

From 1990-1992 I broke up with him 5 times.The final one worked because I went away from the town for 3 weeks for a university placement. Thank goodness I didn't have a mobile phone.

I literally went through physical withdrawals and cravings. Yes it was that bad. I got one phone call approx 2nd week because he tracked down the student quarters phone number.

If you are **genuine** and truly wish to break up with her, change phone number or throw away your mobile phone as last resort.
Move houses and only tell people who deserve to know. No loopholes or fine print.

You must cut supply NOW. You will go through withdrawals. You have to decide if you truly wish to break up with her or whether you will secretly continue to justify your sinful relationship.

 

[LoricaLady]

Hello everyone. First let me say, I am terrible sorry if this is in the wrong section.
I browsed the forum for a good 25 minutes trying to figure out where.

Anyway, I met this woman close to 2 years ago. I learned quickly then that she wasn't wife material. I should have stopped talking to her then but I was lonely at the time so I kept seeing her. She's even told me then that she was just "being a harlot" and she had no intentions of a second date with me. This woman smokes weed, drinks, the whole shebang. We have vastly diffierent views on sex, sin, and homosexuality, and all the controversial stuff. But it happened anyway. Some sexual things went down on the first date and normally I wouldn't be into that sort of thing but I was going through a rough patch in my faith.

I was completely pure when I had first met her. I've fallen quite a ways since then. I've been getting more and more "like your average person" and its honestly scarring me. It's like she has some sort of aura to her and I dunno. I am convinced it might be some sort of spirit or something. Anyway, We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life. Anyway, needless to say, I am no longer pure and its debateable if I'm even a virgin anymore, leading more towards no. I won't get into detail about that since its beside my point.
But I had told her from day one that I was trying to remain pure until marriage and she would continually press and press and make me cave in more and more.

I'm trying to keep this short. I'm not going to blame her that I lost my purity because ultimately it was my decision to stay with her after the first couple of dates. But I've changed so much since I first met her. And I'm just so ashamed of all the things I've allowed myself to do. But, she does have some good qualities but the bad qualities are very, big ones. She keeps telling me that she believes God wants me and her to be together. I honestly don't know. I couldn't see how because not many good things have come from her. Any advice anyone? Is it me or am I right to want her out of my life?

Ain't anyway the Almighty wants you to be with that woman. You know that. Be firm. Say goodbye. Pray for strength.

 

[Andrew77]

Hello everyone. First let me say, I am terrible sorry if this is in the wrong section.
I browsed the forum for a good 25 minutes trying to figure out where.

Anyway, I met this woman close to 2 years ago. I learned quickly then that she wasn't wife material. I should have stopped talking to her then but I was lonely at the time so I kept seeing her. She's even told me then that she was just "being a harlot" and she had no intentions of a second date with me. This woman smokes weed, drinks, the whole shebang. We have vastly diffierent views on sex, sin, and homosexuality, and all the controversial stuff. But it happened anyway. Some sexual things went down on the first date and normally I wouldn't be into that sort of thing but I was going through a rough patch in my faith.

I was completely pure when I had first met her. I've fallen quite a ways since then. I've been getting more and more "like your average person" and its honestly scarring me. It's like she has some sort of aura to her and I dunno. I am convinced it might be some sort of spirit or something. Anyway, We've broken up at least 4 times and she keeps forcing herself back in my life. Anyway, needless to say, I am no longer pure and its debateable if I'm even a virgin anymore, leading more towards no. I won't get into detail about that since its beside my point.
But I had told her from day one that I was trying to remain pure until marriage and she would continually press and press and make me cave in more and more.

I'm trying to keep this short. I'm not going to blame her that I lost my purity because ultimately it was my decision to stay with her after the first couple of dates. But I've changed so much since I first met her. And I'm just so ashamed of all the things I've allowed myself to do. But, she does have some good qualities but the bad qualities are very, big ones. She keeps telling me that she believes God wants me and her to be together. I honestly don't know. I couldn't see how because not many good things have come from her. Any advice anyone? Is it me or am I right to want her out of my life?

Yeah...... no, you want her out of your life. This is the Proverbs 5:5 lady that Solomon warned over and over about.

First, stop debating about your virginity. You need to cut that garbage out of your mind completely. Does your status, matter to your morality? No. It does not. That would be like the Apostle Paul saying "Well I'm kind of a murderer already so....."

Whether you are, or are not, doesn't matter. You need to live right going forward.

Second, you need to cut all contact, all connection to this woman, 100%. Block all chat, all text, all phone numbers. Block her facebook, her email, her whatsapp. Zero connection. You need to run from this evil, like it is a wild bear about to tear you limb from limb.

Do you understand? 100%. ZERO connection. You need to have cancer surgery on your life, and cut this cancerous woman out completely. You have to do this. Or you are going to burn up 10 or 20 years of your life in filth and waste. She will ruin you... for decades.

And every single year of misery with this lady, you could spend with a loving woman that would be your real mate. Don't destroy years of your life.... like I did. Just telling you the truth.

Third, stop with the over spirituality. Stop with the 'aura' garbage. That's simply your mind rationalizing your choices, by mixing bad events with fake spirituality. Cut that non-sense out. "He who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing". "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies."

We have already established she is not of noble character. Stop playing with the pigs, and go find yourself your very own rubies. Love the rubies, not the pigs.

And don't buy this "she believes in G-d"..... yeah, the Devil himself believes in G-d, and wants you and him to be together, too. No. Ditch the swine, and find yourself a pair of rubies on a woman for you.

Seriously dude, it's time to choose to be a man of G-d, and make a choice. Choose wisely. You can do this. Yeah it's going to be hard, but a pair of rubies is worth a million swine.

 

[XD005]

Yeah...... no, you want her out of your life. This is the Proverbs 5:5 lady that Solomon warned over and over about.

First, stop debating about your virginity. You need to cut that garbage out of your mind completely. Does your status, matter to your morality? No. It does not. That would be like the Apostle Paul saying "Well I'm kind of a murderer already so....."

Whether you are, or are not, doesn't matter. You need to live right going forward.

Second, you need to cut all contact, all connection to this woman, 100%. Block all chat, all text, all phone numbers. Block her facebook, her email, her whatsapp. Zero connection. You need to run from this evil, like it is a wild bear about to tear you limb from limb.

Do you understand? 100%. ZERO connection. You need to have cancer surgery on your life, and cut this cancerous woman out completely. You have to do this. Or you are going to burn up 10 or 20 years of your life in filth and waste. She will ruin you... for decades.

And every single year of misery with this lady, you could spend with a loving woman that would be your real mate. Don't destroy years of your life.... like I did. Just telling you the truth.

Third, stop with the over spirituality. Stop with the 'aura' garbage. That's simply your mind rationalizing your choices, by mixing bad events with fake spirituality. Cut that non-sense out. "He who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing". "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies."

We have already established she is not of noble character. Stop playing with the pigs, and go find yourself your very own rubies. Love the rubies, not the pigs.

And don't buy this "she believes in G-d"..... yeah, the Devil himself believes in G-d, and wants you and him to be together, too. No. Ditch the swine, and find yourself a pair of rubies on a woman for you.

Seriously dude, it's time to choose to be a man of G-d, and make a choice. Choose wisely. You can do this. Yeah it's going to be hard, but a pair of rubies is worth a million swine.

I wasn't rationalizing it. I was saying she gives off a bad aura. Like it dosen't feel right.
But, yeah, your right. Aside from the whole sexual things smoking weed (and not even realizing its wrong), drinking, and just generally being worldly is not very Christian-like either. I'm going to be lonely and miserable again especially with Valentines day coming up but in the long run, it is the better decision.
Mark 9:47 talks about this. I could be blocking my blessings with who I am really supposed to be with. There isn't much going on in the way of romantic feelings for this woman either. I don't respect her. You can't have any feelings for someone you don't respect.

Time does indeed fly by. I've already known her for 2 years.
2 could easily turn into 4 and 4 into 8. Yeah, your right.

 

[Andrew77]

I wasn't rationalizing it. I was saying she gives off a bad aura. Like it dosen't feel right.
But, yeah, your right. Aside from the whole sexual things smoking weed (and not even realizing its wrong), drinking, and just generally being worldly is not very Christian-like either. I'm going to be lonely and miserable again especially with Valentines day coming up but in the long run, it is the better decision.
Mark 9:47 talks about this. I could be blocking my blessings with who I am really supposed to be with. There isn't much going on in the way of romantic feelings for this woman either. I don't respect her. You can't have any feelings for someone you don't respect.

Time does indeed fly by. I've already known her for 2 years.
2 could easily turn into 4 and 4 into 8. Yeah, your right.

I like to go on long walks through forest areas. I love the long trails through national parks. The key problem with the longer trails is that sometimes the signs and trail markers are not always perfectly clear. Sometimes you end up walking half a mile, only to find out you are on the wrong trail.

The part that sucks, is not going down the correct trail, it's that you have to turn around, and head right back down the wrong trail you were on. You have to back track all your steps until you are back where you started on the wrong path.

And the key is, you have to turn around the moment you find out you are on the wrong trail, because the longer you stay on it, the longer it will take you to get back to where you need to be.

Brother, you are on the wrong trail. The longer you are on that trail, the longer it will take you to get back to where you need to be.

Yeah, heading back over the same places you just came form is painful and lonely, but until you do, you can't get to good trail that leads to a good place. Turn around now my friend. Run while you are thinking clearly.