I agree Tigger, and that is why even though we probably do have our disagreements as do our churches, I would consider you a brother in Christ. We can understand the Word of God as our conscience dictates, but there are some things a Christian should not do, because they are pharisaical.
My pastor is from a conservative LCMS background, is married to a Catholic wife and he holds views very much along traditional lines, at least he used to. We don't talk about sexual ethics much and I don't know precisely his views of the subject, and I'm not sure honestly I need to know. We are walking together even though we probably do not necessarily agree. The real magic of being a Christian is not in being right, but loving each other and helping each other grow into the image of God.
But one thing the pastor never would have done is tell a gay man he barely knows or doesn't know well and start telling him about how they needs to repent, leave their same sex relationship even if it wrecks their life, etc. That goes against Lutheran ethics and our sensibilities, it's not hospitable. We are far more tolerant than that, just because we recognize none of us is really righteous on our own. He used to be a lawyer and he's seen horrible things, "Nothing two guys do with a penis can come close", as he said.
My pastors attitude is that he has things to learn from everyone and his job is to help accompany people where they are at, that God does the real work. It's not to dictate to people every aspect of their lives, or force people to agree with him.
That's why I joined this church in the end, it was such a change from going to a church where every aspect of your life had to be perfect or you were expected to practically wear sackcloth and ashes the rest of your life. Where holiness was forced on your constantly, no matter how heavy your cross. God lead me to this church, and I experienced something profound one Pentecost where God showed me this was the real deal and I needed to stop being so cynical. A church doesn't have to be about rigid certainties, straight answers, or moral rectitude to be the exact place God wants you to be.