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I have endured many attacks throughout my Christian walk and now I'm facing another. I have severe disabilities from a medical injury and live with daily pain; although I am greatly blessed with a good husband and healthy adult children and grandson. I am facing a serious situation where my unsaved sister along with her corrupt lawyer have tried to steal some money left to me by my father, as she is Executrix. It has gone on for 7 long months and is due to go to court Dec. 6th. I received the lawyers brief and it was so packed with lies I couldn't read it right away - my husband & I couldn't sleep. I don't have a lot of money to hire a lawyer and have to represent myself but am now wondering if I should spend the money for a lawyer. My sister got angry and threatened to keep money my father left me because I told her to stop harassing my children. She used my father's estate money as her own to harass me with. She hired a lawyer who attempted to intimidate, trick, and strong arm me into signing their corrupt document. I refused as a lawyer told me they aren't allowed to alter a will.

When that wouldn't work my mentally ill sister harassed my children and daughter in law by text, email, and FB trying to turn them against me. I put up with their abuse for 7 months. I finally filed a complaint with the court and we are scheduled to go on the 6th.

My husband didn't want to spend money on a lawyer but I'm re-thinking it because that corrupt lawyer is trying to get me to pay his legal fees when he broke the law by threatening me. I'm concerned the system is corrupt and the judge may not be honest and I'm wondering if I should hire a lawyer. Can anyone offer me any advice?
 

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I have endured many attacks throughout my Christian walk and now I'm facing another. I have severe disabilities from a medical injury and live with daily pain; although I am greatly blessed with a good husband and healthy adult children and grandson. I am facing a serious situation where my unsaved sister along with her corrupt lawyer have tried to steal some money left to me by my father, as she is Executrix. It has gone on for 7 long months and is due to go to court Dec. 6th. I received the lawyers brief and it was so packed with lies I couldn't read it right away - my husband & I couldn't sleep. I don't have a lot of money to hire a lawyer and have to represent myself but am now wondering if I should spend the money for a lawyer. My sister got angry and threatened to keep money my father left me because I told her to stop harassing my children. She used my father's estate money as her own to harass me with. She hired a lawyer who attempted to intimidate, trick, and strong arm me into signing their corrupt document. I refused as a lawyer told me they aren't allowed to alter a will.

When that wouldn't work my mentally ill sister harassed my children and daughter in law by text, email, and FB trying to turn them against me. I put up with their abuse for 7 months. I finally filed a complaint with the court and we are scheduled to go on the 6th.

My husband didn't want to spend money on a lawyer but I'm re-thinking it because that corrupt lawyer is trying to get me to pay his legal fees when he broke the law by threatening me. I'm concerned the system is corrupt and the judge may not be honest and I'm wondering if I should hire a lawyer. Can anyone offer me any advice?
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You would be better off having a Lawyer and spending the money it would take to make sure your represented properly.

No the Courts are not corrupt, if you have a good enough Lawyer to explain what has happened, the court will judge righteously.

First put you Faith and Trust in the Lord, and let Him deal with it.

God Bless

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I don't know for sure, but I have heard, that if your sister was given something in the Will even if it is as little as $1.00 the Will then cannot be contested by her.
Hope that is true and that she did get something.:prayer:
 
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Want of money and family often don't mix well. I would block her from all social media and have my family do the same if I were you. Don't engage; stop responding to her. If it's not a lot of money (or even if it is) I would consider just letting it go for peace of mind. No matter if family or yourself is Christian or unsaved, arguments over money and what is what and whose can get really ugly and people act like rabid dogs fighting over a piece of meat. Perhaps how you respond to your sister , will have a positive effect for the Lord in her life. If it were me, I would consider the cost of what this battle over money will do and proceed with caution. Sometimes in the midst of hard or hateful situations it's easy to get caught up in how you were wronged and making people pay for it however petty a way. Examine yourself, pray, and weigh what you are willing to pay in order to win some money. If you do hire a lawyer, all contact with her and her lawyers should be done by your lawyer; not you.
 
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You would be better off having a Lawyer and spending the money it would take to make sure your represented properly.

No the Courts are not corrupt, if you have a good enough Lawyer to explain what has happened, the court will judge righteously.

First put you Faith and Trust in the Lord, and let Him deal with it.

God Bless

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I don't know for sure, but I have heard, that if your sister was given something in the Will even if it is as little as $1.00 the Will then cannot be contested by her.
Hope that is true and that she did get something.:prayer:
Thank you. I called the court and spoke with a clerk there and she remarked: "Well...you know...the lawyer IS Joe H***man." So that gave me pause. It made my temper flare and I said I don't care who the lawyer is, they did wrong!" I don't care for the firm's owner because we used him for a case for our son. That arrogant lawyer made a nasty crack about my son. To keep peace I kept silent until I had another encounter with that lawyer and I told him that it was known that his son was dealing drugs in town and he had no right to say anything about my son. He claims to be a Christian but I told him he was like the Pharisee: "The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: 'God, I thank you that I am not like other people--robbers, evildoers, adulterers--or even like this tax collector."

He threatened to sue me! He's arrogant - he thinks he can talk trash on others' kids but don't you dare say anything about HIS kid. The worst part is that he was the only lawyer in town and he made MILLIONS off of representing kids in town for drug offenses - that his son sold drugs to! And every other kid has a record and his son was slick enough to not get caught and is now a lawyer.

So that's what I'm dealing with.
 
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You would be better off having a Lawyer and spending the money it would take to make sure your represented properly.

No the Courts are not corrupt, if you have a good enough Lawyer to explain what has happened, the court will judge righteously.

First put you Faith and Trust in the Lord, and let Him deal with it.

God Bless

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I don't know for sure, but I have heard, that if your sister was given something in the Will even if it is as little as $1.00 the Will then cannot be contested by her.
Hope that is true and that she did get something.:prayer:
I have been praying a lot to God. It has gotten very ugly and I tried to make peace but they refuse.

I'm unsure what you mean about her given something in the will?

She did not give me anything from my father's home2 - my mother had china, they had old Christmas antiques, and who knows what else. I requested an accounting but they refused to provide it. Her lawyer is seeking to NOT have an accounting - doesn't that sound suspicious?
 
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Want of money and family often don't mix well. I would block her from all social media and have my family do the same if I were you. Don't engage; stop responding to her. If it's not a lot of money (or even if it is) I would consider just letting it go for peace of mind. No matter if family or yourself is Christian or unsaved, arguments over money and what is what and whose can get really ugly and people act like rabid dogs fighting over a piece of meat. Perhaps how you respond to your sister , will have a positive effect for the Lord in her life. If it were me, I would consider the cost of what this battle over money will do and proceed with caution. Sometimes in the midst of hard or hateful situations it's easy to get caught up in how you were wronged and making people pay for it however petty a way. Examine yourself, pray, and weigh what you are willing to pay in order to win some money. If you do hire a lawyer, all contact with her and her lawyers should be done by your lawyer; not you.
Yes money does strange things to people. Her motives were to harm me - we printed a text threat she made to me 3 days after my father died where I told her to stop contacting my children because she was causing trouble. She is so arrogant and did not care one iota if we were being hurt - she said: "YOU don't get it! I contact who I want!" So that speaks volumes. It's all about ME and what I want! She unconscionably kept contacting my children causing much grief.

Then I was given no items from my father's house. I'm concerned she may have kept other money from me. All requests for accounting have gone unanswered.

It is costing my husband & I much grief but I'm not going to allow them to destroy my character and name. I don't believe God calls us to be doormats. This is a hard call - which is why I asked for others' opinions - which I very much appreciate. I have thought that maybe I should have let it go back when I finally got them to agree to my full disbursement. But then the crooked lawyer tacked on $2k MORE for his "work" of issuing me threats! After putting me through 7 months of hell that was a slap in the face. He acted illegally by threatening me and then wants to get paid for his illegal actions! So I insisted it be taken off and they refused. I could have let it go but they were predatory charges by the corrupt lawyer - attempting to enrich himself by doing acts against the law! I'm in the right but the only think I'm cautious of is whether the judge is going to be corrupt or honest. PLEASE pray I get an honest judge!
 
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I'm unsure what you mean about her given something in the will?

She did not give me anything from my father's home2 - my mother had china, they had old Christmas antiques, and who knows what else. I requested an accounting but they refused to provide it. Her lawyer is seeking to NOT have an accounting - doesn't that sound suspicious?
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What my understanding is, a person makes a Will and leaves possessions or money to each of his children, but doesn't leave anything to one child, that child can then contest the Will, in order to get something from the Court.

But if a Will is made and everyone does get something, then the Will cannot be contested, even if all that one child got was $1.00 because they did receive what the person who wrote the Will wanted them to have.

I don't know if that is true or not, but check it out with a Lawyer, and make sure you do get a Lawyer otherwise you might as well not show up at Court.

At this point all you can do is protect yourself, your sister has already determined her course of action, and become your enemy,by doing what she thinks is best for her, if you don't do anything, you will still have lost you sister.

You need a Lawyer if for no other reason than to protect your rights, and Interests, and to check whether or not the Will has been tampered with, and that the Stipulations in the Will are being carried out the way your Father wanted.

Are you going to
1) Small Claims Court
2) Probate Court.
 
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What my understanding is, a person makes a Will and leaves possessions or money to each of his children, but doesn't leave anything to one child, that child can then contest the Will, in order to get something from the Court.

But if a Will is made and everyone does get something, then the Will cannot be contested, even if all that one child got was $1.00 because they did receive what the person who wrote the Will wanted them to have.

I don't know if that is true or not, but check it out with a Lawyer, and make sure you do get a Lawyer otherwise you might as well not show up at Court.

At this point all you can do is protect yourself, your sister has already determined her course of action, and become your enemy,by doing what she thinks is best for her, if you don't do anything, you will still have lost you sister.

You need a Lawyer if for no other reason than to protect your rights, and Interests, and to check whether or not the Will has been tampered with, and that the Stipulations in the Will are being carried out the way your Father wanted.

Are you going to
1) Small Claims Court
2) Probate Court.
The will was simple: everything divided equally among heirs. Why do you say get a lawyer or may as well not show up in court?

Thanks for clarifying that. All I can do at this point is protect myself - she has chosen to become my enemy - and she is definitely doing what is best for her - she and her lawyer attacked me viciously with lie after lie. She even used my brother - who has some head issues from drugs to join her in her evil. She's opening him to satanic assault because she got him to lie. I feel sorry for him but he made his own choices. You're right - no matter which way I have lost her. I made a final appeal for her to turn this around and she refuses. I'm wondering if she tampered with other money left for me. I repeatedly asked for a full accounting and that was ignored. Her lawyer asked that an accounting be denied. Don't you find that fishy?
 
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The will was simple: everything divided equally among heirs. Why do you say get a lawyer or may as well not show up in court?

Thanks for clarifying that. All I can do at this point is protect myself - she has chosen to become my enemy - and she is definitely doing what is best for her - she and her lawyer attacked me viciously with lie after lie. She even used my brother - who has some head issues from drugs to join her in her evil. She's opening him to satanic assault because she got him to lie. I feel sorry for him but he made his own choices. You're right - no matter which way I have lost her. I made a final appeal for her to turn this around and she refuses. I'm wondering if she tampered with other money left for me. I repeatedly asked for a full accounting and that was ignored. Her lawyer asked that an accounting be denied. Don't you find that fishy?
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Everything you have just said is the reason I said Get a Lawyer, otherwise you do not know all of the Legal tricks a lawyer can pull , and you will not know what is taking place until your out in the street with nothing to show for it.

It's not rigged, it's not illegal, but the Practice of the Law is a Chess game, and if you don't get someone who is a Master Chess Player, then you will ultimately loose.

You need someone who knows what they are doing in a Court, in order for your Interests to be protected, and to check out your beliefs as to any tampering with the Will or money.
 
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You should at least consult with a lawyer. If you have several negative encounters in a courtroom setting with your sister's lawyer and these are things on record; it might not go well in your favor unless you have legal representation. Try to have self control and not have any outbursts in court or it will reflect badly on your side to a judge. If you want to have any kind of chance; do not let your own behavior be your downfall.
 
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I have endured many attacks throughout my Christian walk and now I'm facing another. I have severe disabilities from a medical injury and live with daily pain; although I am greatly blessed with a good husband and healthy adult children and grandson. I am facing a serious situation where my unsaved sister along with her corrupt lawyer have tried to steal some money left to me by my father, as she is Executrix. It has gone on for 7 long months and is due to go to court Dec. 6th. I received the lawyers brief and it was so packed with lies I couldn't read it right away - my husband & I couldn't sleep. I don't have a lot of money to hire a lawyer and have to represent myself but am now wondering if I should spend the money for a lawyer. My sister got angry and threatened to keep money my father left me because I told her to stop harassing my children. She used my father's estate money as her own to harass me with. She hired a lawyer who attempted to intimidate, trick, and strong arm me into signing their corrupt document. I refused as a lawyer told me they aren't allowed to alter a will.

When that wouldn't work my mentally ill sister harassed my children and daughter in law by text, email, and FB trying to turn them against me. I put up with their abuse for 7 months. I finally filed a complaint with the court and we are scheduled to go on the 6th.

My husband didn't want to spend money on a lawyer but I'm re-thinking it because that corrupt lawyer is trying to get me to pay his legal fees when he broke the law by threatening me. I'm concerned the system is corrupt and the judge may not be honest and I'm wondering if I should hire a lawyer. Can anyone offer me any advice?

Matthew 5:38-42
38 "You have heard that it was said, 'An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.'
39 But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also.
40 If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also.
41 And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two.
42 Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.


1 Corinthians 6:7-9
7 Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? Why do you not rather let yourselves be cheated?
8 No, you yourselves do wrong and cheat, and you do these things to your brethren!
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?...


Philippians 4:19
19 And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.
 
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The whole thing sounds fishy to me, your mentally ill sister is the executrix?

Why in the world would anybody want to keep themselves open for attack on
social media? my stars! I would of closed out the social media accounts and
gotten a new phone number and hired a lawyer to handle the will business.

Hostile sister can talk to your lawyer...all of this sounds like the "Bickersons"
...everybody involved just stirring the pot and keeping stuff going which is
silly because the so called "big name lawyer" is going to end up with all the
money.
Big name lawyers get fat paychecks and they love this type of stuff,
the longer you and your sister be carrying on the more money they make.

 
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Everything you have just said is the reason I said Get a Lawyer, otherwise you do not know all of the Legal tricks a lawyer can pull , and you will not know what is taking place until your out in the street with nothing to show for it.

It's not rigged, it's not illegal, but the Practice of the Law is a Chess game, and if you don't get someone who is a Master Chess Player, then you will ultimately loose.

You need someone who knows what they are doing in a Court, in order for your Interests to be protected, and to check out your beliefs as to any tampering with the Will or money.
I waited too long - court is day after tomorrow. My husband didn't want to spend the money. We had another time we went to court and my husband did a good job. Please pray for us. I am concerned because my sister and the lawyer are prolific liars and I'm afraid without a lawyer we'll be vulnerable. We're friends with a judge who told us they are not allowed to alter a will. I did confer with a lawyer who does probate who told me the same thing. Please pray for us - this has taken a toll. Satan has been busy. Please pray for us to prevail.
 
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I hate it anytime I have to talk to or hire a lawyer.

But, with your situation here if you don't hire a lawyer you can expect to get a real whipping.

So many families show their dishonesty and are torn apart when these inheritance money issues come up.

M-Bob
 
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I hate it anytime I have to talk to or hire a lawyer.

But, with your situation here if you don't hire a lawyer you can expect to get a real whipping.

So many families show their dishonesty and are torn apart when these inheritance money issues come up.

M-Bob
It's too late to hire a lawyer - please pray for us. Scripture says "the kings heart is in the hand of the Lord." Please pray God will move on that judges heart so he'll do what's right.
 
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If your sister wins then it's her reward right here on earth. That's it, nothing of this world is going beyond here anyway. Our actions here on earth have more value in heaven than any property . I know someone who stole her mothers modular retirement home because it was built on their property. They claimed it so to speak, So while the mother was away visiting people over seas for a couple of months they moved it to their lake camp property. The mother came back to a vacant lot. The natural mans heart is terribly deceitful.
 
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Thank you. I called the court and spoke with a clerk there and she remarked: "Well...you know...the lawyer IS Joe H***man." So that gave me pause. It made my temper flare and I said I don't care who the lawyer is, they did wrong!" I don't care for the firm's owner because we used him for a case for our son. That arrogant lawyer made a nasty crack about my son. To keep peace I kept silent until I had another encounter with that lawyer and I told him that it was known that his son was dealing drugs in town and he had no right to say anything about my son. He claims to be a Christian but I told him he was like the Pharisee: "The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: 'God, I thank you that I am not like other people--robbers, evildoers, adulterers--or even like this tax collector."

He threatened to sue me! He's arrogant - he thinks he can talk trash on others' kids but don't you dare say anything about HIS kid. The worst part is that he was the only lawyer in town and he made MILLIONS off of representing kids in town for drug offenses - that his son sold drugs to! And every other kid has a record and his son was slick enough to not get caught and is now a lawyer.

So that's what I'm dealing with.
If you are this upset before you go to court, then if you represent yourself than you are already emotional. Because judges don't really like all the emotional stuff and want to keep their court professional.
 
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It's too late to hire a lawyer - please pray for us. Scripture says "the kings heart is in the hand of the Lord." Please pray God will move on that judges heart so he'll do what's right.
Maybe you can go to court and ask if the case can be postponed for a week so you can get a lawyer?
 
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I have endured many attacks throughout my Christian walk and now I'm facing another. I have severe disabilities from a medical injury and live with daily pain; although I am greatly blessed with a good husband and healthy adult children and grandson. I am facing a serious situation where my unsaved sister along with her corrupt lawyer have tried to steal some money left to me by my father, as she is Executrix. It has gone on for 7 long months and is due to go to court Dec. 6th. I received the lawyers brief and it was so packed with lies I couldn't read it right away - my husband & I couldn't sleep. I don't have a lot of money to hire a lawyer and have to represent myself but am now wondering if I should spend the money for a lawyer. My sister got angry and threatened to keep money my father left me because I told her to stop harassing my children. She used my father's estate money as her own to harass me with. She hired a lawyer who attempted to intimidate, trick, and strong arm me into signing their corrupt document. I refused as a lawyer told me they aren't allowed to alter a will.

When that wouldn't work my mentally ill sister harassed my children and daughter in law by text, email, and FB trying to turn them against me. I put up with their abuse for 7 months. I finally filed a complaint with the court and we are scheduled to go on the 6th.

My husband didn't want to spend money on a lawyer but I'm re-thinking it because that corrupt lawyer is trying to get me to pay his legal fees when he broke the law by threatening me. I'm concerned the system is corrupt and the judge may not be honest and I'm wondering if I should hire a lawyer. Can anyone offer me any advice?
I would ask around with a lot of people about any good lawyer out there. I would also search online for any legal advice related to you situation. I pray all works out well.
 
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