I Googled this keyword phrase, and you'll surprisingly see a very high amount
of complaints and articles regarding this topic.
Most notably though, if you scroll to the bottom of these articles, you'll see countless comments from people, typically in their 30s and 40s (or even older) complaining how their churches do not cater to singles over their mid-20s.
They compared it to being treated like a non-existent individual pretty much. It's almost as if you had no-status if you're not married...since churches tend to cater to mostly families and not singles.
This is why you rarely see a single person sitting in church and wind up finding or meeting their future partner outside of church, typically in the secular world of other social circles...either via work, friend of a friend going out on the town, etc.
Here's an excerpt from one of the commenters were getting tired of platitudes being thrown their direction like "You should be content in your singlehood". Some even shame you for desiring to marry.
Many Christians (usually the married ones, but also occasionally the pious Christian singles who are thrilled with being single) will shame you and give you guilt trips or horrid platitudes if you admit you would like to marry, or if you ask if they would pray that God send you a spouse. You will hear cliches from them such as "Jesus is all you need," "be content in your singleness," or some other cliche'.
Some churches frown upon the idea of singles groups as being a "pick-up" joint, and refuse to do it. Some people commented, "Isn't the idea of church is to bring single people together, get married, grow and prosper?"
Some Christian singles have convinced themselves that they might as well seek a future partner somewhere else outside of their church, likely not in a church venue.
Even in my recent post about the possibly attached woman, one of the men said, "Well, the group is not meant for dating."
I mean, you could say that about anywhere, really, "The library isn't meant for dating, but for reading"
But yet, I know people have met in a library and dated.
"The beach is meant for swimming and playing in the sand!"
"Really? My mom and dad met on the beach"
of complaints and articles regarding this topic.
Most notably though, if you scroll to the bottom of these articles, you'll see countless comments from people, typically in their 30s and 40s (or even older) complaining how their churches do not cater to singles over their mid-20s.
They compared it to being treated like a non-existent individual pretty much. It's almost as if you had no-status if you're not married...since churches tend to cater to mostly families and not singles.
This is why you rarely see a single person sitting in church and wind up finding or meeting their future partner outside of church, typically in the secular world of other social circles...either via work, friend of a friend going out on the town, etc.
Here's an excerpt from one of the commenters were getting tired of platitudes being thrown their direction like "You should be content in your singlehood". Some even shame you for desiring to marry.
Many Christians (usually the married ones, but also occasionally the pious Christian singles who are thrilled with being single) will shame you and give you guilt trips or horrid platitudes if you admit you would like to marry, or if you ask if they would pray that God send you a spouse. You will hear cliches from them such as "Jesus is all you need," "be content in your singleness," or some other cliche'.
Some churches frown upon the idea of singles groups as being a "pick-up" joint, and refuse to do it. Some people commented, "Isn't the idea of church is to bring single people together, get married, grow and prosper?"
Some Christian singles have convinced themselves that they might as well seek a future partner somewhere else outside of their church, likely not in a church venue.
Even in my recent post about the possibly attached woman, one of the men said, "Well, the group is not meant for dating."
I mean, you could say that about anywhere, really, "The library isn't meant for dating, but for reading"
But yet, I know people have met in a library and dated.
"The beach is meant for swimming and playing in the sand!"
"Really? My mom and dad met on the beach"