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I need advice please. Should I move out and end all contact with my toxic father?
My father claims to be a devout Christian, and he is also an ordained Christian minister, ordained in the Korean Presbyterian Church in America (KPCA).
My father is constantly verbally abusive to me, his eldest child.
My father wants to control my life.
My mother is not a controlling person, but she does not want me to move out of state to attend graduate school.
My mother and father both want me to live at home and attend a local graduate school....
Some background information:
I will be turning 38 this year. I am Korean-American, born and raised in the United States. My father is a 70 year old ordained Christian minister. (Just to clarify....my father was ordained as a Christian minister 20 years ago). I firmly believe that my father is a very legalistic Christian who uses Scripture/the Bible as a weapon of destruction.
Here is a legal definition of verbal abuse:
Verbal abuse is the use of words to cause harm to the person being spoken to. It is difficult to define and may take many forms. Similarly, the harm caused is often difficult to measure. The most commonly understood form is name-calling. Verbal abuse may consist of shouting, insulting, intimidating, threatening, shaming, demeaning, or derogatory language, among other forms of communication.
Perpetrators of verbal abuse often misuse their authority and prey on those in a subordinate position. Victims of verbal abuse are often told they are to blame for the abuser's behavior and reluctant to take action to end the abuse. Verbal abuse may lead to stress, depression, physical ailments, and other damage.
My father claims to be a devout Christian, and he is also an ordained Christian minister, ordained in the Korean Presbyterian Church in America (KPCA).
My father is constantly verbally abusive to me, his eldest child.
My father wants to control my life.
My mother is not a controlling person, but she does not want me to move out of state to attend graduate school.
My mother and father both want me to live at home and attend a local graduate school....
Some background information:
I will be turning 38 this year. I am Korean-American, born and raised in the United States. My father is a 70 year old ordained Christian minister. (Just to clarify....my father was ordained as a Christian minister 20 years ago). I firmly believe that my father is a very legalistic Christian who uses Scripture/the Bible as a weapon of destruction.
Here is a legal definition of verbal abuse:
Verbal abuse is the use of words to cause harm to the person being spoken to. It is difficult to define and may take many forms. Similarly, the harm caused is often difficult to measure. The most commonly understood form is name-calling. Verbal abuse may consist of shouting, insulting, intimidating, threatening, shaming, demeaning, or derogatory language, among other forms of communication.
Perpetrators of verbal abuse often misuse their authority and prey on those in a subordinate position. Victims of verbal abuse are often told they are to blame for the abuser's behavior and reluctant to take action to end the abuse. Verbal abuse may lead to stress, depression, physical ailments, and other damage.