faroukfarouk
Fading curmudgeon
Some useful, cautionary comments here. In my experience, such as it is, the ostensible attempts at the policing of church dress codes sometimes also comes with other interrelated and sometimes more hidden personality dynamics.Can there be different types of leadership? As well as a chain of leadership?
I think it is a very good thing to have some women in a church who can provide spiritual counseling to young women, because frankly there are some topics that most young women will not feel are appropriate to discuss with a man, even he is a Godly man, maybe especially if he is a Godly man, but those same young women might be able to open up more about their spiritual struggles in regards to temptations and whatnot if they could speak with a woman instead. It seems really no different from how a young man might be having some certain struggles that he would not feel are appropriate to discuss with a woman, no matter how old or faithful to God she has been or for how long.
But this also wouldn't necessarily have to mean that simultaneously, a woman in such a position has any ultimate authority over an entire demographic of the church, but rather she could run as a sort of encouraging buffer, i.e. she is there if young women need to discuss something with a woman, but then she (that woman) can go to receive further advice from a church elder, anonymously on behalf of the younger woman. So that it would ultimately be more of a service in helping younger women keep their faith and avoid sin, but not necessarily instructing those younger women on her own nor being presented as some sort of example for those young women.
As far as the bathing suit incident, I agree with some others here that the attitude as described, at least, seems to be more of an issue than the bathing suit itself, but then we also don't know how the topic was approached, either. Like did someone take her aside privately and explain to her the how/why as far as the bathing suit being potentially harmful to the youth, and then give her an opportunity to contemplate and agree, or was she ambushed with sheer judgement she was not expecting in front of others, perhaps causing her to become defensive in a panic? Etc. The details in this regard my help reveal whether or not she is still fit to serve as that sort of go-between for young women with sensitive concerns, and church elders, even if she does not yet have the maturity to be a leader in the sense of setting an example.
I just remember in the church of my childhood, there were youth leaders, but it was their job to be there for younger members who needed someone to talk to about spiritual struggles/advice when the youth were too uncomfortable going right to the pastor for whatever reasons, and there was a woman for the female youth and a man for the male youth, so that particularly sensitive topics were kept separate in that regard, out of respect for the youth, themselves, and also to help encourage their confidence in being open and honest about their struggles. The pastor ultimately gave advice, which was then passed down to the youth who needed the somewhat anonymous buffer in order to have the courage to open up about things.
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