What's wrong with a woman in her 40's who has never been married?

What's wrong with a woman in her 40's who has never been married?

  • Nothing.

    Votes: 9 90.0%
  • She must have something wrong mentally.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • She's probably a loser--socially awkward and weird.

    Votes: 1 10.0%
  • She was too picky.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • She was too focused on her career.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • She's probably gay.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • She's crazy.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    10

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It is not written ANYWHERE that a person has to marry.

1 Cor. 7:
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.

9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.KJV

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8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.NIV

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8 But to the unmarried people and to the widows, I declare that it is well (good, advantageous, expedient, and wholesome) for them to remain [single] even as I do.

9 But if they have not self-control (restraint of their passions), they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame [with passion and tortured continually with ungratified desire].AMPC
 
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It is not written ANYWHERE that a person has to marry.

1 Cor. 7:
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.

9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.KJV

1 Cor. 7:
8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.NIV

1 Cor. 7:
8 But to the unmarried people and to the widows, I declare that it is well (good, advantageous, expedient, and wholesome) for them to remain [single] even as I do.

9 But if they have not self-control (restraint of their passions), they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame [with passion and tortured continually with ungratified desire].AMPC

The problem with citing this as advice is that a person also has to FIND someone who she/he wants to marry and that person has to want to marry them too. Finding someone appropriate to marry is much more complicated than simply deciding that you want to be married.
 
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If I were to date someone who had never been married and is older than 40....I'd have to make my own assessment on why they hadn't got married yet. I'd do the same for someone who came out of a failed marriage because I'd want to understand why it failed. And I'd even look closely at a widowed person because their concept of "happy marriage" may be very different from mine.
 
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I only ask because I was talking with a guy that I met on an online dating site. He started making such a big deal because I've never been married. He said it was not normal for a woman to be my age and never married. He said he was concerned and wanted to know why I was still single. He kept asking, "How can I measure up to what you're looking for if you haven't found it yet?"
 
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I only ask because I was talking with a guy that I met on an online dating site. He started making such a big deal because I've never been married. He said it was not normal for a woman to be my age and never married. He said he was concerned and wanted to know why I was still single. He kept asking, "How can I measure up to what you're looking for if you haven't found it yet?"

I'd suggest that the same thing can be said about a divorced person....only they have the history of thinking that they found it and being mistaken.....
 
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Lybrah ... I wouldn't try to answer that question directly. I think it would be good to tell him to ask me out and lets see if we have any chemistry and you can figure out if I relate to you in a healthy way or not. Just as I'll be looking to see if you relate to me in a healthy way.
 
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Lybrah ... I wouldn't try to answer that question directly. I think it would be good to tell him to ask me out and lets see if we have any chemistry and you can figure out if I relate to you in a healthy way or not. Just as I'll be looking to see if you relate to me in a healthy way.

I ended up blocking him. He made me feel really bad.
 
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I ended up blocking him. He made me feel really bad.

Remember...he was as single as you are (or at least was saying he was...but that is a different issue if he was lying). There is nothing wrong with being single. Don't ever let anyone tell you there is...and truthfully, even though I'd like to find someone, there are definitely some very real advantages to being single.
 
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He kept asking, "How can I measure up to what you're looking for if you haven't found it yet?"

My 22-year-old reaction would have been 'I've been looking for someone more mature and less insecure than you'. Good on you that you blocked him.
 
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I only ask because I was talking with a guy that I met on an online dating site. He started making such a big deal because I've never been married. He said it was not normal for a woman to be my age and never married. He said he was concerned and wanted to know why I was still single. He kept asking, "How can I measure up to what you're looking for if you haven't found it yet?"

one thing I hate in this world is when people use the word "normal" to describe something that is simply "common". It's not common to be in your position but it's perfectly normal. It's not common to be in my position either as a 27 yr old never dated, virgin male but it's still normal because there are still plenty that are in my position. I had to start seeing myself the way God sees me to appreciate myself a bit more and not so much as the world sees me. God may be protecting you from something that may not be good for you. I believe this is the case with me. I felt for a while now that a wife may actually distract me from God and that isn't good. I don't know your situation though
 
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I am a relative good looking male who is in his 40's and has never been married but have chose to be single because I am selfish and don't want to take care of a woman, is there anything wrong with that? Probable is but I can live with it.

I don't even want a dog because I don't want to take care of it. Actually I do want a dog but I know I am terrible at taking care of things so I wont get one. If I had a wife I would get one because I could get her to take care of it but there is my dilemma, I don't want a wife because I am selfish. I do want a dog though but I need a wife to have one.
 
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