After nearly four years she had an affair with a guy I considers a friend.
We separated, reunited, and separated again until a few weeks ago when our divorce was final.
Being married to a BPD spouse is hard. She is diagnosed and has been in counseling. Right now she is seeing the guy she had an affair with.
Most advice I get is that I should feel lucky it only lasted four years and I'm out clean. That I should be grateful she is done with me and has moved on to a downgrade boyfriend.
Well I don't feel grateful or happy I'm done.
She was diagnosed with ten out of ten symptoms, her doctor said she was a textbook case. No medicine helps, she's in counseling but since the divorce was final a couple of weeks ago I've had to turn off her insurance.
Deep down I feel that without his constant interference we'd have a great shot at fixing things. That might be more wishful thinking than reality.
BPD is devasting to you, your self esteem, your identity.
I like reading the no nonsense posts from Shrink4men.com the doctor there helps a lot. She's very good and describes what you're going through to a T.
However that doesn't change the fact about how I feel right now
I feel lost, broke, damaged, and horrible.
We separated, reunited, and separated again until a few weeks ago when our divorce was final.
Being married to a BPD spouse is hard. She is diagnosed and has been in counseling. Right now she is seeing the guy she had an affair with.
Most advice I get is that I should feel lucky it only lasted four years and I'm out clean. That I should be grateful she is done with me and has moved on to a downgrade boyfriend.
Well I don't feel grateful or happy I'm done.
She was diagnosed with ten out of ten symptoms, her doctor said she was a textbook case. No medicine helps, she's in counseling but since the divorce was final a couple of weeks ago I've had to turn off her insurance.
Deep down I feel that without his constant interference we'd have a great shot at fixing things. That might be more wishful thinking than reality.
BPD is devasting to you, your self esteem, your identity.
I like reading the no nonsense posts from Shrink4men.com the doctor there helps a lot. She's very good and describes what you're going through to a T.
However that doesn't change the fact about how I feel right now
I feel lost, broke, damaged, and horrible.